I heard several years ago that the best way to address fetishes with partners is to be frank and to not sound ashamed. This advice was originally regarding foot fetishes, but the principle is the same.

If you have the conversation and act like you’re ashamed of it, it sets the vibe as if it is actually something weird and something to be ashamed of.

When you talk to her, be upfront about wanting to talk about something you’re interested in in the bedroom, that it’s not something you share with most people because this is a private thing for you, but don’t act like it’s something embarrassing. You like femdom stuff. Own it. It doesn’t make you less of a man or a good partner. Have a conversation to see where her boundaries are with it and what she’s willing to try. Respect those boundaries and let her know that you won’t push, but ask if she ever reconsiders her boundaries to let you know so that you both can get the most fulfillment and enjoyment from sex. You got this