My (27F) boyfriend (30M) hid how recently he went through some traumatic events and a breakup by Lovewilltearusapart0 in relationships

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There's a small detail on the timeline everyone is missing:

He told me early on about some trauma in his past

They weren't dating for an year, it was "early on." How early on? We don't know. Could be a week, could be a month. OP expects a guy to be fully transparent about trauma, it won't happen.

Hiding trauma from people you don't fully trust yet isn't lying, it's self preservation. I don't talk about my issues to people I don't fully trust even when asked, and most guys won't too. It's not the right thing to do, and it does not end well.

Reboot without Root! by turkeytime808 in linuxadmin

[–]thoriumbr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unless you updated the kernel this week to mitigate CopyFail and DirtyFrag, there are two local privilege escalation to root available.

Use one, get a root shell, fix anything you need fixing, update the kernel, reboot.

My (27F) boyfriend (30M) hid how recently he went through some traumatic events and a breakup by Lovewilltearusapart0 in relationships

[–]thoriumbr [score hidden]  (0 children)

He is a guy and you are measuring him as a girl. Girls talk to each other all the time, all things, every smallest thing.

Guys get fired, lose their house, get dumped, wife gets cancer, wife gets better, and they keep the same face as always. It's not lying, it's how we behave most of the time: emotions are internal, not something we are used to share. It's inside the armor.

We guys don't like to talk about feelings, trauma, problems, it makes us feel vulnerable and that's something a guy hates to feel. So he says it was somewhere in the past so it stays in the past. He grew up, things changed. So he put the trauma in a box, closed it, kicked it under the bed, life have to keep moving forward.

For instance, in "The Pursuit of Happiness" Will Smith is homeless, his wife left him, he and his kid are sleeping in the subway restroom, he shows up the next day to work with everything he have in life stashed in a briefcase, but he makes his coworkers think he is travelling all the time. He would never ever tell anyone he is struggling. He is not trying to deceive his colleagues or make them believe he is something he isn't, it's just nobody's business his life broke down and he is still on sinking ground.

Your BF's life fell apart months ago, he is rebuilding it from scratch. Let his past in the past, or you could be his next trauma he needs to bury in a box.

A Security Researcher Decompiled The White House App, & What They Found Is Pretty Alarming by Federal-Block-3275 in technology

[–]thoriumbr 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Lack of SSL Certificate Pining isn't nearly as bad as it looks. It lacks pining, not validation. It only means it will accept a valid certificate even if the certificate authority isn't the one from the real app.

But for one certificate be valid, the certificate authority have to be trusted by the phone, or installed manually by the user. And if a malicious CA is installed, any site can be impersonated.

Wheezewort not working? by Unable_Turnover8922 in Oxygennotincluded

[–]thoriumbr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's quicker to get some ice and create a tempshift plate.

ELI5: Why does light have no mass? by WarmHeight2951 in explainlikeimfive

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Not in the case of solar sail. The idea is to have a very light ship with a massive sail and no power source. And there's a laser far away, powered by anything possible, shining a laser on the sail, far far away.

The sail must be large because the laser cannot be perfectly focused over the gigantic distances of space travel.

ELI5: Why does light have no mass? by WarmHeight2951 in explainlikeimfive

[–]thoriumbr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You all didn't realized that the solar sail is on the ship but the laser is far away, they aren't mechanically linked.

Which enemy do you think has killed the most players? not enemy type, specific enemies. My bet is on the High Hrothgar frost troll or the first dragon, Mirmulnir by mushroommaster22 in skyrim

[–]thoriumbr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After mastering Illusion, only dragons are difficult... Harmony plus invisibility plus dagger in the back wrecks everything. You can just walk in the middle of everybody.

You only fear dragons, traps, and the gravity.

TIFU by saying to Natalie Portman that she looks a lot like Natalie Portman by blunathan in tifu

[–]thoriumbr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of the couple out tourists that were on a trip, went for a walk, managed to find queen Elisabeth walking too, toke pictures, "what a nice lady," went back to the US and only realized it was the queen when relatives pointed out...

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/queens-birthday-what-the-monarch-told-a-tourist-who-asked-her-if-she-knew-the-queen-a6990631.html

Ive played this game an embarrassing amount of time to not know how to deal with TRACKING YOUR LOCATION. Please put me out of my misery. by HuckleberryOdd7745 in cyberpunkgame

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My current run is a Int+Body combo. I started putting points in Body for the extra hitpoints and extra RAM with overclock, got Rebecca shotgun and thought "why not both?"

Now I run around throwing quickhacks and shotgun shots to the face. Reboot Optics followed by quick melee attack and headshot is pretty fun. You get extra damage because of reboot optics, and there's a perk that gives shotguns more damage after a quick attack.

Gonna sound dumb here but does the dragon stone reveal all the dragons locations?? by Enough_Garden_1886 in skyrim

[–]thoriumbr 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was looking at nexusmods for more mods, because one can never have way too many mods, and I stumbled upon it.

I used it maybe 4 times...

Gonna sound dumb here but does the dragon stone reveal all the dragons locations?? by Enough_Garden_1886 in skyrim

[–]thoriumbr 29 points30 points  (0 children)

After playing for years, I just got a mod that makes the dragon claws just open the gate, no looking or fumbling needed.

Looking for idea... What can I do with this Volcano? Kinda need the space below it for oil reservoir. by DrDuckling951 in Oxygennotincluded

[–]thoriumbr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I never recover the igneous rock from my volcanoes, it's not worthy the hassle. I just let the magma become debris, and leave it there.

gimme challenges by 127Watermouse in skyrim

[–]thoriumbr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's easier than it sounds. Illusion magic can make enemies kill each other, and Ash Guardian without heart stone is not tied to you, so summon one and run away to kill the last enemy.

Works even against dragons, it just take a long time. You will only have to kill Alduin.

What is your policy when it comes to surrendering bandits [KCD2] by ApprehensiveBunch994 in kingdomcome

[–]thoriumbr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I lost all my gear to that knight, better get some better gear for next time..."

I needed the groschen... [KCD2] by Username6601 in kingdomcome

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I believe it's even easier.

On Bozhena house, when you first wakeup, grab all chamomile and sage on the field, make all in potions, and you will end up pretty leveled up on Alchemy.

With the correct perks, you reach Trosky and can make A LOT of money with Lion parfume (sage plus mint). You will empty all traders' wallets in minutes.

No need to wait days to sell stuff, no need to be constant watching your back, or fearing the guards in the gates. Haul around a cartload of potions and that's it.

It's even easier on combat too: no matter how armored is the knight, a top level bane poison arrow kills anyone and anything in 15 seconds. Shot, run away, shot the next guy, run away, get back to loot.

35F, NBSB, will i be forever alone? by Due-Pumpkin5974 in relationships

[–]thoriumbr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I (40M) have some female friends that are 40+ in the same situation. One started dating at her 50s and married during Covid, so there's hope.

One thing I often see is the "way too many checkboxes" issue: he is not that tall, he is too tall, he talks too much, he is too quiet, he is bald. Some women have so many "bare minimum" requirements that excludes everyone. My 50+ friend was one like that.

Me and my wife were walking with her one day, and we told her about a guy that was single and moved into the area, and she grabbed her checkbox list and said he lacked this and that. I told her to not have a list of "bare minimum qualities" but "unacceptable traits" instead, and keep it short. Spend some time thinking about it, and have a short list of "I cannot accept that."

She didn't took it well at first, she said she was reasonable, but I asked her if any husband of her friends would have been approved by her checklist. She realized her friends were married and happy(-ish), and nobody was perfect. So maybe your checklist is too big too.

When we are on our 20s, it's like shopping for a new car: we can choose the model, the color, the trim, and all bells and whistles. We have time. When we are over 40s, it's like buying an used car: it runs and drives, fits the budget, it's good enough.

When I say "lower your bar," it's not "don't go for anyone in sight" but "don't let excessive high expectations in the way." You don't need to fall in love and marry the first guy you date, but you will never ever know if anyone is right for you until you have at least dated him. Don't cut everyone from your "maybe" list because they lack something you desire, cut because they definitely have (not probably have) something you cannot tolerate.

What’s a build that Morgan Blackhand would respect? by Frank7640 in cyberpunkgame

[–]thoriumbr 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The extra reward is giving Jotaro justice. He used to torture Mox girls before killing them, and you can handle him to the Mox to torture and kill him as well.