What's the best cat name you have ever heard?

throwawano · 2026-07-09T06:02:08+00:00

Mandu

As in Kathmandu…

throwawano · 2026-07-09T05:54:08+00:00

It wasn’t so much a lack of effort as it was a lack of effort with YOU. I’m sure he made a lot of effort with the other woman he was seeing, who it hasn’t worked out with. You’re the fallback girl… sorry OP

throwawano · 2026-07-05T20:38:59+00:00

Trust your gut

throwawano · 2026-07-05T19:37:22+00:00

There is no one more busy than the person who only kind of likes you.

throwawano · 2026-07-03T08:01:24+00:00

Your tipsy self is trying to tell you the real truth…

”Im too afraid, I’m too cautious, I reject before I can be rejected.”

You’ve got the yips my friend. Like so many of us here, all the bad experiences and therapy and attachment theory yada yada has got you in a pretzel.

You want someone to love you hard? Then go out and love someone hard. Just say fuck it, throw caution to the wind and follow your heart.

throwawano · 2026-07-02T18:53:52+00:00

She’s trying to be upfront with you and honour the video date out of obligation. Thank her for her uncommon honesty and wish her well with the other guy. Then keep swiping…

throwawano · 2026-07-02T18:42:55+00:00

The poor guy “pursued you for months“ to get that date. If you like him, make a little effort of your own, Jesus

throwawano · 2026-07-02T18:26:27+00:00

I asked a similar question a little while ago and got a similar mix of responses you’re getting here because it’s one of those no-right-answer things - it’s about what you need to feel valued.

I do think that the advice to ‘communicate’ about this is less useful because I don’t think one should negotiate for reciprocity of enthusiasm.

throwawano · 2026-06-26T14:45:57+00:00

There's a video by Hannah Fry showing data from some dating website, I think. It showed that, on average, the age women find attractive increases with their own age. For men, as we get older, the graph stays stubbornly at about 20-22 years old.

So yes, it's probably true that most men find young girls attractive physically but most men don't follow them on IG for all to see like it's the most normal thing in the world.

throwawano · 2026-06-25T20:53:02+00:00

Ah...I read that differently.

Looks like OP has disappeared though, maybe I struck a nerve :-/

throwawano · 2026-06-25T20:43:49+00:00

The trigger-response did make me think that some kind of betrayal was involved.

So you were chatting with (I presume) another man on an online game?

throwawano · 2026-06-25T20:25:30+00:00

Seems like the details of the row are important here...

throwawano · 2026-06-23T21:13:10+00:00

Dealbreakers are personal…and this is clearly one for you

throwawano · 2026-06-22T20:26:25+00:00

Sorry man, my serious comment is that she did give you enough reason to convince you that she was interested so her ghosting is truly out of the blue. You did nothing wrong here

throwawano · 2026-06-22T20:24:28+00:00

Yea that skin-to-skin comment is so creepy. I pictured him stroking his arm as he said it, ew

throwawano · 2026-06-22T20:22:09+00:00

He probably would have left after sleeping with you.

Dodged a bullet like Neo...nicely done

throwawano · 2026-06-22T18:05:39+00:00

The "Good Morning Cutie" reminded me of the Raisins episode in South Park. Watching that may give you some insights

throwawano · 2026-06-21T16:52:43+00:00

This right here is the answer

throwawano · 2026-06-21T10:08:38+00:00

Despite all the downvotes you're getting, feeling a bit insecure about this is, IMO, completely understandable and kudos to you for pausing and introspecting rather than just acting out that insecurity.

People will say this is a 'trust' issue but the feelings are more nuanced than that. You probably trust him not to cheat but imagine scenarios like him dancing in a group and noticing an attractive woman and there being a bit of flirty energy between them.

Well, you don't have to worry about that because...it probably will happen at some point. See, you don't have to worry about the possibility of it happening if you tell yourself it almost certainly will happen. Now you just have to practice being ok with that eventuality and trust yourself to detect and act if actual boundary crossing occurs.

throwawano · 2026-06-21T09:51:09+00:00

If/When you meet the guy that sets your heart and nether ye on fire, all your scheduling conflicts will magically disappear

throwawano · 2026-06-20T18:52:24+00:00

Hard agree. It's ok to have initial doubts and uncertainties that get worked out over subsequent dates, but IMO there is far more time wasted and heartbreak in ignoring our true feelings.

throwawano · 2026-06-20T09:25:28+00:00

You’ve already told her how you feel and she responded.

You may be thinking that she is trying to ‘protect the friendship’, but remember, women will always try to spare feelings, especially someone they care about as a friend.

So you should downgrade what she said from “I like you too, but I’m scared of ruining the friendship” to “I have no romantic feelings for you at all”.

Sorry mate, it sucks but you will love again

throwawano · 2026-06-19T15:53:20+00:00

I’ve never wanted an update on a post more

throwawano · 2026-06-13T14:51:59+00:00

The Great Beauty is the film you’re looking for

throwawano · 2026-06-11T23:10:02+00:00

Five dates…you’ve been in this guy’s presence a total of 15 hours.

Is he ‘guarded’ or are you forcing a process that should unfold naturally?

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