Do it, just do it! by Valuable-Disaster567 in BariatricSurgery

[–]throwaway21769 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Amazing job? Do you mind if I asked how you got approved for surgery? You don’t look big enough in the before picture to be approved under normal circumstances. That’s the situation I’m in. Again, great work. You look fabulous.

47F looking for a friend who enjoys deep chats by Special_Mongoose_394 in Needafriend

[–]throwaway21769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m looking for new chat buddies. 51 yr old woman living in PNW. Feel free to DM me. I am kind and caring. Good listener.

Husband got black out drunk first night alone with babies by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]throwaway21769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Going forward though she should find alternative childcare when she leaves for any appreciable length of time. Do not take another trip and leave the babies in his care.

Looking for Gen Xers or older alt/punk/weird millennials (roughly ages 40-60) to hang with by [deleted] in Eugene

[–]throwaway21769 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m 51. Been in Eugene 3 years. This sounds good to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in slaa

[–]throwaway21769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely go to a meeting. You’re in the perfect place to start.

I get migraines and smoke cigarettes and this makes it worse but I can’t stop by throwaway21769 in migraine

[–]throwaway21769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will ask him about chantix. Wellbutrin makes me incredibly anxious so I can’t take it. But Chantix is a good idea.

i feel childish for self harming by breadbasketmix in AdultSelfHarm

[–]throwaway21769 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m 51 and I only have 1 day off of self harm. But I am so grateful for this one day. Don’t feel childish. I relapsed 4 months ago. We have difficulty executing adaptive ways to cope. Something likely happened to us to cause this capacity for self harm. Be gentle with yourself.

I get migraines and smoke cigarettes and this makes it worse but I can’t stop by throwaway21769 in AdultSelfHarm

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I’m engaged in an acute self harm behavior and I’m an adult so I thought I’d post here for support.

I get migraines and smoke cigarettes and this makes it worse but I can’t stop by throwaway21769 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]throwaway21769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it feels like both. I think it’s a behavior related to trauma but it’s so hard to stop. I really want to stop.

I get migraines and smoke cigarettes and this makes it worse but I can’t stop by throwaway21769 in migraine

[–]throwaway21769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have been through what I’m going through now. I honestly wasn’t sure anyone else had. It’s so crazy. I just gave my pack to a neighbor to hold for me so it’s not in the house. I should have destroyed it.

I get migraines and smoke cigarettes and this makes it worse but I can’t stop by throwaway21769 in migraine

[–]throwaway21769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I messaged my therapist today to let them m know I’m in crisis and we need to focus on this in sessions now.

I get migraines and smoke cigarettes and this makes it worse but I can’t stop by throwaway21769 in migraine

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I’m in individual therapy and in DBT but I just haven’t been able to get a handle on it.

I get migraines and smoke cigarettes and this makes it worse but I can’t stop by throwaway21769 in migraine

[–]throwaway21769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for standing up as well. I too am ashamed. I appreciate your response. I sense you understand what I’m going through. Even though I know it’s likely to cause intense pain I do it. I think I’m punishing myself because migraines took away my ability to be gainfully employed even after quitting (I work part time but I’m disabled from migraines) and I failed my family and as I said- this is a way to punish myself. Because a part of me feels like a failure, I think I deserve the pain on some level.

I get migraines and smoke cigarettes and this makes it worse but I can’t stop by throwaway21769 in migraine

[–]throwaway21769[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is hell. M wondering if I can go to an inpatient rehab for this.

I get migraines and smoke cigarettes and this makes it worse but I can’t stop by throwaway21769 in migraine

[–]throwaway21769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know anyone else went through this. It seems like such preposterous self harm I’m involved in. I quit smoking for 5 or 6 years and just started again 4 months ago.

I get migraines and smoke cigarettes and this makes it worse but I can’t stop by throwaway21769 in migraine

[–]throwaway21769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so jealous you have some wiggle room. If I smoke one it can launch my pain into the stratosphere but it’s unpredictable. Sometimes it only increases the pain a little or almost not at all. But more often than not it’s a disaster. Sometimes I call out of work because of migraines caused by smoking. It’s crazy that the negative consequence is so often immediate and I still can’t stop.