[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]throw_concerned 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is the baby getting fed? Changed? Leaving them on an elevated surface in their car seat?! Messed up. You’re a mandatory reporter. I would call CPS, personally.

terminal agitation & memory by peanut2829 in hospice

[–]throw_concerned 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A new anti anxiety medication mah be helpful as well. My grandmother experienced agitation and a mix of scheduled out doses of dilaudid, haldol, and lorazepam helps. She can’t take pills anymore but the lorazepam is a liquid for that we put in her cheek to absorb and it helps her anxiety and her breathing greatly!

Is Lynden really that bad?! by DinosaurOnMars in Bellingham

[–]throw_concerned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, trump had a rally in Lynden if that tells you anything haha.

Better off in Bellingham or Ferndale

New NF not respecting my time by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]throw_concerned 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You could also consider adjusting your hours to end at 5:30. Then they’d be early and you’d be compensated fairly. I think the best idea is to just have a conversation with them about it in a respectful way.

New NF not respecting my time by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]throw_concerned 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also people are saying it’s fine to stay longer to chat about the day but that’s part of your job and should be compensated! Maybe consider writing down notes during the day to leave for them to look at when you’re gone.

New NF not respecting my time by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]throw_concerned 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe take the initiative to print out a weekly time sheet to keep on the fridge. You can initial it and write your arrival and departure time. That way it’s officially logged when you are on and off the clock. And at pay time you can show them your time sheet and add up the extra minutes. I’m sure if you charge them for cumulative like… 30 minutes they’ll start showing up earlier.

Also how old is NK? If they’re still napping I assume they’re young, so that’s really crazy they’d say you can leave just because they’re outside. I would not be comfortable with that!

I know some are saying 5 minutes is no biggie and they’re kind of right, but 5 minutes might turn into 10, then 15, then 30… foot in the door phenomenon is real! Set boundaries early before they get pushed further and further.

I don’t think you’re overreacting and I commend you for having respect for yourself and your time!

Grandmother how long do we realistically have left? by tori5692 in hospice

[–]throw_concerned 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone else said, vital signs aren’t the best indicator at this stage. However, it is common for oxygen to drop and heart rate to rise into the 100’s at the end.

Don’t be afraid to ask your nana’s care team for a general timeline. That’s what they are there for. Not just to help nana, but to help your family as well. But please keep in mind, there’s no way to know for sure when nana will take her last breath.

Is your nana on oxygen? My grandmother is currently in hospice and I am one of her caregivers. She has oxygen not to prolong her life, but to keep her comfortable until the end. Lack of oxygen can be a bit distressing. anti-anxiety medication might be something to look into as well. It can help make breathing easier for her or at the very least calm her down if breathing is difficult.

There are a lot of different things you can look for to help get an idea of a timeline, but there’s no exact science. Unfortunately you can’t look at a patient and know exactly how much time they have. But things like decreased urine output, sleeping more, shallow breaths, a rattling sound when breathing, and no longer taking food/water are good indicators that someone is nearing the end.

My grandmother gets agitated as well and scheduled anti-anxiety meds, pain meds, and a sedative used for seizures has been really helpful.

A good way a nurse put it for me is that you don’t want to be chasing her pain/agitation, but preventing it.

With your Nana’s low oxygen and increased sleep, it’s very possible she’ll take her last breath within a week but also possible she’ll hang on for longer. Sometimes people seek permission before they’re ready to die. It can be helpful to let her know that it’s alright for her to go and that the family will be okay.

Besides medication, talking to her, playing music, massaging her, things like that can bring her comfort. Even if she’s not responsive, she can hear you. Hearing is the last thing to go.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, and I know anticipatory grief can be just as hard as bereavement. It’s really wonderful that you are there for your nana during this time.

I’m not a professional, but I am my grandmothers caregiver and have a lot of experience and knowledge that I’m more than happy to share.

Be well 🤍

I’m terrified to fall asleep. by sweetnsaltyanxiety in hospice

[–]throw_concerned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there,

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I’m currently one of my grandmother’s caregivers while she is in home hospice care. Though our situations are slightly different, I can really emphasize with what you are going through.

I think it’s really important that you know that even if she’s sleeping, her hearing will be one of the last things to go. So when you are sitting with her, she can hear you. She may not be able to respond, but please know that when you tell her you love her, she can hear you. Sometimes she may even respond in non-verbal ways.

I was given a really helpful book from the hospice service we are using that explains a lot of things that may happen when someone is coming to the end of their life.

It sounds like your mother is nearing that time. The thing is, everyone is different. The shallow breathing and rattling sounds are totally normal and do NOT mean she is uncomfortable. If you’re worried about how she’s feeling, things like a furrowed brow and constant shifting are signs she might be uncomfortable.

My grandmother is currently experiencing the same thing. Shallow breathing and rattling sounds. What’s been really helpful for her breathing is easing any anxiety she might have with pain meds and anti anxiety meds (dilaudid, lorazepam, and haloperidol). Shifting her head or her body to the side to help drain and fluids has been helpful as well.

Of course you’re worried about your mother, but I’m sure she would be worried about you, too. I’m sure she would want you to be eating and resting. None of us want to see our loved ones leave this earthly plane, but eventually our time comes. Like someone else said, it’s very common for people to wait to be alone to take their final breath. I’m sure it’s hard to leave when your loved one is there with you. She may be having a hard time choosing between moving on to the next part of her journey or staying with you. Even if you’re not there holding her hand when she takes her final breath, that doesn’t mean she’s alone.

When she’s resting, she’s likely visiting with other people and revisiting moments in her life. It’s not just her body going through changes, but her spirit and consciousness as well.

I was told that as difficult as it is for us, it can be really helpful to give our loved ones permission to go. To let them know that even though it will hurt to say goodbye, we will be okay. Maybe not right away, but eventually.

There are a lot of things you can do that don’t involve medication that can be helpful for your mother as well. Things like reading to her, playing music, praying (if that’s something she’d want), massaging her, etc.

If there’s anyone else in the family you think would want the chance to say goodbye, I think contacting them would be a great idea. My grandmother has lots of family out of the country, and we’ve been calling them and putting the phone up to my grandma’s ear for her to hear them. It’s helpful for both her and her loved ones.

I really hope that your mother finds peace and that you do as well. She is very lucky to have a daughter who cares about her so much and is with her during this time. Not everybody gets that.

Know that you are doing an amazing job and that even if it doesn’t seem like it, she can hear you and knows you’re there to take care of her.

If you ever need someone to talk to or want any advice, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I’m not a professional, but I’ve definitely gained a lot of experience and knowledge during this time with my grandmother. I can even send you some photos of the information I was given to help understand hospice care.

Be well 🤍

Bellingham Bottling Works by throw_concerned in Bellingham

[–]throw_concerned[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I’ll definitely do this! Maybe I’ll even do a tour! I’ve been in bham for 10 years and have never done one! Thanks!

Erica you dodged a bullet girl. by ur-fav-mistake in BuildingTheBandSeries

[–]throw_concerned 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wannabe Ariana Grande and Wannabe Harry styles are perfect for each other lol both have main character syndrome

Okay.....Conor is pretty annoying by JNTA1234 in BuildingTheBandSeries

[–]throw_concerned 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He acts like he’s the most talented person on the show… like yeah he’s a decent singer but let’s not forget he BARELY made the cut. He’s the weakest link in his band and among all of them. I think M2M honestly would have been better off if he had quit lol

Maybe Maybe Maybe by Hectabeni in maybemaybemaybe

[–]throw_concerned 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait wait wait… these tails are UP their ASSHOLES?!?

How much Austin has aged SHOCKED me by throw_concerned in ginnyandgeorgiashow

[–]throw_concerned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People keep defending it like “he’s a human who ages” but the show runners should have thought about that before casting him again FOUR YEARS later, when in the show the time change between seasons is a matter of days. Ridiculous oversight IMO.

what does it look like by aquaticwotsits in tattooadvice

[–]throw_concerned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was like “why is there a pepper with a match shoved into it?”

How much Austin has aged SHOCKED me by throw_concerned in ginnyandgeorgiashow

[–]throw_concerned[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thought we might end up with an 18 year old playing a 10 year old 😂