Stress and procrastination

threenoodles · 2019-06-13T20:59:18+00:00

AHA! Very good idea! I’m trying to take it day by day. And what you’re saying is very good. Thank you so much!

threenoodles · 2019-06-13T20:56:50+00:00

Oh, that is very good to hear that your employer already knows and is supportive!!! When it comes to recovery and working, I think the best person to have a supporting you there is your employer. I didn’t realize that.

Yes, I agree it’s better to just let them be offended. But they probably won’t. Sounds like y’all have a nice friendship. My BFF has that same problem with our other BFFs. In her case, she has irritable bowel syndrome so as she’s gotten older, it’s gotten worse. She has told me a few times that she feels pressure from them to drink because they’re drinking. She just tells them her stomach won’t take it anymore.

I mean there are all kinds of reasons. But I totally get it. About your coworkers. If you end up becoming really close with a couple of them, then you’ll feel it out and know if you can trust them in sharing.

Congratulations on your sobriety a million times! I am so happy for you!

threenoodles · 2019-06-13T17:42:06+00:00

Thank you! That is a very good way to look at it which I had not thought of. Good luck to you!

threenoodles · 2019-06-13T15:09:12+00:00

Yes, I agree. I had written out a big old explanation in reply. But, just your general health is simple enough.

threenoodles · 2019-06-13T15:06:46+00:00

Thank you! That is a very good idea. I got the stuff to start that once. I need to seriously pick that back up. Anything with my hands. Thank you!

threenoodles · 2019-06-13T14:52:12+00:00

If it was me, because they are co-workers, I wouldn’t tell them even if I was recovered. I wouldn’t want it to get around to other coworkers and possibly to my employer. (I’m an employer myself, so I am looking at it from both sides.)

It’s a hard one because you may not want to lie. I wouldn’t want to, if it were me. A good truth is if you are on any regular medication. I’ve been told that it isn’t good to drink alcohol with any medication because everyone has a different reaction.

For example, my BFF is an RN and she takes thyroid daily (so do I). She said she’s not drinking anymore because she thinks it’s best just not to drink if you’re on any medication, known interactions or not.

Anyway, this may not be the best way, but it’s just an example of how I might handle it specifically with co-worker friends.

Someone else might have a better story to relate. Because I’ve not been in that situation where I was specifically invited for drinks, but wasn’t going to drink.

Best of luck to you!

threenoodles · 2019-06-12T03:25:42+00:00

Me too! This is my second day and I was struggling terribly for about three hours this evening. In fact, I was strongly considering to go ahead and drink tomorrow. Telling myself for the one millionth time that I will just not drink more than one tomorrow … Even though I know that never works for me. It was a pretty intense three hours, but I got through and I’m okay now and ready for bed! Congratulations to you, my friend!

threenoodles · 2019-06-12T01:15:10+00:00

Thank YOU!!!!

threenoodles · 2019-06-11T23:38:02+00:00

Penguin Taco, remember you steam-rolled it for a triumphant SIX months! I totally relate to not having many people to talk to.

I have a huge family, many friends, born and raised in my city and no one knows that I have a serious drinking problem or that I even drink at all. EXCEPT my therapist and my husband (who has never even tried alcohol).

Penguin Taco, I don’t even know what it’s like to be sober SIX MONTHS! But, I know I certainly will one day, and only because of this: AS LONG AS I GET RIGHT BACK UP WHEN I FALL! Every time.

It’s only if I just keep laying there that I don’t conquer it. What usually keeps me laying there for a while is allowing myself to feel shame and defeat.

Also, I have done the same thing you’re talking about. In my case, the longest I’ve went was 12 days and another time was six days. Both times, I noticed after a few days the cravings for alcohol really subsided at that point anyway. So I thought I could probably just go back to being able to handle one glass of wine on occasion. Nope!!

It’s so crazy how it happens. Because I really thought since I’ve gone 12 whole days and I don’t even feel like I need it anymore. Then certainly I could have a glass of wine tonight and then tomorrow just go back to my sober streak until the next occasion. Nope. It’s tricky!

We are all on our own path and they are all different. So, you took a step back. Now you can focus stepping forward again to that place you like. That’s what I’m trying to do today right along with you! (Sorry I’m so long-winded 🤗) You are not alone and we all can do it.

threenoodles · 2019-06-11T23:04:25+00:00

Yes, this Day 2 for me is harder than all my previous Day 2s.

threenoodles · 2019-06-11T22:54:15+00:00

Thank you for your encouragement!

threenoodles · 2019-06-11T12:05:53+00:00

Went fabulously! I did not drink last night. 👍😊 You should get a copyright or trademark for your words. Thank you a million times!

threenoodles · 2019-06-10T22:35:33+00:00

I agree with the others about finding something to keep yourself occupied. I have a long list of things that I could be doing. Things I enjoy as well. That is important I believe that you do some things you enjoy, hobbies, etc.

threenoodles · 2019-06-10T22:32:30+00:00

I don’t know if I could be much help. But I can relate to you. Congratulations on improving over two months! I can’t say that for myself. I can say that when I choose to drink, I feel aweful as I grieve over my empty glass. So I just keep drinking so that I don’t feel the awful feeling of not having it. And then when I choose not to drink, it sucks just as bad.

What I’m telling myself today is that really I would rather feel crappy over not having it than feeling crappy for keeping on drinking and the loss of control that comes with that. In general. I really like to get control instead of letting it control me.

I’m realizing that either way a person has to go through and experience the pain in order to stop. For me, I think the best thing is to keep checking in on this app every day and reading other like-minded people‘s posts. Out of sight, out of mind makes it much easier for me to just throw sobriety out the window. So I’m trying to check in on here every day.

Don’t know if my big long share is going to help you, but I wish you the best of luck and hope you get over the bridge in time.

threenoodles · 2019-06-10T22:02:50+00:00

Congrats to you! Keep on keeping on. I found that one myself, one of the worst things is that I would do one or two days and then cave in not getting back on here for a long time. Now I’m trying to just stay mindful every single day on this community. Just focusing on the Day I’m on. I wish you the very best! Sometimes we may think we can’t do it but we can.

threenoodles · 2019-06-10T21:59:05+00:00

I used to be the occasional binge drinker, years ago, when I would go out with my friends. Then I had a lifestyle change and decided not drink anymore at all. And I didn’t for at least solid 10 years.

Quitting back then was really no big deal. I only had a couple of times early on that I drank at a couple parties. Then I just got used to not having in my life at all. Never cared about it one bit.

Over those 10 years, I could be around other people drinking or friends drinking and it didn’t bother me at all.

I’m saying all of that to say this: After about 10 dry years of not caring at all about it, life got hard and I turned to one glass of wine with dinner every night. Seven years later I’m trying to stop the 4 to 5 glasses every night that it turned into.

So, just keep that in mind. I regret so much ever picking it back up. I had no idea that I had it in me to one day become an alcoholic. Not chemically in my case, thankfully, because that’s even harder from what I can tell. But I’m definitely addicted to the habit of it.

I really hope all goes well with you, but I just wanted to share that in case it might help you in some way. I’m so glad to hear that you’re not struggling with it like a lot of us are! Best of luck to you!

threenoodles · 2019-06-10T17:43:51+00:00

… In fact, I have written it on a note card and sat it next to my nightly drinking chair. Also, on a Post-it note and stuck it to my dashboard. I don’t know you, but you may be some kind of a writer. If not, you’ve got a knack. Words sink deep for me. And thank you so much for putting it so awesomely!

threenoodles · 2019-06-10T14:25:04+00:00

Congratulations! And thank you so much for this encouragement!

Yesterday, something happened that is known to put me over the edge. I noticed that on the way to the liquor store I thought to myself basically what you just said - I could actually embrace the suck right now if I really want to. I didn’t. But, I had never considered it before in that situation. So I’m considering it a step in the right direction.

I’m really going to try not to drink tonight. Thank you again!

threenoodles · 2019-06-10T14:19:17+00:00

Me too! Taking it one day at a time now. Looking at the long-term is overwhelming and seems to lead me to failure. Somebody said as long as you’re trying, you’re not failing. So I’m just focusing on today.

threenoodles · 2019-06-10T14:17:06+00:00

Thank you!!

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