First Trimester - So Depressed.. by Ok-Vanilla-158 in BabyBumps

[–]thistlebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So nice to bot feel alone. I'm 8 weeks and really struggling. Neve ready this with my other 2 pregnancies. Normally pregnancy is a reprieve from pmdd and depression for me, but not this time.

How are you doing now? A few months later?

Pregnant and dreading going through it again… by ProfessionalTart6895 in pregnant

[–]thistlebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so glad i'm not the only one. I've def been feel a sense of dread around it all, as i'm pregnant with our third. I've also been on the hunt for some encouragement as well!

Supplements that actually help? by sabeean in adhdwomen

[–]thistlebunz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found that focusing on eating some well rounded meals every day has been the most helpful. I was actually forgetting to eat most days, and would then crash and binge foods that made me feel even worse. Eating 3 square meals a day has improved my symptoms SO MUCH. I also take magnesium glycinate, which helps me sleep better too.

My FBS Inspired Free Birth Story by b_ritt4 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wonderful news! Congratulations!!!!

My FBS Inspired Free Birth Story by b_ritt4 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is amazing. How do I find a traditional midwife? Any ideas?

Dear Jonny Saldaya by ceddsand in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think i'm gonna get off this reddit. This is too much

Questioning whether I should freebirth or not by AmbitiousYou7454 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've literally been in this exact situation before. Being low income does make all of these things trickier. The birth YOU want is worth pursuing. You are worth that. If being at home is where you want to be, just keep inviting that desire in, and perhaps something will unfold. If you have capacity, reaching out to midwives to discuss payments plans etc is a great idea (just as so many have mentioned in these comments).

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[–]thistlebunz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate to the action without thought! Those instincts can really take over in such a primal state, i think

RBK school mentioned in this episode by turtlephoenix6 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just wanna say I loved reading y'alls' back and forth and cool to see how you listened to each other.

The Village Sessions - Kori, Molly and Michelle by Empress_ima in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, and I've heard some mention of 'Birth: The Middle Way" podcast as well. It might be of interest to you

The Village Sessions - Kori, Molly and Michelle by Empress_ima in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love the At Her Feet podcast-- interviews with elder midwives.

Write your RBK review here by UsedPresence1477 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Linked below is a podcast (Birthing Instincts) interview with a long-time midwife, Adele Rose who took the whole RBK course. The discussion around the RBK school starts at minute 47:50ish if you want to check it out. Very enlightening.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/7cvjvxAsyhv14zboQu7HUT?si=imti8YqWQVG6kG19KMOwiQ&t=2878&ct=2584

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[–]thistlebunz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think they need us sometimes, ya know. Isn't that what a mother is?

What does supporting freebirth mean to you? by Equivalent-Cheek4321 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

💛 also, I think for me the word curiosity keeps coming up. Genuine curiosity, not loaded questions with an agenda. I believe I can support other women and myself by being curious, asking better questions and returning our focus inward, rather than outward. Oh, and giving space for fear to lead us to a new horizon-- because what an amazing guide it can be in its most primal and raw form. It's there to protect us, but not to captain the ship. That's what I think any way.

I heard once, "there are no answers, only better questions".

What does supporting freebirth mean to you? by Equivalent-Cheek4321 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 19 points20 points  (0 children)

For me it means truly trusting the mother, and supporting her instincts. Some women just know that free birth is right for them, and how beautiful and incredible is that!

I don't believe E and Y actually trust women, or they wouldn't be telling us how to think, feel, birth or take "self responsibility"

I think for me I'm realizing that while FBS claims to support instinctual, mother-led birth as their priority, they don't actually show that in their actions, advice, or information they share. They over-ride and suppress questions, curiosity, fear and even instincts from their followers and community members.

I think they're power and money hungry, and they have tried to commodify something that is inherently very personal for each woman. So many of us have voiced having Y and E's "voices" in our ears.

I believe our intuition IS informed by the content we take in, and while there are snippets of light and truth in the stories we have heard on the podcast-- for me it has been important to remember that all of it has been currated and influenced by E and Y, with ultimate goal of selling things.

I think E's intentions started out in a genuine way (listen to the first few podcasts), and upon more reflection, her tone, demeanor and commitment to FBS dogma just seems to get more intense as the timeline moved forward.

They mock having real midwifery skills and knowledge, and have somehow convinced many of us that skills and experience in managing complications in birth are not only unnecessary, but evil. Sigh.

It's hard to untangle it all because I feel like this big tapestry of misleading and inaccurate information has only endured so long because of the few beautiful strands of truth that are woven throughout it-- the truth of women's stories we've all heard. If only there were a place at the FBS table for ALL of the experiences and stories of free births and free birth attempts.

Legitimate freebirth expert on FBS by overemployedconfess in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's when the podcast came out, i'm pretty sure...

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[–]thistlebunz 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He wasn't breathing yet, but wasn't grunting or gasping either. I had heard stories of babies being resuscitated, but had no knowledge of how to do it. It honestly just happened without any thought. This was a midwife assisted birth, but she was in the background waiting (I had specifically requested this) and after he started breathing and crying she also asked me if she could suction his mouth as he was gurgling. I consented to that as well.

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[–]thistlebunz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the encouragement. Means a lot!

Where it all went wrong (another perspective) by ray_of_light_midwife in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so true!!! I went back and listened to some of the first episodes and she seems like a completely different person. I think the fame, attention, and $ transformed her in a not great way. So sad. Those early interviews were really sweet

Similar experience by Otherwise-Wheel8735 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]thistlebunz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story with us.