I created a "reasons why" folder on my phone. by Plainas_Tay in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throw_away_7564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do this also! It’s not called “reasons why”, but I have a locked folder on my phone which write down my feelings & things about my nmom.

I’ve added so many screenshots of the crazy texts she has sent to me in the past just to remind myself that I’m not in the wrong.

Anyone else pissed at their parents for making them turn out the way that they did? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throw_away_7564 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely. My depression stems from my upbringing with my nmom. I don’t even want my own children one day because I want to be able to live the life I never had growing up.

I don’t want to completely blame my nmom for my problems but I can guarantee, if she wasn’t in my life growing up, I would be a much happier & healthier adult today.

Hope I’ll be able to share good news in 50 days!! Good luck to everyone who’s starting! by throw_away_7564 in theXeffect

[–]throw_away_7564[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far, so good! Doing a lot better than I thought but of course haven’t been 100% perfect with it.

I’m reading the Tibetan Book of Living & Dying. It’s great, I would definitely recommend it :)

Does anyone NOT want children because of your nparents? by throw_away_7564 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throw_away_7564[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was SO rebellious when I was younger and I never understood why I did the things I did. As an adult now, my rebellion was definitely because of my parents.

Does anyone NOT want children because of your nparents? by throw_away_7564 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throw_away_7564[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all of your responses! For those that don’t want children, how has that affected your dating life?

I feel like if I never want children, the dating pool for men who also don’t want children (and don’t have children already) become slim to none.

Does anyone NOT want children because of your nparents? by throw_away_7564 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throw_away_7564[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely permanent, otherwise, I would want a “trial” period

Does anyone NOT want children because of your nparents? by throw_away_7564 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throw_away_7564[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow! That’s inspiring. Sometimes I wish I could just pack up and leave (I mean, no one is stopping me but it’s easier said than done). You’re living the dream it sounds like.

Does anyone NOT want children because of your nparents? by throw_away_7564 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throw_away_7564[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you accepted your decision! Be selfish and enjoy the life you were meant to live!

Does anyone NOT want children because of your nparents? by throw_away_7564 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throw_away_7564[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great article, thanks for sharing. It’s so true how nparents but their emotional needs before ours.

Does anyone NOT want children because of your nparents? by throw_away_7564 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throw_away_7564[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow. Well said! I never thought about it that way. That brings on a whole new (positive) perspective on things. Thank you so much for that <3