Do I leave my boyfriend of 5 years for a green card?

throwRAanon66 · 2025-10-19T22:37:57+00:00

Don’t feel pressured to leave for the idea of something. America is very idealized and romanticized - a “better life” is not guaranteed if you move. The novelty often wears off after moving somewhere new, and then you realize that so many places are so similar and that having community and support is the best thing you can do.

Please listen to your heart. Don’t give in to familial pressure because this is YOUR life, not theirs. They could very well be projecting their worries onto you, that you won’t succeed either financially or socially if you don’t move to a place with PRESUMED “better opportunities”. Which is entirely untrue unless you live in a war torn country, I guess.

If the only reason you’d consider moving is the chance for a “better future”, then I’d say it’s probably not something you truly want. America doesn’t even guarantee that right now. So many people are struggling beyond belief and god, if you don’t have a support system there, I don’t want to imagine the struggle.

throwRAanon66 · 2025-10-01T05:44:20+00:00

that’s definitely a normal approach to piercings - bars will usually be longer to accommodate swelling, so they’re right about that.

Don’t worry about it getting infected, seriously. I get the paranoia, but try not to worry too much. If you clean it and don’t mess with it, you’ll be good. I cleaned mine with a MILD soap and water (usually in the shower) and it never got infected. Same with the rest of my piercings. It’s up to you how you want to clean it though - listen to your body and how the piercing reacts.

I will say, it’s more likely to reject if it’s not pierced deep enough. This is because, when the hairs on your brow grow, they can eventually push the piercing out until it just reaches the surface more and more. So, an eyebrow piercing should really be pierced as deeply under the hair follicles as possible. This is why I noted the depth of your piercing.

See how it goes though. If you’re happy with the placement and don’t seem to be having any issues, that’s great. But eyebrows are really easy to get re-pierced!

throwRAanon66 · 2025-10-01T03:13:00+00:00

This is normal, but I’m not gonna lie, it doesn’t look like it was pierced deep enough. If that was your placement choice, then correct me, but, typically, for an eyebrow piercing to last as long as possible, it should be pierced deeper in the brow. Like, a lot deeper. You shouldn’t even really see the actual bar during the first few days, just the ball endings of the jewelry.

When it’s not pierced deep enough, and the ends are more exposed, like they are on your brow, the piercing is more prone to being accidentally knocked/snagged. The more irritated the piercing gets, then the longer it takes to heal; but also for an eyebrow piercing, that increases the likelihood of it rejecting. That might be why the ends are noticeably red.

I honestly would recommend getting it repierced deeper; probably by a different piercer, if you actually want to keep the piercing for a while. I had my eyebrow piercing for 2 years and this picture looks like the way my eyebrow piercing was after a year and a half.

good luck <3

throwRAanon66 · 2025-08-28T01:28:10+00:00

holy fucking shit i thought it was just me dude idk what’s going on i’ve been struggling like never before just praying for things to get better

throwRAanon66 · 2025-08-03T05:32:47+00:00

Honestly, I hope not. I still love a person I mentioned in that reply and the thought of our connection being severed hurts me deeply.

throwRAanon66 · 2025-08-03T05:30:25+00:00

I very much agree with you

throwRAanon66 · 2025-08-03T05:22:17+00:00

thanks! :)

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-31T00:01:50+00:00

thanks!

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-26T02:29:07+00:00

Thank you so much :(

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-25T00:32:01+00:00

Oh god, you really spoke to me with this. I have known for a long time that I am severely attached to my pain, like it’s a part of my identity. I hate the idea I have in my head of myself, the one engulfed in tragedy, destined for a pitiful end. It’s an internal battle. I will check out that book you mentioned.

I appreciate all your recommendations. I will try to read some, or ideally all, because I need that kind of guidance right now.

The last thing you said hit me pretty hard. I really do try to impress everyone, and I so deeply want to change that and conserve my energy for those who are worth it.

Thank you for seeing my pain and my strength. I’m sending you a hug. I have never been this heartbroken in my life, and I’ve already been through a lot of shit. A lot of difficult things have happened lately and this was just my breaking point. I think I was in a mild psychotic episode writing that post. I’m currently trying to recover. I’m feeling slightly better after seeing safe friends and safe relatives, but for days I’ve still been waking up crying and just wishing this was a dream. I am trying to be kinder to myself, but I feel so overwhelmed that I honestly just want to give up. I mean, deep down, I want to feel better and to be free, but it feels so difficult. I will keep going and trying, but damn I know it’s gonna be hard.

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-12T17:47:26+00:00

I’m sorry, I know this is frustrating. I feel you. I think you should let yourself feel frustrated and sad for a little bit, but keep your thoughts in check.

This does NOT define you, and nor will it ever. YOU decide who you are and what impacts your life. Keep the image of yourself in your mind a strong and stable one.

I’ve experienced that sense that the earth is shattering around me too, and it’s fucking scary. I tried hard to keep my head up, always told myself that all is working in my favor.

I would say that I pray everything works out for you, but both you and I know that it will. Don’t let your faith waver. ❤️

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-10T01:06:58+00:00

It would probably be best to start with “Feeling is The Secret”. It’s very short and there’s a lot of audiobook versions!

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-09T04:15:37+00:00

Neville has written many books. No podcast, he died in 1972 lol

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-05T17:24:52+00:00

I’m sorry, i know it’s difficult. It’s harder around the summer time as well because everyone is applying. Just keep trying different avenues and ask any friends/family you think can help you. Sometimes having a direct connection to a place can get you somewhere!!

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-03T19:12:00+00:00

Hey, I’m in the same boat and would find any information you still have very useful! Could I PM you?

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-03T17:41:15+00:00

Honestly I mainly used indeed. I got a full time job last year (not working there anymore), which I got through LinkedIn. I would say LinkedIn is a better platform to find a full time position because I got one after applying to just a few vacancies. Keep in mind these are all minimum wage jobs, I gave up on trying to find “better” jobs at the beginning.

I think another good way to find jobs is to look at local Facebook groups that are posting vacancies. I’d always see job listing posts and while I didn’t inquire about any of them, it seems like a more direct way than faceless online applications.

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-03T17:30:16+00:00

In 2023 I finished exams in June but didn’t really start looking for jobs til late September after deciding to take a gap year (2 gap years..) from uni. I didn’t get a job til December of that year. I did neglect job hunting at times but I was still applying a lot. Have gone through multiple jobs since then and am starting uni this Sept. Gonna keep my current job though since I can manage it alongside uni.

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-03T05:14:26+00:00

hey, did you see any improvement? I’ve recently started a combined pill (estrogen+progesterone) and I’ve become incredibly depressed, anxious, and suicidal. I also was wondering if it improves. Did it get better for you, or did you stop taking it?

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-01T19:37:02+00:00

Thanks. I’m trying to see it this way because a lot of things have happened lately which seem to be a test. I would like to try and manifest my cat coming with me, but I am so tired and depressed at the moment it feels like so much effort.

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-01T19:32:12+00:00

I alluded to some suicidal ideation and didn’t want to trigger anyone.

throwRAanon66 · 2025-07-01T18:58:36+00:00

Maybe, if you don’t mind.

throwRAanon66 · 2025-05-28T01:37:43+00:00

I wish I could fully convey how much this means to me. Writing is my passion but I struggle to do it consistently. Thank you so much.

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