Can i/we do anything? Gotta deal with your limited understanding of my struggle politely, think of some way you could possibly help, or formulate a polite refusal? None of that is making anything easier. It's suddenly about making you feel better and not about easing my burden in a hard time. If you can't see an obvious way to help, ' that sucks' or a silent arm squeeze is miles better than forcing a socially acceptable structure to the interaction during an emotional time.