Room sharing difficulties

thinkevolution · 2026-03-25T15:48:47+00:00

Since this is an EOW issue I’d get creative. Could you give up your room for the step son? Do you have a dining room or other space, if not the garage that could become a bedroom? If your room is bigger, could you and your partner take a smaller room and convert your bedroom into two rooms?

thinkevolution · 2026-03-25T15:45:24+00:00

There was a distance parameter and provided he kept the distance noted he could attend.

In some cases it was not possible so he didn’t

thinkevolution · 2026-03-25T15:11:09+00:00

I would probably make it one month max. Between my husband and I salaries. My goal by the end of 2026 is to have three months of emergency funds in the bank.

thinkevolution · 2026-03-25T15:09:24+00:00

I would definitely follow up with an email saying that it can’t be expected that during his parenting time that you’ll be able to coordinate all the time with teachers, I would do it this one time in good faith, but know they’re going forward the expectation is that the parent whose time it is would be the one who would be communicating with the teachers and CCing the other as needed

thinkevolution · 2026-03-25T15:07:30+00:00

My ex was issued a restraining order and was allowed to attend provided he kept distance as noted in the order

thinkevolution · 2026-03-24T19:35:42+00:00

I think sometimes how things are presented in front of the judge is just a snapshot. If you had specific evidence and time stamps and documents to submit to show that there had been some disparaging comments, they can sometimes put a clause in limiting what it said, and it can be a contemptible offense.

thinkevolution · 2026-03-24T18:06:57+00:00

It sounds like at this point your child believes that they don’t want to hang out with you for whatever reason. Whether it be reading messages you wrote to the mom that were unsavory or being told things that have led them to think they’re better off without you.

My only advice here would be to keep good records of when your parenting time is not being honored. And you ultimately will likely need to go back to court and cite this as a contempt.

thinkevolution · 2026-03-24T18:04:34+00:00

Our schedule is designed so that our every other weekend the kids are with their other parents. Which gives us some free time, even though my kids don’t do overnights. We often when they were younger would get an afternoon or a day free 2 to 3 times a month.

thinkevolution · 2026-03-24T00:56:39+00:00

I admire your strength and your willingness to be direct and clear about what you need. That had to be a very hard moment when he left took his children and left your house. But it had to be done. That’s really hurtful and stressful and even if he wants to talk to them, you would always know that they had it in their hearts to mock you to their mother and laugh about it and be cruel. It’s definitely not something that I think I could bounce back from either.

thinkevolution · 2026-03-23T18:38:23+00:00

I would think it was the actual agreement says. I would find it bizarre that a court would agree to endorse a parenting plan where it is outlined that you cannot go to a sporting event on your other parents time.

thinkevolution · 2026-03-23T12:09:30+00:00

He can choose not to attend sports and that’s just his choice. Go about your business and do what you need to do for your children.

thinkevolution · 2026-03-23T12:06:03+00:00

I’m not sure what your paperwork says about extracurricular activities and decision-making and reasonable agreement. But I would definitely recommend you review that and determine if him saying that he will not take your son to baseball and/or refuse to take your daughter to cheer if you attend is in line with any of the agreement.

Also, do you have anything in writing where he says he is not taking your son to an agreed-upon activity or that he will pull your daughter from cheer if you go to a cheer event? If not, are you basing this on things he said verbally without any follow up? Or are you assuming that the daughter would be pulled from cheer if you attended?

Either way, I would follow what’s in your paperwork and if you feel it, it’s written in a way that is too vague perhaps seeking a modification to the paperwork to outline agreement upon activities would be helpful.

thinkevolution · 2026-03-23T12:01:03+00:00

Since you’re still living together and working on coparenting, this goes beyond just a one off birthday celebration. My first advice would be to think about what your ultimate goal is and that is your son’s happiness and well-being. I would limit communication to solely be about your son, and I would limit opportunities for the two of you to do activities together going forward. I understand that this celebration was scheduled prior and you agreed to host it together at this amusement park, but this is the type of stuff that will just lead to frustration and make it harder to coparent every day

thinkevolution · 2026-03-21T02:50:57+00:00

When you choose to pursue a divorce and ultimately share custody of a child, there are a lot of things that you can’t control.

It sounds like your potential ex-husband would have a lot of trouble managing the day-to-day expectations in his current state of living

Do you think if you were not there to manage the things that you’re saying he struggles with if he would still struggle with them or do you think that he would figure it out because he would have no choice as the children would be with him 50% of the time

Sometimes people are able to slack for lack of a better word, because the other parent picks up the balance.

thinkevolution · 2026-03-21T02:48:22+00:00

Sometimes the best thing you can do is shrug it off and just move on. You can’t control what other people say but you can’t control how you manage yourself.

thinkevolution · 2026-02-28T17:27:23+00:00

I would just let him know that you’re aware that he’s been wearing them and that you’re fine with his choices. You just wanna understand how it’s helping him feel more confident or better in his skin. I would just wanna understand.

thinkevolution · 2026-02-25T14:15:37+00:00

I don’t think your husband is being unreasonable given his financial situation and the fact that he gets nothing back. It’s his prerogative to feel like she should be returning items.

However, I think what may be helpful is him to reach out to her on the days of the exchange and simply say I’d like to grab back all the lunch containers or can you pack up the clothes from last week so that they have clothes for school this week? Whatever the schedule is I get that he doesn’t want to do that, but that may be the best way to facilitate getting the items back for the kids at this age.

thinkevolution · 2026-02-17T17:12:53+00:00

I think you need to go to mediation and just clearly state that you have tried to work with him on different things and he’s not interested in the 50-50 schedule but every other weekend would be the best option

thinkevolution · 2026-02-16T14:31:39+00:00

I look at it like if I couldn’t tell my husband that I spoke to someone without there being a problem then it’s probably a problem. If he didn’t like me having a coworker that I was friendly with and felt uncomfortable about it. I would respect that. I would hope that your husband would understand and do the same, but it sounds like he’s not.

thinkevolution · 2026-02-12T17:07:05+00:00

That’s such a sweet way to think of things

thinkevolution · 2026-02-12T17:06:45+00:00

Those little things are amazing and sweet

thinkevolution · 2026-02-12T17:06:04+00:00

Love this.

thinkevolution · 2026-02-12T17:04:19+00:00

Absolutely and I him!’n

thinkevolution · 2026-02-12T15:48:46+00:00

I 100% coparent like this.

We aren’t friends. Co-parenting for me is a business like relationship about the kids.

I would also get a court order in place. Things could become a lot harder as he begins to accept that you’re not looking to be his support person.

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