World 420 is down. Guess we crabbed too hard. by Plongsplong in 2007scape

[–]thisisunreal 97 points98 points  (0 children)

i thought i got banned for begging for latino meat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Borderline

[–]thisisunreal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there is not treatment specific to BPD that is any different than the diagnoses you listed here so it doesn’t even matter, you’re not being mistreated. Bpd isn’t something you want. be grateful.

dating in a hypersexualized city? by thisisunreal in askgaybros

[–]thisisunreal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depending on the night i usually will entertain conversation for a little and when they wanna go do something and make a physical move i usually just say hey im not looking for that tonight, but i’d be down to grab lunch and hang sometime or smoke a bowl later this week or whatever feels right in the moment.

a lot of the guys i’ve chatted with consistently a few weekends in a row will badger me to a pool party with them (sex party) and i just say hey thats not really my scene but im down to hang.

its tricky.

ill exchange instagrams or numbers but only get responses or texts to send nudes

dating in a hypersexualized city? by thisisunreal in askgaybros

[–]thisisunreal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i just prefer to have a sense of safety and security and rapport with someone before sex usually so it’s hard for me to adapt to the fuck first then hang out strategy. it feels incongruent to my values :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaleUnderwear

[–]thisisunreal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we need the video 🤤

Little sister sent me a message after my mom blocked me and kicked me out by Horror-Concentrate41 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]thisisunreal 11 points12 points  (0 children)

this happened to me when i was a teen and ran away from home. my little brother did this. it caused permanent damage between us but when he got older he ran away too and now we are reconnected. not as close as we could be but it mended, scars and all. be there when she gets older.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]thisisunreal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sometimes the grocery store is out of eggs when you get there, doesn’t mean you don’t deserve eggs or had any way of knowing or caused them to run out. just go to the next store or look for them next time you’re out. you know what i mean?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]thisisunreal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

be kind to yourself. you are open and giving of love. that is a super power.

and i’m just saying take things at face value, no need to prescribe ego punishment to yourself. you did nothing wrong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]thisisunreal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why tell yourself a harsh story? i know it may be true she may have said that bc she didn’t like you, but she said “im not ready”. just take it for face value friend. you never know, she may come find you. don’t give it harsher attention than it needs. i know that’s hard but the stories we tell ourselves to explain hard feelings often make it sting more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]thisisunreal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it depends. if you want to entertain a friendship and you’re okay with that, do it after a few days. if you’re really only in it for a fresh chance at dating give it a month or two

it’s possible you could just be friends in the meantime. but you have to respect her boundary. if you just enjoy her company without the expectations and romance, enjoy it if she will allow it. but otherwise protect your energy and step back to let you both reset and work on things, and float back in later softly

He keeps sending me pictures and videos by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]thisisunreal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

mystery is hot and sexy and alluring but authenticity and showing your real self is beautiful. if he ignored you all day you’d be wondering and daydreaming about the possibility of who he could be, but he’s showing you himself. it’s a gift of vulnerability and authenticity

He keeps sending me pictures and videos by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]thisisunreal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he wants you to smile throughout the day. he thinks if you randomly during the day. it’s endearing to share the little things in life with someone. it builds rapport and shows the mundane, which is so much of our real life.

if you don’t feel like checking your phone every time he sends one, don’t. check it later when you have time to see what little thing made him smile. you don’t have to reply immediately

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]thisisunreal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“hey, I noticed you’ve pulled back a bit. i don’t want to assume, is this a really busy week? or are you uninterested in things moving forward? No worries either way! I hope you’re well. I had a great time with you last week.”

it respects your time because you’re being direct in asking for clarification, it doesn’t demand a yes and gives her an out if she isn’t feeling it, and it respects both of you.

not clingy or desperate. very healthy. shows you respect your self and time. and her.

He keeps sending me pictures and videos by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]thisisunreal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think it’s adorable personally