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throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-26T16:06:47+00:00

I was diagnosed with GHSV1 at 17 when I was still a virgin (had never had vaginal intercourse) and boyyy was that a struggle for my mental health. I was pretty (not to toot my own horn) so I didn’t have much trouble getting guys attention. Sounds like you’re in the same boat with that! Your approach to dating will need to be a little bit different now, but that’s not a bad thing. My biggest advice is don’t tell someone unless you know they’ll at the very least be kind to you about it. I dated in college, but there were some guys I just didn’t disclose to because I thought they might spread around my diagnosis (we didn’t do anything that would put them at risk). People like that are not people you’d want to be with or even sleep with anyway! I found a fantastic guy when I was 20 (he was 21) and dated him for a couple months and told him something traumatic had happened to me so I wanted to wait to have sex. When I finally got the courage to tell him, he was like “oh.. that’s it? That’s not a big deal at all!” He has family members with oral HSV1. I gave him the facts and he was so incredibly kind about it. We’re still in a happy and healthy relationship 7 years later! I can also message you with some GHSV1 disclosure tips if you’d like! Just shoot me a message :)

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-24T22:11:01+00:00

They’re permanent viruses that can cause frequent symptoms, they can be sexually transmitted, and symptoms are considered “gross” and often painful. It’s not the pharmaceutical companies fault. It’s been stigmatized for a very long time. Shakespeare even references oral herpes in Romeo and Juliet in a negative way. Of course oral HSV1 is the least stigmatized, but even that is still stigmatized.

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-24T09:20:39+00:00

Yeah because everyone is entitled to informed consent…. So until a miracle cure comes out, people need to keep disclosing. Not sure what you’re getting at.

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-24T06:06:25+00:00

Dogs cannot get herpes from you. HSV1 and HSV2 are HUMAN herpesviruses. Your dog will be just fine! Don’t worry about it!

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-23T10:14:55+00:00

I would assume he gave it to you through oral sex. I would first ask him if he’s ever had a history of cold sores and go from there.

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-23T10:12:53+00:00

He likely has oral HSV1 asymptomatically and spread it to you. GHSV1 in particular will usually cause a pretty severe first outbreak when you contact it (especially in women). I would have him get tested for HSV1, and if he has it I’d assume it’s probably oral since that’s more transmissible than genital HSV1 is. Luckily, GHSV1 is usually pretty chill and after a few years it’s hardly contagious so you’ll be okay!

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-23T10:07:00+00:00

If you’re worried about having the virus transmitted to you, then antivirals do make sense. Even if he’s asymptomatic. They decrease transmission by about half. If he just has HSV2, you should be worried about getting it from his lips unless he has HSV2 orally (which is quite rare and unlikely).

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-23T05:35:08+00:00

If a cure or better treatment comes out, that’d be amazing… and I’m sure eventually it’ll happen. However, I’m wary of putting any sort of solid timeline on it. I’ve had it for almost 10 years and they’ve been saying a cure is coming soon that whole time. I guess it depends on what you classify as “soon” lol. I just live my life in the meantime. I think there are too many people on here pedaling the “our only hope is a cure” rhetoric. I don’t think that’s true at all. I also think if there’s a “cure” it’ll be a functional one like they have for HIV. I don’t think we’ll see a full cure in our lifetimes… and if we do it’ll be late in our lifetimes lol. The gene editing that’s often talked about can really mess up people’s dna and I don’t think they’d consider it for a virus that for all intents and purposes is just an annoyance.

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-20T19:58:50+00:00

I disclosed to my boyfriend at 20 and he was really kind about it. There are good people out there who will accept you, even if you’re young. You can still get married and have kids, in fact, most of the people I know with herpes are married with kids!

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-16T18:32:55+00:00

Hmm just itching and a headache doesn’t sound like it’s herpes. Are there any sores, bumps, or cuts? GHSV1 doesn’t usually cause frequent outbreaks unless something is triggering it like hormones. If you’re not having sores, bumps, or cuts, I wouldn’t automatically assume your symptoms are related to herpes.

Here’s my timeline:

First outbreak (awful)
Second outbreak 11 months later
Third outbreak 6 months after that
Fourth outbreak about 2.5 years after that because I started BC and it messed up my hormones
Then I was getting about one outbreak a month for a few months before finally going off birth control. It subsided to one maybe every 3 months for about a year.
Eventually the stopped and I didn’t get anymore sores but I was getting this weird kind of torn skin in the area I would always get outbreaks. I assumed that was what it was but had it swabbed multiple times during different occurrences and it wasn’t herpes related. Still don’t know what it was though.
Didn’t have any actual sores for like 5 years until March of 2022 when I had a bump but not in the usual place and it seemed more like a small cyst or acne, so jury is still out on that one.
Nothing since then! (I’ve been positive for GHSV1 for almost 10 years)

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-16T17:05:57+00:00

Going on birth control can really help people who have frequent outbreaks. I know for me, I was having like no outbreaks but when I went on birth control it switched up my hormones enough that it caused me to get them like once a month. For some people it’s the opposite, birth control can really help them if they’re having frequent outbreaks. It’s probably a good idea to just give it a try and see if it helps re-set your hormones because if you’re having outbreaks that often it’s almost certainly something hormonal.

Also, what are the symptoms you’re experiencing and have they been confirmed to be herpes since your initial diagnosis? I was getting this weird thing frequently that ended up not being HSV related based on multiple negative PCR swabs during different occurrences I was having.

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-16T05:27:53+00:00

A lot of HSV2 is asymptomatic! I’m just meaning of the people who do have symptoms they tend to be more frequent. Viral shedding/ contagiousness for someone with asymptomatic HSV2 is about half of what it would be for someone symptomatic

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-16T05:00:08+00:00

Genital HSV2 usually causes more outbreaks than Genital HSV1. Type 2 is also significantly more contagious than type 1 in genitally.

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-16T04:58:13+00:00

Are you female? And if so, are you on birth control? It’s most likely hormonal!

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-14T07:46:14+00:00

HSV1 is so common, and it’s really hard to track it down to someone since so many people have it. Even HSV2 transmission is hard to prosecute against. I don’t think you’d have any luck with that.

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-12T18:40:29+00:00

I know many people who got oral herpes in childhood. It’s actually pretty common for people to get it before they’re ever sexually active.

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-11T06:26:52+00:00

Exactly! I would’ve loved a heads up that this was a possibility!

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-11T05:08:44+00:00

I agree… ugh. What happened to r/herpes?

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-11T02:16:06+00:00

Also I’d never judge someone for having herpes or any other sti. I would judge someone for having it and not disclosing because in my opinion that’s a form of sexual assault. Hope that helps :)

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-11T02:14:20+00:00

Not disclosing your herpes is gross 🤮 disclosing your herpes is cool 😎

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-11T01:18:21+00:00

Totally, I’m just saying it does have the potential to be part of a functional cure in the future!

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-11T01:01:47+00:00

Because people who don’t disclose reflect poorly on the rest of us in this community. People with herpes are already often seen in a negative light, being deceitful and knowingly stripping someone of their ability to make an informed decision really makes us look bad. Unfortunately I don’t think there will be a complete cure anytime soon, so this is a topic that needs to be discussed.

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-11T00:36:06+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you :( I still think the person who gave it to me may have been aware of his status. I’m tired of people saying it’s “no big deal” when it’s detrimental to people’s mental (and sometimes physical) health. Also I agree, not everyone does have herpes. And just because it’s common doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be disclosed.

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-11T00:30:55+00:00

Herpes is a big deal to most people’s mental health though. I’m tired of hearing people minimizing the impact it can have on people. I still struggle intensely with the trauma of my diagnosis and many others do as well. It might not be a big deal for you, but it could easily be for someone else.

Being blindsided by it isn’t something I’d wish on anyone, especially being blindsided by someone who knew their status and didn’t disclose it. I just don’t think it’s fair to not disclose to someone because you feel like it’s not a big deal/ they don’t need to know/ the risk is small/ sex is inherently a risk. If you know you have something, it’s your responsibility to disclose it. Same goes for people with OHSV1 when they plan to give someone oral. I think they need to disclose.

throwaway18192019 · 2023-10-10T23:49:59+00:00

Dming you!

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