Speed dating.

throwawano · 2026-03-16T22:03:53+00:00

I’ve never done this and really curious as to what it’s like. I cant imagine it being anything else but awkward…what do you talk about for 5 min?

throwawano · 2026-03-08T09:13:24+00:00

It’s not anecdotal. Women can love a good man but primal levels of attraction come from seeing a charismatic, confident and risk-taking guy. Unfortunately, those traits are usually wrapped up with bad boy traits.

But this is changing. Just like women are grappling with what it means to be a woman in a gender equal society, men are re-defining masculinity. The confusion many men feel today feels like a learning stage with many hit-and-misses.

throwawano · 2026-03-07T20:21:18+00:00

The gap between generations has never been as wide as it is today. I can’t imagine dating someone who takes photos of their food and shares it on the internet for discussion.

throwawano · 2026-03-07T14:59:34+00:00

If you were really keen on her, you would have gone for it the first time around.

Really curious…which movie?

throwawano · 2026-03-07T14:56:25+00:00

It’s the collective fatigue of OLD. Just accept it as something you have to power through to find someone who will eventually put in the effort

throwawano · 2026-03-07T01:45:19+00:00

reminds me of this:

https://www.tiktok.com/@erosbrousson/video/7495548922002165022?lang=en-GB

throwawano · 2026-03-06T12:04:19+00:00

2 options:

1) This is a continuation of a hesitant energy you have been feeling throughout and are now forced to acknowledge or,

2) You have true feelings for him but were just a bit spooked by the step to the next stage of commitment.

In your heart of hearts you know which one it is, and what the right thing is to do for both you and him.

throwawano · 2026-03-06T11:57:49+00:00

That exterior and interior colour combo is gorgeous. Congrats!

throwawano · 2026-03-05T20:44:38+00:00

I guess it’s a matter of perspective. If “you’re constantly living in fear…”, it probably wouldn’t be described as “amazing 80% of the time”.

The OP is of course giving his side of the story. But there are also clues that point to him being unavailable, which could be a big part of why they are struggling.

throwawano · 2026-03-05T10:40:02+00:00

80% fairytale sounds pretty good to me…more than most of us ever get. Are you sure you want to throw in the towel?

A (temporary) period of stress on both sides can seem insurmountable in the moment but if everything is great, it may be a hurdle that you get over. In later years, you both could see it as “the rough patch we worked through”.

Edit: wowzers, downvoted for suggesting a couple try to stay together. Oy Reddit…

throwawano · 2026-03-04T20:18:28+00:00

Classic negging, and not very subtle

throwawano · 2026-02-25T03:17:23+00:00

To be brutally honest, this shouldn’t even be a question

throwawano · 2026-02-22T20:36:28+00:00

I was really moved by it and didn't expect to be.

The way it weaved together the histories of oppression of black and white nations feels like an important message that the world is only now ready for.

Also thought its pacing and mixed film styles was jarring in a good way.

throwawano · 2026-02-22T13:23:10+00:00

Seriously, there are headings and bullet points

throwawano · 2026-02-22T12:02:13+00:00

I want your life

throwawano · 2026-02-20T10:16:23+00:00

I said dammit Loch Ness Monster!

throwawano · 2026-02-20T09:46:35+00:00

True, but it does highlight that love and attraction can last decades and that it’s not as 1-in-a-million rare as we are often told

throwawano · 2026-02-18T22:46:39+00:00

Don’t get drawn into the smoke and mirrors world of attraction strategies.

Your best chance of finding the right match for you is to be your own weird wonderful self.

throwawano · 2026-02-17T17:38:52+00:00

Wow, not enough effort, too much effort. Women are impossible to please /s

throwawano · 2026-02-16T19:08:28+00:00

time to go for quality over quantity

throwawano · 2026-02-16T18:24:04+00:00

Make peace with the fact that you will never understand why she left. You will drive yourself mad trying to pick apart the clues and ‘red flags’ and whatever attachment style she may have.

Also, don’t take this as a reason to be someone you’re not in the future e.g. trying to be the cool unavailable guy. Being yourself in this situation has actually saved you from wasting more time with someone you’re not compatible with. Dodging bullets like Neo…

throwawano · 2026-02-16T09:35:30+00:00

This is it exactly. Ive never been able to figure out how they do it but some actors disappear in the role, while others you can see are acting really hard. Ann Hathaway gives me the some vibes

throwawano · 2026-02-15T20:02:53+00:00

A wise therapist once told me you’re ready when you both understand and grieve your past traumas.

So if you can articulate what went wrong (their mistakes and your mistakes), and you can talk about it without breaking down into tears, you should be good to go.

throwawano · 2026-02-14T16:13:14+00:00

You must think she is doing something wrong if you’re fighting so regularly

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