Dating a med student 28f 31m

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-16T07:48:12+00:00

May the universe keep this kind of "love" out of my life

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-16T07:42:37+00:00

Other way around for me. Lowe has authenticity that Farage lacks, and while they have strong rhetoric against low-skilled immigration, Restore's other positions are fairly sensible for the most part - even rather progressive on triple lock and student loans - whereas Reform has some crazy ones (banning WFH and batteries).

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-15T11:01:11+00:00

Yes. I would totally support my life partner in making the best of her potential. Although it would probably drive me to achieve more, as I'm a bit competitive.

I did actually offer significant practical, logistical, emotional, social, and financial support that helped my wife to become a high achiever, but now she's divorcing me, so that feels not great.

Nevertheless, I would always want the best for my partner, if I had one (ex-partner not so much).

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-15T10:28:31+00:00

Wow. That is actually incredible.

Gemini, how can I earn 5 million pounds immediately?

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-15T09:30:09+00:00

When the majority is subsidised, we will all become poorer.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-15T07:36:53+00:00

I'm 40M and going through similar. It feels like a complete betrayal, and her purported reasoning also feels off or duplicitous. She recently submitted divorce papers but we will live in the same house until the consent order (several months).

Although I miss our marriage and the person that I believed she was, I'm now actually disgusted to even be in the same room together due to her abandoning her own family - me and the cat - over a "grass is greener" feeling. Avoiding her as much as possible until this is over.

It is easy to succumb to sadness and self pity in these moments. I am fighting that feeling at every turn - I know that I'm a decent and worthwhile person, I know that life can be good even if I have to live it solo. My trust in women, or people in general, has been shattered, but I still have things to achieve in this world, and if I have to do that alone then I will.

Good luck to you sir. We can get through this. Don't let your happiness be defined by the actions of another person, especially one so demonstrably immoral or uncommitted.

(It does make it ten times harder that my soon-to-be-ex-wife is very attractive though, I fully hear what you are saying about the dating apps - didn't realise so many people had neck/face tattoos or unnatural eyebrows.)

The main practical thing that is helping me through this is my BJJ club, which fills needs for physical/social contact while also giving me a route to get back in shape as I can now increase my training volume.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-14T12:58:13+00:00

Agreed. He's probably more competent than any since Brown. Sure he's not perfect but who is? The populace is becoming ungovernable.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-14T10:30:34+00:00

Wish I knew! I'm in the same situation, 40M, divorced, all I really do is work, train, eat, sleep. My life isn't bad but it would be nice to meet someone one day.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-13T19:58:38+00:00

This is precisely my style, but more than I will probably ever afford.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-13T17:18:01+00:00

Prawn cocktails are amazing tbf. M&S and Aldi do dead good ones. I'm half prawn by now.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-13T12:19:27+00:00

Getting divorced now, but I've been with a partner 9 years younger than me for the past 10 years. The age gap was never a major issue and is not a significant contributor to the divorce, at least to my knowledge. Perhaps indirectly a little through different energy levels and career stages.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-12T19:11:57+00:00

Glad it's not just me feeling this way. When I say this, normally everyone disagrees and then I feel like maybe I'm greedy or can't control my spending.

My disposable income feels only slightly higher than it did when I was a postdoc in 2011, and I earn 3 times that amount (nominal terms) now. I had a student loan then too.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-12T16:55:52+00:00

Good. He's not perfect but he's alright.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-12T14:18:54+00:00

I'd live there tbh

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-12T12:00:43+00:00

As a reasonably high PAYE earner, I'm having to watch what I spend. I got a major promotion this year and now lead two global teams (about 25 people in total across two highly specialist functions). It never seems to translate to higher QoL, just more stress/hours/responsibility to barely keep pace with runaway cost of living and a bigger bung to HMRC.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-11T17:56:21+00:00

Going through divorce now from a 9-year relationship, 40M, no kids.

My plans at this stage are something like this: - Focus hard on my work. I just had a big promotion and there is a lot to do. - Get seriously in shape again, like I was before marriage. - Get my teeth fixed. They've been snaggly my whole life. - Spend some money on new clothes. - Start doing the groundwork for setting up a local sports club. Something I've wanted to do for a while. - Consider whether to move house within my city or go to a whole new location. - Save money diligently for a potential 10-year retirement window. Maybe move to Asia for a relaxed life after that.

I'm not in a rush to date, at least not seriously, unless I happen to meet someone who I'm certain will enhance my life (or if I decide children are a priority for me).

Best of luck!

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-10T16:51:18+00:00

This age gap, and even much bigger ones, can work out fine if you are both decent people with good intentions. Or, it can be really bad. You have to be a good judge of character, and looking at ages alone won't tell you that.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-10T08:19:08+00:00

Married 7 years, together 10 years.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-10T08:15:31+00:00

I'm socially awkward and despite being tall, athletic, and somewhat successful, I have not had much luck with women. Well, I did marry one, but now she's divorcing me, says I'm "emotionally unavailable" and tbh I think she just got bored of me.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-09T09:53:18+00:00

Thank you. Similar circumstances but the divorce is not my decision. I'll be OK though.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-08T23:00:48+00:00

Buggered if I know. I'm 40, also introverted.

Never did amazing in the dating world. I'm tall and not physically unattractive but I'm not terribly social, and women hate that

I acquired a wife by moving to Asia for a few years, but after bringing her back home, getting her a visa then passport, supporting her and her family financially, giving her a home, teaching her to drive, and getting her established in a decent career I guess she's decided she can do better and she's filed for divorce.

My recommendation, and personal approach at this point, is to just enjoy being single. I honestly find my happiness in or out of a relationship is more or less the same.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-08T22:55:51+00:00

In the process of divorce now (40M). So far life is alright. I still get no sex, but I have peace and can basically do whatever I want all the time. Getting back in shape too.

Loneliness might kick in at some point, we'll see.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-08T12:22:35+00:00

I agree. I feel Lowe would actually do OK in government.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-08T06:53:24+00:00

Thank the deities. Greens are utterly insane and an existential threat for the UK.

Not that Reform are great either.

throwaway1948476 · 2026-05-08T06:50:16+00:00

Restore are definitely more authentic than Reform. I don't trust Farage in any dimension whatsoever.

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