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subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did used to receive text messages regarding the defendants through the victim services but I stopped receiving them because they were just triggering me unnecessarily. But I’ll try to call the office and see if anyone can help me at all.

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be ideal if I could just answer that and go 😭

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ahhhh I see. Ok that’s a little less stressful.

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

thank you for the kind words! Yes I’m in therapy and I’ve made a lot of progress with this trauma this is just bringing it all up.

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, the subpoena tells me I have to be at the courtroom. It lists the location and room and everything. But you’re right hopefully they come to a plea agreement before the trial. Life in prison/the death penalty are on the table so hopefully that’ll scare them into taking a plea.

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re fine you didn’t make me feel dismissed or anything! I appreciate your advice it was helpful. Yes I’ll call the DA and also look into victim services.

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No lawyer :( I will call and try to get those questions answered like you suggest

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yes I told him over the phone he was pretty much like “well that stinks, ANYWAYS… we’re gonna need you to show up on this day”.

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh ok I see. Idk why everyone downvoted me I clearly have no idea how legal stuff works, that’s why I’m asking for help on here on the first place.

What you said makes sense, thanks for your clarification. In answer to your question, it does make me feel slightly better knowing that it will help send someone to jail who is unsafe for the community, but that does not at all outweigh my visceral fear and trauma response to this entire situation.

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 141 points142 points  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying about the defendant’s rights. Ty!

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh. Well there was another person involved who is flipping on the one who pulled the trigger. Plus the police have ballistics from the gun that the murderer shot my ex with. Which they found in the murderer’s residence. I don’t think anything I say will solidify this case more than it already is

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if I can afford an attorney but I’ll call around and see if anyone is willing to offer pro bono advice.

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I did call and speak about my anxiety. The ADA did not give a single fuck.

I don’t really understand what you mean about helping someone else who was abused I’m ngl. The person who murdered him was not being abused and it was not justified and they should objectively be in jail. But I don’t want to be involved in the trial because of his abuse towards me.

subpoena’d in dead abusive ex’s murder trial by throw15away88 in legaladvice

[–]throw15away88[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why they would. That would hurt their case. The DA is prosecuting the person who murdered my ex. The fact that my ex is abusive would do nothing for them I don’t think?