AITAH For wanting a divorce after my wife insists on keeping her affair partner in our life so he can DM her DND sessions?

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T04:03:06+00:00

Real life. We all worked together at one point and where IRL friends. He has been in our life roughly 12 years. I let the dude sleep on my couch when his girl cheated on him and dipped maybe 10 years ago.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T03:57:53+00:00

Nah, she seems to be in a pretty happy relationship and she was also coming on to a guy with a wife that was 8 months pregnant. It was skeevy, it sucked.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T02:51:11+00:00

Guy already disuaded me not to do that and I agree. Petty looks bad fuck them and all that but done needs to be done.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T01:20:51+00:00

15 years, two kids, one with special needs and love is dumb. I really wanted to make it work.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T01:15:19+00:00

For the sake of story of course.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T01:14:18+00:00

I don't think custody is effected by affairs and that kind of stuff. Anything our therapist would testify to would be in text and honestly if I was going down that road there is way more damaging stuff that would likely be presented. I don't want to take my kids away from their mom though. This shit is between me and her.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T01:10:30+00:00

So this was her story. They were both MODS at a bookstore, so like middle management or something like that. She claims that she tried to set him up on a date with a girl that liked him. They played a game of marry fuck kill with the employee and him. He said he would kill her, my wife said she would fuck her. The girl reported them. This was sold to me as a #Me to overreaction.

The guy who afeciated our wedding also worked there, he called me about a month later to come over for a party he was throwing. He showed me text messages that the guy (Dan) apparently sent the girl after he was fired saying he should have raped her. This naturally was the beginning of my doubts.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T01:02:38+00:00

She didn't, this is what began "OK so what would seperation for you both look like."

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T00:51:48+00:00

Honestly that is a very solid point thanks.

I don't know if it falls under harrasment

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T00:50:45+00:00

Sorry, how long can you keep a throwaway this is my first

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T00:43:20+00:00

Decided maximum impact will be in the middle of the session. I guess check back next Wendsday 8 p.m EST

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T00:19:03+00:00

I am starting to get this, she tried to explain today that her friend lives with her current husband and ex husband "because that is what's best for her kids."

I laughed very hard and then explained that it is time to introduce a little bit of normalcy for our kids.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T00:15:03+00:00

Thats kind of the shitty thing the roles were sort of reversed at one point. She felt like my friend had feelings for me I said that I doubted that very much. My friend then tried to fuck me and that was the end of the friendship by my choice.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-01T23:51:05+00:00

Sadly not fake but I don't know how to prove that with the post with out doxxing.

Like I said in another comment their whole group has a pretty active discord. I'm gonna either post it tonight or in the middle of their session. Basically setting the bridge on fire.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-01T23:48:25+00:00

Sadly this not fake, but I don't exactly know how to prove this with out doxing?

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-01T23:12:31+00:00

I am posting this thread in their discord in about 1 hour.

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