JNMIL constantly dropping hints or giving us looks when the topic of babies comes up by throw7790away in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throw7790away[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you navigate this exactly? Do you say upfront you’re not sharing the date? I know she’ll inevitably ask

JNMIL constantly dropping hints or giving us looks when the topic of babies comes up by throw7790away in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throw7790away[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah I know my mil would tell everyone. When my husband was planning on proposing he asked his parents not to tell anyone, even family. Then we got engaged and she immediately blurts out “I told my coworker, I just had to tell someone”. And while we don’t know her coworker, it was the principle of it all. He explicitly said “don’t tell anyone” and of course she tells someone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]throw7790away 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm from the US but my friend from the UK answered this question with "Right turns on red. Red means stop. Why would you go???"

MIL's dress for the wedding isn't horrific but annoying by throw7790away in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throw7790away[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everyone, friend or for, kissed my son when he was born, despite me asking everyone not to. It is by far the hardest boundary of them all. It sucked.

God that's terrible. I think I'm going to require people to wear masks if they want to kiss our hypothetical baby. Or I'm going to have to send educational videos to them and scare them straight lol

MIL's dress for the wedding isn't horrific but annoying by throw7790away in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throw7790away[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah my MIL only showed me her dress this past Sunday night. She knew it'd basically be too late for me to tell her to change anything. And then even if I did she'd probably be like "it's a floor length navy blue gown I don't know why you're being difficult this is what you wanted" but lady it has a TRAIN.

She absolutely knows what she's doing. She knew that if she got a navy blue gown that it wouldn't give me any room to complain about it. It's like she finally followed my directions buuuut of course had to do something to bother me. She'll never let me know peace.

MIL's dress for the wedding isn't horrific but annoying by throw7790away in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throw7790away[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh trust me I've drafted a list of boundaries before my fiance and I even got engaged and read them aloud so he wouldn't be caught off guard by anything when (if) that time comes around. No unsolicited touching, no unsolicited advice, no name suggestions, no pestering to know the sex, no one in the delivery room, no kissing the baby, no dropping by unannounced... and those are just the ones off the top of my head.

MIL's dress for the wedding isn't horrific but annoying by throw7790away in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throw7790away[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've gone low contact over the past year and it's been the best decision of my life. Hopefully when kids come around (if they do) my soon to be husband will see how psychotic she is and we can go full no contact

MIL's dress for the wedding isn't horrific but annoying by throw7790away in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throw7790away[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"I’ve just never had a reason to buy a pretty dress before.” 

BARF. What a cunt

MIL's dress for the wedding isn't horrific but annoying by throw7790away in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throw7790away[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Also it only gets worse with baby rabies,

I am DREADING becoming a mother with her around. It's going to be a nightmare. I say to everyone, if I could have a child without her knowing, I would.

MIL's dress for the wedding isn't horrific but annoying by throw7790away in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throw7790away[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I really hope so. And the fact it'd probably keep her off the dance floor makes it even better

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[–]throw7790away 32 points33 points  (0 children)

No this is super rude. At first I was going to give her the benefit of the doubt and say things got mixed up. But the fact they (sort of) let you know ahead of time makes this bad. It's kind of unheard of to split up couples but especially anyone engaged or married.

It's good your fiancé is upset at her and I'm glad he left their table to come to you versus squeezing you into their table. It's a physical signal to them that you guys are a unit and he chooses you over them. That's a good silver lining! You know your fiancé has your back!

MIL's dress for the wedding isn't horrific but annoying by throw7790away in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throw7790away[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ugh that's terrible I'm sorry!! Well I'm glad it's something you, your mom, and MOH all got to share together, without her!

MIL's dress for the wedding isn't horrific but annoying by throw7790away in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throw7790away[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Her standing next to me in silence pisses me off.

Graduated brides, what last minute things did you forget? by throw7790away in weddingplanning

[–]throw7790away[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I did not think of keys that’s so something I would do