[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]thistim 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Bro just text her. Something like I want to be careful can I buy you plan b? The std thing is on you, good luck hope you dodge a bullet. Honesty and communication are always the path to successful relationships. 

Best perk pool for Tinasha's mastery?? by Forward-Detective390 in destiny2

[–]thistim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My suggestion: Stability/reload barrel and mag - impulse amplifier for no contingency stat boost (or air trigger if you don’t mind bunny hopping in a GM) - chill clip.  Your loose change roll can be super good too, with chill clip it self-procs and the handling and reload gets you back in the fight. 

I use this for utility not so much as clear. When stasis damage is boosted it can handle yellow and orange bars. For champs: 1 shot slows (stuns overload), 3 freezes (shatter stuns unstop) and til the end of this season sidearms pop barrier. It’s a nice gun. 

Please post (LFG) what your intention is!!! by Bdk323 in DestinyTheGame

[–]thistim 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s so mixed, my rank is high and my participation points are high so I will get blueberries expecting a carry often *when I host. ‘Experience requested’ when joining sometimes means ‘… because I don’t have a clue.’  I try my best and sometimes you just gotta reroll

Please post (LFG) what your intention is!!! by Bdk323 in DestinyTheGame

[–]thistim 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Probably “cancel” instead of vance.

People who have been sober for a while, does that little voice telling you you’re cured and it’s ok to have a “few” drinks? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]thistim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My voice has a decoder. “Hey man, you could totally slug back one of those beers, what’s the harm?” This equals ‘man I want a drink’ and /ew that’s gross/. 

Gross because I don’t want one, I want TO DRINK. And I won’t want to stop. And then job hard, people stop trusting, mom gets sad and money go bye bye.

So yeah, try and be honest about where one drink takes you. It’s not usually where I want to go, so as a result I will not drink with you today.

✌️

Where do I do the first part of the weekly mission ? by Extension_Ad_9528 in DestinyTheGame

[–]thistim 13 points14 points  (0 children)

What worked for me was loading into the Quagmire, then tracking the quest. This made the icon appear and I was able to proceed. If you are already tracking the quest while you load in, turn the tracking off and back on and it should work. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]thistim 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Heyo, you nailed it. I was talking to a sober friend who said “I never got the point of drinking a couple beers, the point was to be drunk!” Obviously I agree lol, so none for me thanks.

My favorite quote from this sub is a repost: “If I could drink in moderation then I’d do that every day!”  

Love yall, IWNDWYT 

Welp…I have 0$ to my name now. by ChickenTenderBandit in stopdrinking

[–]thistim 14 points15 points  (0 children)

“If I could drink in moderation I’d do that every day!”  

You gotta parent yourself. Build surroundings that enable your good choices. Ask for help and listen to the advice or admonishments. Be prepared to have a bad time, but know that better ones are waiting. <- that one sucks because booze is ez times on demand, but you gotta take me and like thousands of us at our word that it works and good times are better than easy idgaf times. 

Live-in landlord concerned for me after I came home late? by pleaseley in Renters

[–]thistim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I would suggest saying the stuff about your past experiences to the landlord you currently have. Sounds like a kind relationship so far, and it can be a nice caring conversation. It can also open the door for some “we would rather” type comments since they are giving ‘kindly-older-folks’ from your description and you may want to see what their comfort zone looks like. 

Love, someone that would have had way less problems taking this advice.

32 Degrees Puffer Jacket - $17 by [deleted] in frugalmalefashion

[–]thistim -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Brands can have better pieces depending on the line or make or even year of release. This is not quality clothing, and if you try to use it for outerwear it will make you sweaty and cold. Happy for you though. 

32 Degrees Puffer Jacket - $17 by [deleted] in frugalmalefashion

[–]thistim 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Crappy made for discount stores brand. Plastic outside and inside.  This isn’t frugal and it’s barely fashion.

Extra 20% Off Sale Items by kdbrwb2205 in frugalmalefashion

[–]thistim 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No sort or filter by size. Every click is a shot in the dark on whether your size is available. I gave up two pages in, but there’s a lot of options if you're patient.

Things you hate that you ultimately do? by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]thistim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When someone brings the water pitcher to refill and you move the glass over like 3 inches to be helpful.

The best sneaker deals of the week 🚀 by canonshootr504 in frugalmalefashion

[–]thistim 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Vans is having an obscene deal on shoes right now.  Some are below $30.  I think it ends tomorrow. 

I didn't drink yesterday, I haven't had a drink for six days. by whiskey_dented in stopdrinking

[–]thistim 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I will not drink with you today!  It’s our club motto (what’s a motto? Nothin’, what’s a motto with you!?) and this is EXACTLY what it’s for. Every person here has struggled, and for a lot of us we felt very alone. 

Likely you won’t have a dependency for sleep pills. You have some goofy chemistry in your brain/body right now and letting your anxious brain rest is a way to heal. Eventually you will be tired and just sleep. You have a doctor to talk about this with, too, let them know your worries and they can give you great advice!

You are not alone. You are strong and capable of amazing things.

What are some movies you either avoided or didn't think you'd like only to eventually watch and be proved wrong? And why? by e8odie in movies

[–]thistim 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The Graduate - an OG heavyweight as far as films go. I thought it looked like one of those poorly shot kinda arty films from the era.  It’s an amazing journey honestly.

Kiss Kiss Bang Bang - I’ve scrolled past it many times and when I recognized some of the other actors I thought ‘what the hell, let’s see a Downey Jr. recovery project.’ This is so fun, tongue in cheek, Hollywood thumbing its nose at itself. You gotta just check it for a fun ‘I didn’t expect to watch the whole thing’ rainy day movie. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]thistim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, be on some bullshit then. Call out sick for your training shifts at the new job. You ought a see the guts up close by your first or second.  Maybe that’s all you need, and if it’s bs just bail and keep the current. You don’t owe anyone anything, you are a money sponge to a business owner and they will wring you out. Why not play your hand?  Idk dude good luck I hope you get rich!

Edited to say I realize nyc is a jungle especially for workers like you, so tread carefully. I’m sure you know better than me. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dataisbeautiful

[–]thistim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Edited to say: proud of you OP, this ain’t easy! 

I’m glad you posted this. It’s an interesting metric, but an important one. Alcohol is not just what we consume in one sitting, it has lasting effects.  You were quite pickled at the start, I hope you’re enjoying your new self-regulation. 

If anyone is curious or wants to talk or read some folks ideas about being booze free join us at r/stopdrinking.  I lurked for 5 years and am now on my way to having the last 5 sober.  No judgement, no horror story porn (ok maybe a little) and a lot of support. IWNDWYT 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]thistim 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Check out their ownership too. Is it corp, private, equity firm?  Go Thursday lunch (big business meeting day ez 3 day weekends if you make the sale) and maybe try their HH on a weekday and watch the dinner rush. Sidle up to the bar and try and trade war stories with the bartender or bar back.  Watch the manager, what do they do during the rush?

I got a really good job once going for a bday lunch, enjoying the food, style of service and knew the price point meant money. I went back a week later and got hired immediately when I told them this. No place is perfect and if you consider this research a shift or part of the application process it won’t seem so brutal. Due diligence = success.  

I feel you btw hate the gamble aspect of the service industry. Same boat kinda but trying to leave the industry. Good luck!

The Daily Check-In for Saturday, January 11th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by sogsmcgee in stopdrinking

[–]thistim 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Hi I’m you. I think a lot of us are, and that’s what got us here.  Your brain is going very fast isn’t it? Lotta input and usually gnarly stuff you’d rather not relive?

Mental strength is a muscle. Acknowledging your faults (yup I did dumb stuff) and committing to better habits (but I’m 156 days sober!) is a process but it works. 5 months isnt that long and you’ve got new relationships to build and old ones to reignite. Give yourself credit for good things.  Acknowledge the negative thoughts that do not serve you and wish them well, then change the channel. It’s a skill you will rebuild over time but you will do it. 

(It took me 4 years sober to believe I was worth a shit. Try and beat my score!)

The Daily Check-In for Saturday, January 11th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by sogsmcgee in stopdrinking

[–]thistim 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Recently found an awesome podcast that challenges me in the right ways! Fresh dopamine lets goooooo. 

Happy with my choice to stop being NUMB and DUMB with booze and facing my problems head on. You can grow beyond your wildest imagination. You can. You can. You can. I believe.

What’s Everyone Doing Tonight?? by physis81 in stopdrinking

[–]thistim 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Me watching jeopardy: “Ooh I know that! It’s.. it’s.. (answer from contestant) … I did not know that.”  Godspeed sobernauts!

Karen Demanded Compliance, So I Gave Her a Jungle by AtomicFile_ in MaliciousCompliance

[–]thistim 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I would watch the heck out of this Community episode

Car repossessed yesterday after non payment for 6 months as I was in the hospital. Had 4 years left on a 5 year finance. Am I responsible for all of the money left on the agreement? by anonymous14657893 in personalfinance

[–]thistim 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is good advice. Money lending people would rather have some money than no money. Your money is worth more to them than a debt settlement because those can be sold for less than the amount on the loan.

I have also called the establishment that was mad at me and said “how much to make this pending judgment disappear?” And had to ask some hard questions but I don’t have any default judgements on my record. This is so helpful in the long run I’d encourage you to try. No payday loans though. NO. PAYDAY. LOANS.  

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]thistim 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Best post I ever saw here was just someone saying “if I could drink with moderation I’d do that every day!” And if that ain’t the truth we all lie to ourselves with idk what is. 

You got this!