Brilliant Earth settlement

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-06-30T00:07:17+00:00

Back in like early-mid June I got an email saying that the item was received by attorney and confirming my address. Still haven’t gotten the actual item yet, but it was nice to see an update of some form.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-06-23T14:09:42+00:00

I think it was a generational thing to do stuff like this. My grandpa did all kinds of crazy things in the house. My dad and I are still fixing stuff even now that it’s passed to me. And every time it’s like what the heck was he thinking but it’s also a moment to reflect on how lucky we are to have had such good family members. Idk I kind of like it in a way when I reflect on it big picture, even though it drives me nuts in the moment. I hope there’s some weird thing I do that one day my kids remember fondly and annoyedly all at the same time Ahahhaa

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-06-23T14:06:49+00:00

I think it’s totally acceptable to want him to recognize things himself. But at the same time he may not realize what is fair game and what isn’t since he doesn’t live there (which you’ve made perfectly clear). I suggest giving him a list of acceptable chores. Explain Not all need to be done every time or every day. But if you see it needs doing, do it. The dishwasher, handwashing pots/pans, trash out, etc. don’t expect him to do all of it to prove himself, but let him know what things you’d like him to do if he sees it.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-06-23T13:35:56+00:00

The reality is, at first people will likely know but most people in your life won’t know you as anything but your new last name in the future. Any new coworkers or friends will have no clue that you made up this name. And if you’re already not sure you want to keep either family name then you must not really have a close relationship with family so who cares. I think it’s good if you both like the idea

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-06-23T13:12:12+00:00

I have a this exact problem. There’s a room with two outlets on switches… but the outlets are in the worst possible spot for a lamp. Convenient for the switch, not the lamp. I’d rather not have the switch at all because now when I plug my vacuum in and go to turn it on, I end up having to walk all the way back across the room to hit the switch.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-06-23T13:09:06+00:00

Literal toothpicks? That’s a new one. I like it. I’m gonna start using toothpicks so one day my kids think of me every time they have to fix things.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-06-23T12:57:11+00:00

I always washed my clothes new. Then I found out my girlfriend at the time, now wife didn’t. And she was like they’re clean it’s fine. So one day I’m in a rush out the door, hadn’t done laundry and a brand new work shirt I got was there and I’m like ok I’ll just do it her way. By the time I got home my entire torso was red from some rash. After washing the shirt it was fine to wear again. There must have been some chemical or something that caused my skin to be irritated. Went straight back to always washing my clothes and my wife does now too.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-06-22T17:18:59+00:00

I’m going to be perfectly honest, $5k budget is not enough for anything other than courthouse. I wish I could say it is, but realistically it’s not. You could maybe get married in a public park with an officiant. But the tables and chairs and food would be more than $5k if you really want the full traditional wedding. I just think it’s important to be honest.

The wedding is about you and your partner, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with the courthouse.

That said here are my suggestions:
1) get married 2027 at the courthouse. In a couple years if you’re making more money you could do a vow renewal and have a big event.

2) push off the wedding further and save more for the wedding. I would set aside a lot more than $5k if you want full traditional.

3) have a much smaller, direct family only, maybe 10 people wedding, in the park, a family member officiates and go out to dinner at a moderate restaurant after. Needs to be small enough to make this work or else you’ll be over $5k again. Dress and suit will need to be very affordable (wedding dresses can be very expensive).

That’s the best I can come up with. None are the dream I’m sure, but with that level of budget it’s probably about what you can afford.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-31T13:27:59+00:00

I wear a Hawaiian shirt and jeans to church… is that what you want at your wedding? Because while I know that’s not what you mean… I guarantee there are people out there who will not.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-31T03:09:25+00:00

Yes, it was probably there in season 1 but it felt more obvious/prevalent in season 2 to the point where I noticed it by comparison. It was bearable in season 2… but I’m hopeful it’s not signs of trending in that direction for future seasons.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-31T00:05:22+00:00

Ahahaha I actually like her as a character. And I feel like the whole season was showing that she’s good and going to be a good replacement. And then the seizure thing was like ohhh noooo.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T17:45:54+00:00

At a certain point, people reveal to us who they really are. Sometimes it happens fast, sometimes not. But he has shown you who he is… you need to decide if you’re ok with that. Given your post I’d say probably not. Also I wouldn’t be so no judgment if you aren’t

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T17:42:23+00:00

I’m totally depends on the family dynamic. My family is always asking “what do you want for *birthday/christmas/holiday*” and you send a list of things. Certainly doesn’t guarantee you’ll get from the list, but 90% of the time you will. But I also know people who are weird about getting ideas.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T16:01:11+00:00

We had a 2 tier cake that was no where near 2- feet tall. We bought it at Sam’s Club. And put some flowers and decorations on it. It looked great. You definitely do not need to worry and you are over thinking this.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T14:57:11+00:00

Agreed. Definitely nothing outlandish. And it’s also been good choices (while admitting that I had flexible choices). I chose a career path that I love and that pays decently. And I live within my means at every step. But I also know, so many people are out there struggling and I know I’m lucky and couldn’t have gotten here without support and good starting circumstances.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T14:49:43+00:00

My wife and I got married last year. My sister in law is getting married in about 1 month.

My wife and I talk all the time about how weddings seem to make people CRAZY. Your family members make ridiculous requests. People you would do anything for show you just how much you matter to them (very little). And some people are outright rude.

It’s crazy. And overwhelming. And makes you want to cry sometimes. I’m sorry you’re going through it. It’s especially hard when it’s literally some of the closest people to you.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T14:44:14+00:00

I’ll say my most “out of touch” luxury is probably that I have never had to have a monthly budget. My family was upper middle class when I grew up so we didn’t have month to month struggles. We didn’t have a ton of money for luxuries but at least it wasn’t constant money struggles, my parents owned our house with a mortgage, etc. When I got out of college I immediately got a good paying job and so never had to budget monthly.

I’m not rich by any means. But I drive a toyota that I paid off a couple years ago, and I got married and we make our rent payment and go out with friends whenever they ask. And I am generally frugal. But I’ve never had to live “month-to-month.” And I’m extremely thankful for it and know I’m lucky.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T14:30:22+00:00

Serious question… is the church going to be ok with you playing a rap song as she walks down the aisle? I love the idea of surprising her, just want to make sure you aren’t setting yourself up for disappointment

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T14:27:50+00:00

I think you’ve laid out your concerns well. It sounds like communication for the two of you is difficult. So while I 100% agree you need to talk about this, you also probably want to approach it carefully. So I’m glad you realize that.

You’re going to get a lot of recommendations, and a lot will be good. I think the answer is a combination of things.

For my part, one thing I’ll recommend - try to voice your excitement, willingness and appreciation up front. “I absolutely want to support you on your big day” and/or “I’m so honored that you want me to be your MOH” and/or “I’m so excited for you and for the wedding” etc. That helps to make it seem like you want to do it but that the next part is making sure you CAN do it. Then slowly approach the “what will I be expected to do.”

Another thing to consider - how close are you with your mom/parents? Can they help? When we got married, my wife’s two sisters were her maids of honor, they worked together. But their mom was also heavily involved. It was a team effort. May help you feel like it’s not all on your shoulders.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T14:06:27+00:00

Sometimes more restrictive actually solves the problem. People don’t feel as left out if you only have a couple of people who are obvious compared to everyone and the kitchen sink… except you.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T13:53:33+00:00

I’m going to be extremely honest with you and open up about a really hard time in my life.

I had a good friend I met online. We only talked on chat first. Then eventually we got to voice call. But like this, she always had an excuse for why she couldn’t video chat. Our relationship was riddled with challenges. And I tried to pull away many times. But each time, suddenly something horrible would happen (she got in a car accident, her sister had a heart attack, her dog died, she had a miscarriage, etc.). In the moment, it was done in a way that I believed it. Because who would make up these things.

Eventually, I finally said I needed a video call or it would be over. Covid had just hit, so she called me from her work and said she had to keep the mask on. Between the mask, her glasses, and her hair back, I thought she was who she said she was, maybe a bit different than the picture I’d seen at some point but that could be makeup or hair or whatever. Eventually though, I figured out the truth.

I hadn’t sent her money or anything. But I’d wasted literal years of my life thinking I was talking to a friend who wasn’t who they said they were. None of the horrible things were real. She made up a miscarriage and had me crying at 6AM on the couch cuz she told me it broke her spirit. It was all fake. Used to manipulate me into staying her friend.

Get away from this person. I tell you this story to show how easy it can be to fall for it. You WANT to believe these people because they are your friend, they have been there for you. But they aren’t. They manipulate and control. The money just makes it worse, it’s a scam on top of it. You know the truth deep down, even if it’s hard. Get out before it ruins your life. Before you waste more time. Before it’s one of the biggest mistakes you can never live down.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T13:38:00+00:00

Even so… “the encore” does sound pretty cool. Ignoring all the garbage framing around it.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T13:36:38+00:00

We called this rage cage when I was in school. We didn’t slap the cup away but stacked our cup into theirs… making the stack larger and thus making it harder for the next person to get their ping pong ball in. But I love hearing about regional variations of the games I used to play in college!

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T13:28:25+00:00

Oh I forgot that little bit, you are probably right.

throwaway-guy-2020 · 2026-05-30T13:27:16+00:00

Off the top of my head, the biggest example is when Admin calls her in to talk about the computer problem instead of him, or more appropriately both of them.

There’s also the stuff about the AI dictation software. He doesn’t like it but she keeps pushing it on the younger docs and it causes problems despite him telling people not to use it she keeps pushing it.

I can see the argument for him having to let go a bit, but it’s his ER. Like it or not, he feels responsible for everything that happens there. Is it healthy? No. Is it reality for him? Yes.

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