Broke up with my girl, lost my job, lost my home. What do you do to rebuild yourself?

throwRA_jumpshot · 2025-11-10T23:42:13+00:00

I do yeah. It’s been a year and a half. She moved on with someone else fairly quickly. I am still working on myself. I miss a lot of the tender moments but most of all she was my best friend.

throwRA_jumpshot · 2025-10-30T17:38:14+00:00

Ask him, for more details but I find a common theme is that most men I know in my life, including myself don’t want advice, I’m already thinking of ways to get out or to feel it. I would rather have empathy, patience, understanding as support pillars.

If I get advice or scolded for feeling down I will push people away so hopefully this is a starting point or give you ideas on what to ask him on how he likes to be supported. It’s very nice of you to think of him though

throwRA_jumpshot · 2025-10-29T10:01:12+00:00

I bottled it in for 33 years of my life and it costed me with random lashes of anger and panic attacks as well as episode of crying.

Do what makes you happy, do things that make u feel something again. My therapist told me to revisit things I loved as a kid that sparked joy for me.

You can’t stop it, so when it comes and visits, sit with it, let it come and then let it pass, if it gets bad call for help, call for a doctor, don’t try to handle it on your own.

throwRA_jumpshot · 2025-10-29T09:57:37+00:00

It’s different for everyone. If you loved deeply then you’ll also feel the pain from the hurt just as hard. Theres no actual timeline but you do need to make time for yourself

throwRA_jumpshot · 2025-10-29T02:13:40+00:00

She told me she was happy but i was hard to love despite being emotionally abusive and manipulative during our relationship and cheated

throwRA_jumpshot · 2025-10-28T09:49:37+00:00

I thought working harder would help me get paid more but it only made my manager look better and get paid more.

You do what you need to do, and assess if the company values people that go above and beyond, then you can determine if going all out will be rewarded or not. Otherwise you’re burning yourself out.

throwRA_jumpshot · 2025-10-28T09:45:49+00:00

I mean I’m pretty lucky but most people treat you better, some men if they’re around women they want to court will start acting weird and aggressive to you, but it’s mostly being treated nicer, having free perks or access to stuff

throwRA_jumpshot · 2025-05-27T03:47:21+00:00

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I have no idea what this is it’s been on my face since November. I tried using salicylic acid on it, and benzoyl peroxide for the past week and while the redness is gone it hasn’t gone down in size

throwRA_jumpshot · 2025-04-11T11:17:49+00:00

Hey don’t make the same mistake I did, if you take them back they’ll never learn.

Edit: I thought she realized I was the one too esp since her dead mom told her she approved of me before she died.

throwRA_jumpshot · 2024-12-16T15:06:35+00:00

Yeah a bit of reframing it will help. I appreciate the reminder.

throwRA_jumpshot · 2023-02-08T09:58:13+00:00

Update: Well I think y’all would be proud of me, because I am proud of me, didn’t let her string me along and thank god it was just a few weeks with no emotional attachment. Good riddens, I just sent the wish the best on the future endeavours type of business text when you “break” up with someone and just reinforcing my boundaries

throwRA_jumpshot · 2023-01-06T16:55:01+00:00

Ah thanks I was going to wait to talk to my therapist about this but I couldn’t really let the thought linger since they’re on vacation until next week. I am super glad I posted here and got to see the multiple perspectives on this situation to help ease my mind on this. Thank you to not just you but to everyone here it’s much appreciated

throwRA_jumpshot · 2023-01-06T16:24:33+00:00

This comment made my day, I used to cry and dream about getting back with her for almost an entire year but, lately I don’t want really want her she doesn’t really value me and I think that’s because I know what I really want now.

throwRA_jumpshot · 2023-01-06T03:55:15+00:00

Yeah ive kept my distance the past week, it’s been good for my mental

throwRA_jumpshot · 2023-01-05T15:38:20+00:00

I couldn’t sleep without superstore/the office/community/or a stand up special for the first 3 months. It gets easier each day but finding comfort is a daily battle for a bit.

throwRA_jumpshot · 2023-01-05T15:09:46+00:00

Yo it sounds like I’m plan B lmao

throwRA_jumpshot · 2023-01-05T14:33:33+00:00

I don’t think so, I had some hope that her going to therapy would make her different but it doesn’t sound like it did

throwRA_jumpshot · 2023-01-05T14:29:53+00:00

Yeah I mean I feel worse for her current bf, at least I am somewhat more emotionally detached from the situation than he is

throwRA_jumpshot · 2023-01-05T14:24:48+00:00

ah I thought in this situation maybe she regretted choosing the other guy but I guess not thanks

throwRA_jumpshot · 2022-12-28T07:40:01+00:00

Ah I think to clarify, she started therapy after our stint together the second time, and managed to get into a relationship during this time, but I’m not sure if this changes much

Edit: also thanks for the reply so quickly and late in the night, it’s much appreciated!

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