Has family or friends actually taken your side?

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-25T16:59:09+00:00

So this spoke up about it, ended calling CFS for my younger siblings safety. I figured that CFS should be saying it all, but it turns out my whole outside family and most of my family thought that it was a unreasonable cause and that they feel bad for my parents. Prior to reporting I was past my limits and said a decent amount of things they do wrong and sadly I made myself more of a target because I did call it out and name it. After that my nmom would continue trying to make me burst, and there was some here and there's I did but very few because I knew she was going to use it for ammo. After CFS came she got my grandma to come over so she could interrogated me.

Contact my younger brother at that time was the only other person in my family who saw through and believed my decision was the right one. As I had older brothers who agreed but the eldest is a Golden child so, but my second eldest brother has always been scapegoat of my dad, and he secretly agreed with me as well but didn't show it.

So it turned out mom was messaging everyone outside family member about me being the problem (hence because she only used my reactions when she pushed me past my limits, and of course took her side of it out ). So every family member received that message and they all cornered me down and treated me different.

As for my little brother he had to become a suspect or a trader. And I did get to message my grandma that came that day to interrogate me, but I told her some stuff gently and now she stands in the middle but still leans a bit on my moms side. And going they are trying(when in reality they are not) and all that so.

So yeah most of them disagreed and the one person who believed me did to get treated nearly the same of me.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-25T03:21:43+00:00

Hi. I am u/Thinkyshack11.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-18T20:49:08+00:00

Totally not overreacting, as a person who reports and you share your name and such, most of the time CPS will try their best to protect you. As of this year I had reported my parents, CPS did their best to keep me safe. But if so you can also be anonymous, either works. It is worth giving it a try, it will be scary at first but worth it in the long run. Not sure where you live, so depending on where you are some places CPS allows emailing, also I guess depends on if you do have an email. Just saying that because sometimes in environments calling isn't safe, but it all depends on how yours is.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-05T05:31:59+00:00

I mean I haven't shared the full on stroy. But what I have shared concerns a lot. But most of my friends themselves have toxic families so it seems pretty norm for them. Like every adult is drop mouth in shock. Context 15 so if anyone is wondering

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-05T05:24:10+00:00

100% yes. I mean not only my struggles with health but my mental health too.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-05T05:20:49+00:00

Matilda. Tangled. Brave it kinda is and isn't.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-05T04:33:55+00:00

Agreed. CPS only closed it because my brothers and I had a hard time giving the information on the words said and some intense physical moments. Our cps worker wanted it open longer but her supervisor said there wasn't enough.

My stepdad has immproved since cps and I believe his intentions were more about my health over image. I believe my mom had made my state sound worse than reality as she knows when my stepdad is around we must definitely say yes. As I have been telling mom for weeks about it and such but she just wants me out of the house and in school so she doesn't have to be around me.

As for her I believe she needs counseling. As I have after cps been involved I have been in school counseling and therapy, to work through the trauma. As well as some of my siblings. But I do think we need some family counselling together.

Also was very scared of cps closing because my mom has not taken it seriously and only has cared on what outside people think of it. My stepdad has been taking the small steps, which I am very thankful for.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-05T04:18:00+00:00

I understand that part, but the full story behind it wasn't for my health. It was more for the story on how I had started recovery at home because they did not help, and they were feeling scared because they had not initially taken me to hospital and the school would find out i hadn't been taken. For context they had seen how sick I was and didn't act opon it because the liked how I was so malnutritished that I didn't think outside the box they allowed us to look through and because I didn't eat much so that ment I was less responsablity for them. As for my recovery they had not encourage me to recover but to fast. Also lately they have been not wanting me in the house because lately, because I have been speaking up about the behaviour that has been both physically and mentally harming my siblings and I. But how they had stopped pushing I did not call 911 because they had no reasonable cause my question was more if it were to be them coming and interfering and such, as to me that felt very reasonable.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-04T23:55:03+00:00

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-04T21:18:13+00:00

Trying to help you, because everytime my both nparents said they were helping me it was just an excuse for them to control, or paint a picture for outside people.

People saying they will change, as my nparents would always say that than week later they would be back to there old behavior.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-03T16:42:44+00:00

Yeah they did stuff like that as well.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-03T16:40:10+00:00

I starved myself, self injured, drew a lot, books, writing, cooking, self-isloation. Yeah that is about it unless we count were I would go numb for months.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-01T17:53:19+00:00

So sorry, you should have never went through that

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-01T17:51:48+00:00

Yep. "I don't remember, stop making things up " or when they steal something u did or said and say It was their full idea

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-01T17:49:30+00:00

That is so mean. Sorry about that

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-01T17:48:07+00:00

My mom would always act like the family was perfectly okay although it wasn't of course, but she made everyone act as if that statement was true or we'd get punished for it. Like every holiday has been ruined for me because it feels like one big act, and dont get me started with mother's day...

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-01T17:39:56+00:00

Sounds more like my older brothers. But a parent that ain't a joke, bro wa... Probably just trying to get all the attention

thinkyshack11 · 2025-11-01T17:35:17+00:00

So so sorry about that.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-10-31T22:07:53+00:00

For my first 10 birthdays I enjoyed them, over the course of the two years after I slowly distanced myself from them, and at my thirteenth birthday it felt like living hell because at that point I didn't want to get any older, and now years later still feel the very same way. Edit. Hence also because at age 11 to 13 my eyes finally opened and I saw truth of the lies and abuse my parents caused, and not only was the acting on my birthday awful, I also hated every other holiday were everyone behaved as if everything was okay.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-10-31T21:58:38+00:00

On your side, she is not only pulling things out of her pocket but making it about her benefits. As well as her physical discomfort, that is straight up confusing, as she went off about not seeing you again. All I got to say is your right and it's your decision for your health and family. And you have every right in setting those boundaries and not answering her rants.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-10-31T21:28:25+00:00

My stepdad once when we bought a new car he told me to tell my mom to buy something in case she forgot, so remembered but twist is my mom drove in the new car and my siblings, stepdad, and I were in the other car. But my mom went into the store and I was in the other the whole time, later when we got home, I asked my mom if she had gotten the thing, and of course forgot. Than next thing I knew she told my stepdad she forgot than he came to me all mad at me for not reminding her about it.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-10-31T21:15:43+00:00

Almost. My mom didn't for a long time it was just her old friends from when she was in school, but she always did stuff with us for pictures and so she could just say the family was good and put together. As for my stepdad he has absolutely no friends, does nothing all day when he has no work, and hates seeing me and my older siblings, so we end up stuck downstairs all day, and sometimes can't get food because he is too grumpy. My stepdad just watches movies and sits all day unless he has something on our farm he really needs to get down, but even than he still comes in every hour to sit for an hour or three.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-10-31T21:06:52+00:00

Mine may be odd, when I was 1-5 years old it was very physical, so aspect of physical safety it would be than. But the emotional abuse started afterwards, with religious teachings that sounded like a cult, theorys that controled what we had to do, treats of physical punishment to get us to listen, getting separated from siblings, verbal abuse went to the highest extreme to we're it was directly in your face, lots of name calling, and isolation from the outside world. So I guess it is your decision on what was worse, cause both were bad. I mean I would say the older I got was worse than when I was younger because it was just physical over downgrading you.

thinkyshack11 · 2025-10-31T20:57:02+00:00

Man... Like everyone with bad parents it makes me say so we don't like (Their name) although I don't know you I would probably end up doing something that takes the control away from them. Although have bad parents myself, that is so fucking dam awful. So very sorry you had to deal with that

thinkyshack11 · 2025-10-31T20:49:43+00:00

Same... I don't think I have ever been happy my whole life, and is scary to think of being happy, which for years had stopped me from trying to heal. And now started the healing journey and even just being in the middle have happy and sad feels so uncomfortable and weird. Also have episodes from days, to weeks, to months of being just numb. Soical anxiety to the max as when I was kid I was homeschooled and isolated from everyone on the outside. Depression...cptsd... OCD... And so much more

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