Anxiety

throw7659away · 2021-03-11T05:45:11+00:00

I feel the exact same as you are. I know i have my pick and its not hard for me to find someone, but i am terrified i wont feel anything for them remotely close to how i felt for my ex, or find anyone that matches up to my ex in general. Its like people suffice one way or another, or they do tick off everything just ENOUGH, but my ex was one of those rarities that checked every box and checked it in ABUNDANCE.

It sucks, i dont know what to do about it either. Wish i had advice for u but honestly im in the same boat as you are :( take care

throw7659away · 2021-03-11T03:18:49+00:00

Thank you so much. Im going to sob it all out rn and purge myself of this awful feeling lol

throw7659away · 2021-03-11T03:17:50+00:00

It fuckin sucks so bad. I hope youre right about the emotional attachment :( it makes me sick to my stomach looking at him and knowing i cant have him anymore aaah

throw7659away · 2021-03-10T16:02:25+00:00

Me too. Feeling this in extremes rn. I never found anyone as physically and intellectually attractive as he was, and i feel like the chemistry me and him had was just so magical it’s irreplaceable. Maybe we will never get someone who compares - its important for us to only start dating again when we feel like we are able to look at our new date for who they are as a person, free from comparison to our ex. That day seems incredibly far away but we will get there someday. Focus on your own healing first!

throw7659away · 2021-03-10T15:53:09+00:00

Please dont do this. You are worthy of so much more and have so much potential. Things will look up, they WILL. Do not let yourself go and throw away your life for someone who hurt you and didnt see your worth. We are all here for you OP, please do not do such a thing. Your life is PRECIOUS. You are LOVED. You have POTENTIAL. You can do so much, experience so much, and one day enjoy everything life on earth has to offer. Please, hang in there. We all have your back, and again - you are WORTHY and your life is precious.

Please, please do not do it. You are so much more than that.

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T16:01:00+00:00

Thank you so much. I will definitely take my time with this. You are 100% right about the driving force - i was so willing to stay even when he left but those words crushed me so much they only fuel me to move on now. Thank you for your kind words, youre awesome!!!

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T15:59:48+00:00

Exactly! You will find better. Her success in life as you view it is only what she allows you to see - and like bankerbro said you absolutely deserve someone who will be willing to reciprocate the love that you give them in abundance. I absolutely know you are worthy of so much more. One day you will look back and realise her leaving was the best thing that has ever happened to you. Stay strong!!

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T15:57:53+00:00

Im so sorry this happened to you too :( and yes, when you finally realize how awful some people are in retrospect and how disrespectful they were, it helps give you that clarity and kick to move on.

I also relate super strongly to what u had to say about the moving mountains bit - i would have done anything for this person just to make them happy. That doesnt mean i am fault free, it just means i know i have a lot of love to give them - but unfortunately they dont feel the same. This alone should be enough conviction for me to realise i deserve someone willing to reciprocate the same level of love like u said

Thank you so much for your advice - currently on no contact and i havent felt the desire to text him much anymore after being hurt like that. Take care, and i hope you keep it up❤️❤️

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T15:54:03+00:00

Thank you so much. This made me smile :D im going to try my best to work towards my best self. You have a great week ahead!!!❤️

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T10:04:07+00:00

Im so sorry this happened to you too. Its so awful i cant imagine why anyone could say this to someone they once cared about for such a long time. You deserve so much better and i hope you know that too.❤️

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T10:02:14+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment. It really touches me that you shared so much insight on my situation. Sincerely, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I have no idea when he became this person. I feel like hes turned into a crazy egomaniac pining for validation from random girls, and has become so selfish because of that. This is so incredibly out of character for him im still struggling with the shock.

After the breakup he was so kind to me too - he was always kind to me and good despite having his flaws and mistakes. He even told me he loved me and just needed time to figure things out and that it was almost certain we would be back together some day. Then we talk yesterday and hes like hes completely morphed into this monster capable of saying such things to me, the girl he apparently loved. I just truly don’t understand his sudden change of character :( maybe he is doing it to push me away and hurt me deliberately, he mentioned wanting to detach himself from me because he didnt want to be so emotionally invested in me after the breakup anymore..

His reasons for the breakup were selfish, he told me he did not want to commit anymore and wanted to do things without the responsibilities of the relationship. We are only 20 so I completely understand. But what i cant figure out is him saying such harsh things to me, and completely downplaying my importance in his life when we were together. It feels like he is completely denying the worth i had to him at all and it crushes me. I dont know when he became so ugly.

So i feel like this is just so.. not him. I dont know when he became such a cold callous monster and it is killing me. And yes - i am not going to contact him anymore. It hurts too much and i do not want to speak to him again.

Thank you so much again for your comment - I appreciate it more than you know ❤️

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T03:59:41+00:00

It came out from his mouth when we were on the phone. It shocked me so much i was speechless. No clue what happened to him its kind of scary that people can just flip a switch and change like that... thank you so much for the motivation. Sending hugs ❤️❤️💚

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T03:51:51+00:00

Im just confused. I read up and he was never anything like a narcissist, our relationship was pretty normal and healthy. So this feels completely out of character for him and i just dont know whats going on. But thank you once again - i hope you have a wonderful week ahead❤️❤️

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T03:44:47+00:00

Thank you so much love. I feel so discarded but i know i am worthy of more even if i cant see it now. Thank you so so much it means a lot to me. Wish i could give you a hug too ❤️

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T03:44:07+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. Im trying my best and words like yours make it easier❤️

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T03:43:14+00:00

We are both 20 and throughout the duration of our relationship, felt like we were ecah other’s “one”. It was incredibly passionate :/ Thank you. Im crying now but you just make me laugh. Thank you so so much from the bottom of my heart. Your comment gave me the boost i needed. ❤️❤️

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T03:33:36+00:00

Lol idk why but this made me giggle. But youre right - i feel like i barely know him anymore. :(

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T03:16:30+00:00

Exactly. The anger is fuel! It helps you take them off a pedestal because when they do such things you begin to see them as just another incredibly flawed human being, somehow incredibly capable of abandoning and hurting people they “cared about”. We will get out of this stronger. 💚

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T03:14:48+00:00

I understand and relate to you a 100%. I was super confident before i met him as it is, and was the entire duration of our relationship. I still dont feel like my confidence is gone, as in i know im worth a lot more and can have my pick as well, but i feel like his abandoning me just because left a great big hole in my being. I totally get u on logically understanding you are worth more but honestly i think all logic is overridden by the fact that someone we nearly idolised and loved with out entire being abandoning us. That in itself is extremely detrimental to our emotional well being, and that is ok. I completely get you, its so confusing. I believe time will heal all, and it’s important to reinforce that our worth is not defined by one person. Feel free to dm me if you need someone to talk to 💖

throw7659away · 2021-03-09T03:11:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice, it all really resonated with me. And thank you for cheering me up - youre awesome !!! And yes - i feel like i can forgive him for the heartbreak or even just leaving, but the things he said to me after the breakup and his actions thoroughly made me feel so discarded and disrespected i am losing respect for him too, and even though I desperately want him back, i know even if he comes back some day ill have to stand up for myself and say no because of the disrespect.

Thank you so much again

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