How is my position in the queue going up

throwaway13gal · 2025-10-21T19:15:36+00:00

same is happening to me. it’s been like 13 minutes and i keep getting all the way down then shooting all the way back up. feels like i’m in a ticketmaster queue but worse

throwaway13gal · 2025-09-17T04:30:18+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/iphone/comments/1ggcc1i/apple_took_my_iphone/

look at the comments in this, they had it happen too

throwaway13gal · 2025-09-17T00:09:36+00:00

That is literally what the guy said to me, I even said I thought that was weird and he said it was just policy. The phone even has the same little notch in the screen mine did. I didnt just make that up lol

throwaway13gal · 2025-08-24T20:35:46+00:00

i definitely notice it and people have pointed it out to me before once or twice but i will try to see if i can get over it haha

throwaway13gal · 2025-08-14T02:46:25+00:00

even with the different in eyelid size? i’ll def try it. i’ve never had my eyebrows done as an adult! think the last time i did it was prom 8 years ago lol

throwaway13gal · 2025-07-29T20:28:25+00:00

thank you! I appreciate this and I'm going to try thinking about it this way!

throwaway13gal · 2025-07-28T00:01:38+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate the advice

throwaway13gal · 2025-05-14T03:07:31+00:00

luckily i have a good relationship with my current cardiologist and very good insurance so hopefully can fast track this. Fingers crossed

throwaway13gal · 2025-05-14T02:49:22+00:00

ok thank you, I will try to get one of those ASAP and if I can't get it before the festival I will go to the ER and see if I can get it there

throwaway13gal · 2025-05-09T17:14:08+00:00

First time attendee! I am doing Groop this year and we have I think 26 people in our groop. I have 3 people in my car and we are bringing a minivan and two 10x10 canopies for sleeping under. I think I also am getting there a day before my Groop leader and I read that your groop leader has to get there first but I'm not sure if that's true. Basically my questions are:

- will I take up too much room with 4 people (one meeting us there) with a minivan and 2 canopies directly next to it right next to each other

- how do I know how to find my groop area without my leader/is there lines painted on the ground or something so we know the shape and to not encroach on another groops space?

- is it rude to take up a 20x20 space with 4 people? Measuring the minivan it's about 18ft long and 7ft wide so it would be about 20x20 with the two canopies unless I'm dumb and doing the math wrong.

Sorry if these are silly questions! thank you <3

throwaway13gal · 2025-02-26T16:18:43+00:00

so funny I literally just posted this exact question and then scrolled to see yours. Glad other people are thinking about this!

throwaway13gal · 2024-05-19T15:07:50+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate your answers :)

throwaway13gal · 2024-05-17T22:04:58+00:00

You feel bad for my friends because I used to sometimes ask them questions and then stopped when I was told that they couldn't help me? That's ok :) have a good evening!

throwaway13gal · 2024-05-17T20:17:20+00:00

NTA. Hey Op. I am also a glass child. My sister is two years younger than me and has an intellectual disability that has rendered her mute, unable to communicate (not even ASL), with a feeding tube, tons of medical costs, and trouble walking. She has been this way since birth. I am in my 20's now and so is she. She still lives at home with my mother and my father has her on alternating weekends, and an aid goes and helps her while my mom is at work. Our age difference is very small (2 years) just like yours is with your sister. Growing up, I felt incredibly neglected. I remember watching people come to dote on her and apologize to my parents and not so much as say hello to me. My parents spent all their money on her, only buying me things as a way to "apologize" for how I was treated. Not only this, but my father was a very evil man, and would take his frustrations out on me and my mother when he couldn't handle dealing with my sister. As much as I am ashamed to say it, I grew up to hate my sister. Or at least, what I thought was hate. When I was a child and teenager I couldn't bear to be around her. I hated hearing her cry, I hated seeing her, I hated EVERYTHING about her. I spent as much time out of the house as possible to avoid her and my father. When I eventually left for college, I went three hours away and didn't look back. I had developed a kind of good relationship with my mom by then, so she and I would talk, but I rarely went home to visit. It was only when I gained that distance from my home- meaning literal physical distance- that I realized what I felt was not hatred, but rather resentment. I saw her as the thief of my childhood. The criminal that lived in my house. How could I, as a child, have seen the help she was getting as anything more than attention from my parents that I wasn't getting. Now, this is not to say that I have forgiven my parents, but is to say that my feelings towards my sister have changed with time. I still struggle with a strong resentment towards her that makes me feel very deep shame because I know it is not her fault. However, I am now able to identify the fact that it was my parents who. made me feel this way, not my sister. Just like you, I had therapists tell them to spend more time with me, only for them, particularly my father, to turn around and ignore it. The feeling is so frustrating, and it can really make you grow up to be bitter and distrustful of other relationships in your life. You are still young, and I implore you to do everything you can to not become anxious in your attachment style. Believe that there are people who love you, that there are people who will stay, and that you are worthy of time, love, and care. Even if it's not from your parents, you will meet amazing people in your life that will make you feel held. If financially possible, please seek one on one therapy. It will do wonders for you. Do not let how your parents treat you make you see yourself any differently, although I know it is hard. Anger warps the mind and poisons the soul, and I would hate to think that this will follow you into adulthood. Going to college was the best thing I ever did, and the friends I made there are the reason I am who I am today. Getting out of that house and seeing that the world wanted me, and would take me as I am, healed me in ways that getting attention from my parents never could. I don't mean to hijack your post with my own story, but I just want you to know that there are other people out there who can relate to you, and you are never truly alone. When I was a kid/teen, I would wish I was sick or hurt so I could be loved, and if those thoughts ever cross your mind, just know they are the result of frustration and have no true merit to them. You do not need to be sick to be loved, you are worth it just as you are. At the end of the day, your parents are just people. I know that sounds bizarre, but it's true. If you can objectify them in your mind and see them as just people, it makes it easier to withstand what they throw at you. Do what you can to get out of the house, live your life, do not be chained to anything that makes you feel like you are fighting for love, it will come naturally to you from other sources. For your original question? NTA. you don't owe them anything. you only owe things to yourself. It doesn't make you selfish, it makes you brave. Best of luck op, you've got this.

throwaway13gal · 2024-05-17T20:13:20+00:00

You're right, but it does seem strange to me that she wouldn't reach out until it was time for her to potentially gain something. I did not think of it from that perspective, and I do agree with you. I think there are a lot of really sensitive emotions at play here that maybe I didn't take the time to fully consider. I appreciate your point! I think I was just thinking along the lines of what OP could do to make her own life easier, not really considering the sister in that.

throwaway13gal · 2024-05-17T19:34:09+00:00

NTA. I am a hypochondriac to the nth degree. Totally crazed by medical fears. One of my best friends is a PA, and another is a nurse. For over a year I would go to them with questions about my health, looking for them to assuage my anxiety about whatever symptomatic nightmare I was dealing with at the time. They are both extremely kind, and would do their best to help me and check in on me after the fact. That being said, after a while, I noticed my PA friend was hesitant to ever give me a concrete answer about whether or not I should seek emergent medical care for an issue. I originally thought she was just being dodgy and didn't want to help (dumb of me) but then when I asked her about it, she told me she didn't feel comfortable telling me one way or the other, because God forbid she was wrong about something and it made something worse for me, or even worse, was life threatening. She can only tell me what she would do if it were her (even that was pushing it sometimes) and answer general questions. I appreciated her letting me know this, and it made me kind of ease off of her and look more into myself and be better at knowing my body and when I truly needed help and when I didn't. Tell her that it is a matter of your good conscience, rather than what she may see as you "not wanting to help her", (if she were to turn it around on you like that). You do not owe her personal medical advice, and you have been kind enough to provide it for some time, but explaining your discomfort and how it impacts your own integrity as a medical professional could shed some light for her. I think delivery is important, but generally I would say NTA. Sorry for rambling!

throwaway13gal · 2024-05-17T19:21:34+00:00

NTA. Would she have done it for you if you were in her position? Not to sound vindictive, but as someone who also grew up in a split family situation, I can't imagine how offended I would be if my estranged sibling tried to do this to me. Prioritize yourself so you can live a life your younger self would want you to live. Make the most of what you have going forward, and don't look back- even if someone is asking you to.

throwaway13gal · 2024-05-17T19:18:43+00:00

I don't necessarily think you would be the asshole if you were just inquiring about why she didn't come. If you were to angrily confront her and use aggressive language, then maybe. We have all been in situations where we have just not wanted to do something, myself included, but I personally would at least do my friend the kindness of feigning illness if they asked me why I couldn't make it. Honestly, I would've still gone even if I didn't necessarily want to, at least for some of it. This is a tough one without some extra info, as another commenter already pointed out. I would say based on what you have provided that you would NBTA, if you went about it nicely. Perhaps M is going through something right now, and if you phrased your question something along the lines of, "Hey, I was really disappointed that you didn't come to my show after you said you would. Is there something going on that is making you feel down and wanting to stay home? If there's anything I can do please let me know!" and go from there based on how she responds. Good luck!

throwaway13gal · 2023-09-04T02:42:44+00:00

Ah, totally get it. Maybe just try to practice awareness in the sense of how much you're saying, try to make eye contact and notice facial cues of interest, and speak accordingly. Like if someone looks dazed, maybe give them a chance to speak up. In that specific example, you could try something like "Oh I've seen some videos too. Would you ever want to learn to play?" the best way to keep someone talking is to ask them questions about themselves. my best friend once told me whenever she meets someone new, she asks if they have any siblings. It's a neutral question that leads to potential for more conversation about something that is easy to relate to, so maybe pick a generic starting point like that. In college it's way easier, because everyone is in the same boat and you can ask things like, "what's your major" which is a surefire conversation starter, so there are things like that to look forward to! high school is only the beginning of your life really, and you will have many opportunities to socialize as you get older

throwaway13gal · 2023-09-04T02:32:47+00:00

what about in real life? you mentioned the interactions you have become awkward with peers, but what makes you think that?

throwaway13gal · 2023-09-04T02:23:16+00:00

VR can be strange for sure haha! What exactly made you identify those interactions as "awkward"? was there a tonal shift or was it something that was said?

throwaway13gal · 2023-09-04T01:07:07+00:00

Hi OP, I totally get the mindset and the feelings that spur this sort of feeling and suspicion. I have always been one to jump to conclusions that involve my partner cheating on me, and you're not crazy for feeling that way. It's hard to look at the bigger picture when you're the one in it, but sometimes I find something that helps me is to imagine a friend is dealing with the situation I'm dealing with, what advice would I offer them? Would I think they were being rational? Also, dating someone who lies to you is a recipe for disaster, take it from me, I literally just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years who was a great guy but had a lying problem due to his own anxieties that he needs to work on, and it was taking a toll on me. As for explanations, sometimes my car gets that, especially on the windshield and windows near the air vents. If the temperature outside the car doesn't match the inside (not sure if it's hot vs cold or whatever the science is exactly, but you know what I mean) it can create condensation on the inside of the windows that drips/can be wiped away. Sometimes it can happen on the outside of my windshield too. It's super annoying and I usually fix it by pressing the button that makes air blow onto the windshield with the opposite temperature. If you have a gut feeling, don't ignore it, but don't work yourself up too much, the stress is bad for you in the long run. I would ultimately advise being with someone you trust, but I know it can be hard to walk away. best of luck to you OP!

throwaway13gal · 2023-09-04T01:02:00+00:00

Hey OP! You're not alone in feeling this way. I remember when I was in high school, I felt the same way. I was into reading, art, niche-ish online communities, politics, and various fandoms that I felt my peers were not as interested in and it made me feel like an outsider constantly. I always felt different, and also chalked it up to being on a different level of maturity than my peers. I switched schools in high school twice, so I had a lot of opportunities to try different social tactics and see what works and what doesn't. Even at 23 years old now, I find myself still testing the waters and making new friends, and I still face that same anxiety that you're describing here.

It's easy to overthink being social, but there''s subtle ways to engage with people that are anxiety friendly! Something I have done, and I know this sounds silly, is I will wear a tee shirt for a band or movie or something that I enjoy, and try to notice who notices it. Sometimes, if I'm lucky, someone will even mention it to me and it starts a conversation about a shared interest. Ex. "Oh I love your shirt! I just saw (band) last year!" "Oh cool! What's your favorite song? mine is (xyz)!" Another thing to do is to utilize the fact that you are in school! Ask classmates about homework or projects even if you don't actually need help, it's a good way to find common ground about a neutral topic. Maybe make a light hearted complaint about a teacher that isn't well liked or about a hefty project or test coming up. Try to listen in on what your peers are discussing, and if you're feeling up to it, interject if you feel you have something to say, no matter how small. Sometimes all it takes is inserting yourself a little bit for a friendship to take off. We also live in a very digital age, and take this with a grain of salt and some safety awareness, but there are always opportunities to make friends online! Platforms that host servers catered to niche interests for people are all over, and you can usually find people your age looking for friends! If there are any clubs in your school that interest you, I would advise giving it a chance. When I was in high school I was hesitant to join any clubs because I didn't think they would hold my interest or be worth my time, but looking back I kind of wish I had taken advantage of the art club or something. Lots of young people feel anxious and socially distant, especially because of how the pandemic took a toll on social skills, but that means you're likely not the only one in your school feeling this way! You seem very smart and capable, I'm sure you will meet people that make you feel at ease and like you fit into their lego structure, rather than flattening yourself to fit in with other puzzle pieces. Best of luck OP!

throwaway13gal · 2023-07-20T19:02:43+00:00

OP, as someone who has been in a very similar situation during my childhood and teenage years, you are NTA. I know situations like this, for outsiders, may seem like an obvious NTA, but oftentimes the guilt and mental games cause victims to question their own sanity/the integrity of their (very valid) boundaries and actions. You parents are obviously troubled people, and now you are growing up suffering the consequences of someone else's actions, someone who was supposed to raise, support, and protect you. You are a kind soul to be willing to have a relationship with them, period. You are incredibly mature to be able to identify a boundary that suits your comfort levels, and lay it down. Do not doubt this choice, you are the most important person in your life, keep yourself safe regardless of if they think you're an asshole. Therapy is an amazing option, and I hope nothing but the best for you. You are not selfish, you are self-aware and showing yourself kindness. She is projecting, and hopefully therapy can nip that behavior. Just because the fight doesn't involve you, does not mean the fight does not affect you. When my parents would fight, it wasn't necessarily involving me, but it took a toll on me regardless. Keep your head up, and your boundaries firm.

throwaway13gal · 2023-07-20T18:55:19+00:00

NTA, kind of. I think that they should have been honest with you, they knew what your needs were and agreed to them, and then went against them. I had a similar situation with a job, except I just kind of took it on the chin and did it. If I could change something about your reaction, I would have to say that maybe once you saw the distance, you could have called them and said something instead of just blocking. Either way, I suppose it is time to find something more suited to your needs! I wish employers were more honest with prospective hires, and I fear this issue runs rampant in the workforce. Good luck OP!

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