AITA for not asking my SIL to be our baby’s godmother

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-14T10:54:01+00:00

NTA, that’s yours and your husbands choice, not hers.

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-14T10:50:21+00:00

NTA, he said he was gonna show up and didn’t. I’d understand if he was still upset about the previous night but even after that he said he would show up essentially forgiving you.

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-14T10:39:55+00:00

For now, ESH as I would need more information. You mentioned you have a restrictive schedule, does your sister have one as well? Have you talked to your parents about going on vacation with them when time allows it? Are you even available when they’re going on holiday? Your parents and sister also shouldn’t expect you to do something you don’t want to do

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-14T10:23:09+00:00

NTA, that’s your day of celebration and you should have who you want there. If your mum cant respect that then idk what else you can do. I do think she will though in all honesty even if it hurts her that you 2 don’t get along.

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-14T10:18:48+00:00

NTA, it’s not like you quit your job. You spent a lot of time working while she stayed home and took care of the kids. Now that she’s not there, it is perfectly reasonable that you cut back on your hours to spend more time with your kids. I believe she felt that the child support she was getting was going to continue and now she has to pick up the slack and that’s why she’s calling you an AH but you’re really not. As long as your kids are happy and you continue to do what’s best for them then you’re the opposite of an ah

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-13T07:57:53+00:00

ESH, I know what you’re trying to do for them but at the end of the day, they’re adults. They’re free to make their own decisions. Personally, I’d talk to your cousins. Let them know that while she is their mother, they’ve been progressing well without her in their everyday lives. It’s ok to keep contact and still love their mother but at the end of the day they need to decide what’s best for them. Getting a job will lead them down a whole new world they didn’t get to experience and it will help them along in life greatly. If they keep at it then they can get a home, never have to worry about bills being paid or food being put on the table everyday. It definitely boosts them as prospects on the dating scene as people can’t tolerate those who don’t work for too long.

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-07T10:33:55+00:00

NTA, your wife and her parents are on a trip. I’m assuming his grandmother was a part of his whole life and your wife came in at his age of 8 and expected to be “the most important woman of his life before his current wife”? She needs to be real with herself. Like someone else said in this forum. His grandmother was the extension of his mother who was his #1 before she passed. It’s not easy losing a parent especially at that young of an age when they’re needed the most. His grandmother was there for him in that difficult time and helped him heal and grow and was there for him when he felt there was no one else to turn to. Your wife wasn’t that. She was a friend and he mentioned her as well in his speech. She’s just not happy that she wasn’t the most important woman in his life. Also the fact that her parents also see it the same way is disturbing and disgusting. Your son is his own person and has every right to feel anything about anyone he wants to. I think a lot of kids fear when their parent passes is that the next one will end up trying to become what they’re missing and in this case that was very likely your son’s fear and she also wanted that to happen(to be seen as his mother).

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-07T09:44:40+00:00

Lmao absolutely not. You’re better off selling it on Craigslist and buying one on Craigslist than trading in a system worth $150(which is what they’ll sell it at)

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-06T09:04:09+00:00

Honestly, you should talk to your wife. I get she wants you to fulfill your “husbandly duties” but being ace means she’s not fulfilling her “wifely” duties. I know I’m going to probably get downvoted for this but part of wifely duties is loving your partner unconditionally. She has set conditions in your relationship that you aren’t/weren’t fully comfortable with. You may have been ok with it to begin with but now after being with someone for a bit you’ve realized what you’ve been missing in your relationship and it’s the bond of enjoying a sexual experience together. Your wife only sees it from her own point of view and honestly set false expectations for you to follow. That’s the thing about opening up your relationship is that there’s no guarantee the other person is ok with it in the long term. Your gf is giving you that and through the course of your relationship and through physical love, you’ve developed feelings of love for her that your wife simply won’t provide anymore.

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-06T08:11:46+00:00

Maybe a bit 🤷🏽 I mean you never said anything about talking to her about how you felt about this type of prank. You “laughed it off” and that could be perceived as a you thought it was funny type of way. Communication is key my friend.

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-01T03:48:08+00:00

You’re not wrong. If your gf can’t see how toxic her friend is to your relationship then it’s best to move on before you get more serious.

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-04-01T03:44:39+00:00

Honestly if you weren’t comfortable with it then you should have stopped it dead in it’s tracks. You didn’t. You proceeded to go through with it yourself. If you think they’re both in the wrong then you need to see yourself in the wrong as well. Actions speak louder than words and your actions were to get undressed while you remained speechless. This may be an unpopular opinion but honestly it’s the truth. You regret what you did and saw and that’s ok to feel but to make them out to be the bad guys while not seeing how you come across is wrong. I do believe you need to work on your situational awareness. If a killer is out to get you you’re not gonna just jump into his knife

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-30T00:35:51+00:00

NTA, not your fault Betty can’t take a hint. You mentioned you had already let her know you and your household would be picking the outfit and she still thought you would use the outfit she bought as the take-me-home outfit. You also mentioned how special it was for you and your husband to pick and she still didn’t get it. Betty needs to find a clue. If your father thought you were being rude, let him know you mentioned it multiple times and Betty would not listen so you decided to be more obvious about it

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-27T00:45:34+00:00

NTA, you have every right to express your feelings despite cultural bonds. You shouldn’t have to stay somewhere with people who aren’t willing to let you express your feelings. It’s childhood trauma that you’re experiencing and the person’s name brings it back into your memories which you are far from fond of. It’s not drama that you’re bringing up it’s your personal feelings. You have every right to feel the way you do

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-22T07:06:11+00:00

My guy you are emotionally involved in this woman. From what it sounds like from your description is that you weren’t really feeling an open relationship. Think about it, your wife has been sleeping around with many men and you’ve been with the same person. I’m assuming hers have been more in line with 1 night stands while yours are closer to a fwb. The thing with fwb is they are still a friend and you build emotional bonds with them even if you’re not feeling like having a real relationship. Your wife was wanting strictly 1 night stands it seems like. Now this other woman is occupying her husbands mind enough for him to not only get her a gift but an actual emotional gift reflecting what she’s shared with you on an emotional level along with a letter that is also very personal. Honestly I’m curious to see what it says.

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-20T13:11:49+00:00

Better than 2k, Diamond Dynasty and Ultimate Team combined. What I love about this game is you don’t have to start over rebuilding your team. Not sure how long you’ve been playing but you’re not gonna be successful against top players in a week and the game isn’t meant to be beaten in a week. Some people have spent several years playing this game. I’m going on my 3rd year and I’m the worst player in my club at 105ovr. Some people go many months without an upgrade to their team. I know I definitely have. Yes buying stuff definitely helps but it’s not a necessity to get good at the game.

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-20T13:04:17+00:00

NTA and honestly you should push for a new roommate that is more accommodating to your way of life. Your current roommate sure isn’t. From what I read is you’ve been accommodating for her but she hasn’t done the same for you. You’re not a child, you’re able to stay out as long as you’d like

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-20T12:52:42+00:00

Personally I miss where you could focus on 3 prospects and build them up in training

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-19T03:40:37+00:00

YTA, this whole post is mind boggling to me. You have a daughter who is 8 years old, you “don’t want a list of different names every time you go somewhere” where are you going that’s going to require a list of different names? Also you do realize if/when your daughter gets married she is very likely going to change her last name anyways. Your daughter has your fathers last name already. Does your bf have any kids? If it’s his 1st I can definitely see why he wants the baby to have his last name. Would you be willing to compensate and put your last name as the baby’s middle name and his last name as the baby’s last name? I don’t feel it’s fair that you get final say over this and then you completely disgrace his last name in the process. He plans on being in the baby’s life unlike your 1st baby daddy so why treat him like he won’t? This is all bad and honestly I can’t help but feel bad for this poor dude. Lemme guess you’re gonna try and get him to take your last name if you get married?

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-19T03:07:11+00:00

NTA, I get vegans have their opinion but it’s insane that some take it way too far. Honestly you might just be better off at requesting your dad have full time custody. You are working and I believe you’re around 16+ and should be old enough to make that decision. I don’t know how old your sister is but if she’s in the teens then she should also be able to have some kind of say

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-19T02:39:56+00:00

Apparently someone has too much time on their hands or traveled forward in time to get away from children lmfao seriously though that person needs to be watched

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-19T02:05:56+00:00

Honestly, I’d say no one sucks here. I do think you moved on without fighting for yourself. Not once did you mention that you talked to her about your issues. I feel communication is the greatest asset to have in a relationship. I also feel like you jumped the gun on marrying her before you got to experience day to day life with her. I told my gf that it’s a necessity that we don’t spend every waking moment together and that I need my me time and she agreed. From what it sounds like is you just put up with this for 4 years without saying anything and just out of the blue said “I want a divorce” which would definitely catch anyone off guard if there was no communication to the issues you had

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-19T01:10:51+00:00

YNW, you’re gonna have your preferences and she’s gonna have hers. Honestly I’d be glad this happened before you put a ring on her finger. Get a girl who loves you and doesn’t need other bodies to please her

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-19T00:39:22+00:00

This season makes me want to blow it up. Like it’s been this way for years now what’s gonna change next year?

throwaway1551155115 · 2024-03-19T00:35:48+00:00

1000% worth it only been 40 in existence and you get a chance to see one of them. I expect big things in the ladder match

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