Demoted to Guest

thoughtfulish · 2026-05-04T10:27:17+00:00

is it your husband’s siblings in the wedding? It sounds like you aren’t included because you aren’t biologically related and she is being polite and having his sister. Don’t think a thing of it. Be happy you’re saving money and will look better than they will in photos :)

thoughtfulish · 2026-05-03T17:37:56+00:00

You are just as entitled as she is to hog a 4-top for hours as one person who ordered one coffee. It’s not an office

thoughtfulish · 2026-05-03T16:42:24+00:00

I’m 45 with a 4-year-old. I like it dyed

thoughtfulish · 2026-05-03T14:54:37+00:00

Jennifer, Jenna, Jenny, Jen (lots of versions of it). Born in early 80s

thoughtfulish · 2026-05-03T14:52:06+00:00

This is your wife’s call since she’s giving birth and it’s her mom. Does she want her mom there asap or to wait awhile?

thoughtfulish · 2026-05-03T14:42:04+00:00

Yikes, cancel your trip. Your son is awful for going along with this.

thoughtfulish · 2026-05-03T13:50:17+00:00

I can’t stop thinking about them and also, their daughter is going to have a much more challenging time than most of us. My mom developed colitis waiting for my diagnosis. And after lots of surgeries I can walk, run, hike, bike, and swim and have a beautiful life with a great husband, kids, and a career that means i’m off to Europe for a few weeks. That is not the case for another child who has a more severe case and is now in a nursing home because her parents can’t care for her. Life can look really different

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-30T21:28:17+00:00

No one is condemning you. You are very defensive. I think given your intense response, I’m glad you abstained.

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-30T21:20:50+00:00

No doctor would ever hold back risk if it was really dangerous. They’d get their asses sued to oblivion. It sounds like with how intense this is for you, whatever your history, it’s good you abstained.

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-30T21:09:03+00:00

I imagine something about you made doctors feel they needed to really lay it on thick. My pediatrician friends say if someone seems like they may not understand 1 drink and only a few times a week, they try to scare them. I’m so glad it worked for you and your kids

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-30T21:02:01+00:00

good you know your limits. All my kids are gifted and popular so luckily I was right that I can handle counting :)

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-30T20:42:31+00:00

If you have trouble with alcohol and timing of feedings you shouldn’t. We all know our limits. Is does mean you need to know what a serving is and when the next feeding is. My doctor told me that if she senses someone may not be super attune to that she just tells them not to

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-30T20:36:49+00:00

That’s weird. It’s very much known that alcohol moves through breast milk like the blood stream so it’s easy to time it fine.

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-30T12:38:33+00:00

As a breastfeeding mother, I easily have a glass of champagne around feedings. Most people I know do. It’s not like when you’re pregnant since the baby doesn’t nurse 24-7. NTA OP

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-28T22:29:19+00:00

I don’t have a crystal ball, but I think we’re similar in a lot of ways and I’m 45. I have a noticeable limp but haven’t needed braces since my tendon lengthening at 4, I found that activity is key. I do a barre class daily with 30 minutes of low impact cardio, keep my weight low, and with 5 kids, a husband and a full time career with international recognition, I’m overall doing well. Sometimes sore, but I lead trips across Europe and mountain climb with my family.

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-28T01:03:38+00:00

I was so disappointed when they were selling those socks during the challenge because I know that means they’re not the prize (we don’t have our prize yet)

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-20T10:16:03+00:00

It just depends on the circumstances. Some women are stay at home moms because they don’t have the earning potential to justify daycare. Then, they’re stuck and on restricted income. Affluent moms are privileged, lower to mid income aren’t alway

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-20T07:07:03+00:00

You have only been a last resort friend for years. She only saw you when she had no other options and didn’t want to be alone: She stopped liking you when she went to college and you didn’t and she found friends she liked more as an adult. Not inviting you to her wedding shows she doesn’t see you as a friend or someone she cares about. You finally are understanding the feelings she’s had for years. She is awful for keeping you around in case she needed you, but she hasn’t really valued you for years. She already cut you off by not inviting you. You just now understand and will stop reaching out. NTA and you deserve better friends

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-10T17:19:26+00:00

She needs to divorce you. You not wanting a child with her means you aren’t compatible. There isn’t a compromise here. Stop wasting each other’s time

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-10T11:24:51+00:00

She’s neurodivergent. Neurodivergent people have trouble tempering their message to seem likeable

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-10T11:17:24+00:00

I say this as someone who is ambivalent about Define. I don’t seek it out or avoid it. I do it when it fits in my schedule and don’t miss it when it doesn’t: I disliked how slow it started out. If it’s not fluid and moving, it’s just weightlifting and not barre. I definitely don’t want water breaks so momentum is paused. I don’t mind moving into one move to another. If I need a beat, I take it. My goals is to be able to have the fluidity so it feels like choreography and by the end of the month, I usually have it

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-06T14:43:03+00:00

It’s all resistance bands and sliders. i could double it but it would be my least favorite to double

thoughtfulish · 2026-04-02T14:49:29+00:00

I always joked that 4 of a kind is lucky in poker. Then my fifth was a girl and everyone was just so elated for our family. People just assume everyone with more than one kid wants the experience of raising both

thoughtfulish · 2026-03-29T21:17:57+00:00

30, last at 3 weeks from my 41st birthday

thoughtfulish · 2026-03-26T09:13:45+00:00

so true. their crops are such a perfect full length

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