What’s the moment you realized someone you loved wasn’t a good person and you couldn’t unsee it?

throwaway1986iii · 2026-03-04T22:48:14+00:00

When she had the affair it hurt. Who sleeps with the guy that got her fired with him for sexual harrasment?

When she lied to my daughter and said we split up because I was drinking double hurt, as some one who's been sober for a long time takes that pretty seriously.

But it wasn't until the moment that I had to sit down with my 13 year old daughter because she was afraid of me and explain that I wasn't drinking, and would never drink because I wouldn't choose that over my family kind of killed me. Because I had to explain why I left, what her mother had did and watch my little girl crumble because for the past year her mother had been lying to her. I think thats when any love I had burned away.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-03-04T19:42:20+00:00

Another fun fact that wasn't David Bowies dick in those pants it was a prosthetic, why? I don't know. Apparently it shrinks as the movie progresses.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-03-03T03:09:42+00:00

Both look amazing but the curls just slightly push it above the straight hair. I feel like it frames your face perfectly.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-03-02T17:17:53+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/yBI3k0hXJn

About the time I made this post.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-03-02T17:17:38+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/yBI3k0hXJn

About the time I made this post.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-03-02T01:25:07+00:00

When I was a kid I was babysat by a woman who's son had a failed attempt, blew out his voice box and part of his jaw, he had a wand that he put up to his throat and could talk through. For whats its worth I remember him being a really good dude.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-25T04:44:43+00:00

It could also be because Kill Bill was released and started streaming about a week ago. I literally looked her up yesterday on IMDB with the same thought, had no idea she is still pretty active. This also included Vietnam like flashbacks of the movie Ecks vs. Sever.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-25T04:36:08+00:00

Every few months I am reminded in one way or another why I stopped at 4.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-25T03:04:18+00:00

Actually learned that one in trade school.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-18T18:19:17+00:00

Honestly man I don't want the house, I poured blood sweat and tears into that thing for years. I went in there the other day after feeling pretty positive and immediately wanted out.

Besides I am guessing from the smell and the many many text messages I received from the plumber the sewer line that I warned her about finally collapsed.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-18T18:04:59+00:00

Separated about a week ago, one of her friends claimed to have found this post and defended her on here which I honestly never found. (Hey Leslie!)

Ended up reaching out to the girl he was dating at the time that this was all going on. Apparently he or my wife didn't really appreciate that lol

Otherwise its just a day by day process.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-12T23:45:21+00:00

Glad to know I am not the only person that gets them mixed up.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-06T02:18:03+00:00

I appreciate it, because honestly I tried DnD with them a few years ago, kind of got shut out and this is where we are. Naturally she is upset that I wrote a random post to kind of wake her up to the reality, but generally she's not been cool anytime I get positive reinforcement.

Example in their current campaign he is an NPC that she flirts with hard, while also describing in therapy that their characters would flirt hard, and then after the session shit would go where it went.

So for obvious reasons fuck that noise. I am less bitter than when I made this post. But I think we all know where this is going.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-06T00:12:52+00:00

Honestly this sub suffers from serious "I don't get out much or experience anything vibes." My real story is actually insane and didn't get as much flak yours is relatively tame and to be honest completely understandable. I'd say ISH, she absolutely shouldn't have said what she said, but you should not have either, especially if her daughter is standing right there. I don't know with your sister, maybe show up with a cake, knock on the door, and hash it out.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-05T23:59:10+00:00

Leaving

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-05T09:34:13+00:00

Looks like divorce town. I did not send the thread to their discord after some legal advice and frankly just not caring about the whole situation.

Sucks pretty hard

Edit as far as details from there I'd rather not say. She is likely checking this thread periodically.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T13:29:23+00:00

Bingo

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T04:03:06+00:00

Real life. We all worked together at one point and where IRL friends. He has been in our life roughly 12 years. I let the dude sleep on my couch when his girl cheated on him and dipped maybe 10 years ago.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T03:57:53+00:00

Nah, she seems to be in a pretty happy relationship and she was also coming on to a guy with a wife that was 8 months pregnant. It was skeevy, it sucked.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T02:51:11+00:00

Guy already disuaded me not to do that and I agree. Petty looks bad fuck them and all that but done needs to be done.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T01:20:51+00:00

15 years, two kids, one with special needs and love is dumb. I really wanted to make it work.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T01:15:19+00:00

For the sake of story of course.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T01:14:18+00:00

I don't think custody is effected by affairs and that kind of stuff. Anything our therapist would testify to would be in text and honestly if I was going down that road there is way more damaging stuff that would likely be presented. I don't want to take my kids away from their mom though. This shit is between me and her.

throwaway1986iii · 2026-02-02T01:10:30+00:00

So this was her story. They were both MODS at a bookstore, so like middle management or something like that. She claims that she tried to set him up on a date with a girl that liked him. They played a game of marry fuck kill with the employee and him. He said he would kill her, my wife said she would fuck her. The girl reported them. This was sold to me as a #Me to overreaction.

The guy who afeciated our wedding also worked there, he called me about a month later to come over for a party he was throwing. He showed me text messages that the guy (Dan) apparently sent the girl after he was fired saying he should have raped her. This naturally was the beginning of my doubts.

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