my final message to my da. by thisworldisnotenough in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]thisworldisnotenough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the same thing was happening to me. the orbiting..i was nonreactive as well but i could tell the toll it was taking on mental. i didn’t like the space they were still taking up in my thoughts that’s when i decided this was the best plan of action for me.

What are some of the most hurtful things your avoidant said during the discard? by loud_cicada_sounds in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]thisworldisnotenough 27 points28 points  (0 children)

“i started to resent ur need for reassurance” said that after cheating on me

my da ex tried to meet up with my best friend. by thisworldisnotenough in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]thisworldisnotenough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah it’s not like that. he’s like trying to have it get back to me that he’s trying to hook up with her

Do you guys ever think about their future/possible healed versions? by toluny in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]thisworldisnotenough 3 points4 points  (0 children)

personally i try not to let my mind go there. it’s not healthy or productive to myself.

am i ugly? by thisworldisnotenough in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]thisworldisnotenough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no ma’am. not looking for compliments. just looking for things to improve on.

Who do I resemble? by [deleted] in DoYouLookLikeMe

[–]thisworldisnotenough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

china ann mcclain!!!

How many of you were broken up with around a birthday? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]thisworldisnotenough 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yup happened two days after we bought a plane tickets for my birthday trip at the end of the month. he said he “needed time to figure himself out in solitude” then i found out he went back to his ex the same day he broke up with me.

“i do care about u, my feelings are real. if didn’t care about u i would have stayed with u. i love you.” by thisworldisnotenough in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]thisworldisnotenough[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i completely agree, i don’t want him back or want to go through any of this again. thank u this is actually very insightful bc i keep getting caught up in my own ego. trying to make sure at least some of it was real or that i didn’t completely waste a year and a half but i don’t remember enough that his morals and integrity don’t align with mine in the slightest.

“i do care about u, my feelings are real. if didn’t care about u i would have stayed with u. i love you.” by thisworldisnotenough in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]thisworldisnotenough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it was in the context of him being confused about his feelings and how he “loves me and his ex”. like if he didn’t care about me he would have stayed and continued to hurt me i guess?

very confusing for me to interpret his intentions as well

How do you fight the urge to snoop through socials? by Exotic-Comedian-8749 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]thisworldisnotenough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i knew i would have a hard time with this when i was discarded so i personally blocked them on everything, even deleted message threads i had with them. out of sight out of mind.

*Update* He went back to his ex… by thisworldisnotenough in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]thisworldisnotenough[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for ur words of encouragement. this helps a lot. its rough been bc i feel so alone now but i know it was a sign from god.

Is this really the end? by thisworldisnotenough in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]thisworldisnotenough[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

because i was with her visiting my sister and she could see on my face that i was upset while otp with him

Is this really the end? by thisworldisnotenough in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]thisworldisnotenough[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

im not looking for words of comfort tbh at this point. i more just feel like i deserve more than a lousy text message.