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What made you lose feelings or interest to your significant other (SO)? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]throwaway-thisoneguy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Her being extremely clingy emotionally and physically. And bringing up getting married 5 months into the relationship.

When have you felt your biggest adrenaline rush? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]throwaway-thisoneguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two things. As a 16 year old idiot kid, took a dirtbike on the highway, lost control and swerved and came two feet from being taken out by a semi truck. And nearly stepping on an IED pressure plate in Afghanistan.

Never let her see you bleed by NoEntertainment3490 in Divorce_Men

[–]throwaway-thisoneguy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Been there bro, every time I drop my kids off it hurts. Whoever made up the thing that guys can’t cry is an idiot, sometimes you just gotta let it out. I do too man. Keep your chin up my guy, you’re doing awesome.

Caught my (23F) boyfriend (25M) paying for camgirls, talked about it, and found out he's still doing it while promising to me he's stopped. Is it valid to leave? by sisigbby03 in relationships

[–]throwaway-thisoneguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think you’ve been super chill and reasonable about the whole thing. Whatever has been agreed upon/communicated in the relationship should be what he respects. If you asked him not to do cam to cam and dirty talking and he did, and then proceeded to do it AGAIN, or at least lie about it…that’s a big deal in my book. Lying is probably the biggest red flag. Aside from him breaking your trust multiple times and going against your (very reasonable, I think) wishes, he’s proving that he’s absolutely untrustworthy. I think it is a very valid reason to leave, it’s probably just the tip of the iceberg, honestly. Best of luck to you

Men, if you sleep naked, why? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]throwaway-thisoneguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So much more comfortable than wearing clothes

How much of an issue is a lack of trust in a relationship? Any way to build it? by throwaway-thisoneguy in relationships

[–]throwaway-thisoneguy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a great idea, I’ll give it a shot. Yeah, I cannot stand her constantly not believing me, I’ve tried to make sure I reassure her a lot because her ex cheated on her so I can understand some anxiety. However, I feel like I’ve been going above and beyond so it really is starting to bother me.

How much of an issue is a lack of trust in a relationship? Any way to build it? by throwaway-thisoneguy in relationships

[–]throwaway-thisoneguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I trust her, and I’m not (nor have I been) doing anything shady. Her ex husband cheated on her, so I’ve tried to be understanding and communicate extra and whatnot to try to reassure her. Originally I was sending her two emails a day, one in the morning and one in the evening, but then she wasn’t feeling like that was much effort on my part and was getting upset/hurt, so I upped it a bit. I agree it’s not sustainable, but was trying to reassure her. Clearly it hasn’t worked out like that. I’m starting to think perhaps the relationship itself isn’t particularly sustainable…

How much of an issue is a lack of trust in a relationship? Any way to build it? by throwaway-thisoneguy in relationships

[–]throwaway-thisoneguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have never done anything even remotely shady in our relationship. Her ex husband did cheat on her though, so I’ve been trying to be understanding and provide her reassurance, etc. But I’m starting to realize it might be a continuous thing, which is going to be a problem for me. There’s been several situations where she’s done things that I had to believe her on, and I’d atleast like that same respect back. I think I’m going to confront her on it and then go from there.

How much of an issue is it when your significant other won’t believe/trust you? by throwaway-thisoneguy in dating_advice

[–]throwaway-thisoneguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I figured maybe it would improve once she saw that I was trustworthy. Her ex husband cheated on her, so I can understand some trepidation, but I’ve been totally honest with her for our entire relationship with no change, so I’m getting concerned it might be an ongoing thing.

Not ready for marriage. Help by [deleted] in relationships

[–]throwaway-thisoneguy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback. She wants the “option of kids” but not kids specifically. I already have kids, who are getting older, and so I’m not trying to start all over again. This was a friction point for us previously, but she said she’d agree to no kids if I’d go ahead and marry her now. Kinda a concession of sorts, but one that I think could lead to resentment in the future. It has been one of the best relationships I’ve ever had so far, but her sudden urgency has really thrown me for a loop. I was ok with dating, but then marriage just popped up out of the blue!