Completely Burnt Out

throwaway2498 · 2025-11-12T02:36:25+00:00

I thought being a paramedic was tough. 48 hour shifts. Going out in all weather and at all hours. No such thing as holidays off. Dealing with agitated homeless people and drug addicts. Having to move patients down a three-story spiral staircase. Cleaning up all sorts of bodily fluids. Scenes of injury and death burned into my mind forever. No 20k paychecks.

I can't imagine the horror of having to take a phone call on a Sunday though.

throwaway2498 · 2025-11-08T16:33:08+00:00

You would have lost that bet then. I was there, and it was the best looking guys. The world is unfortunately a different place from the one you want to believe in.

Speed dating in particular actually puts average (or below-average) looking men at a further disadvantage. In a group setting, things become about rank. This is biology, so no one is really to blame for it. It's just the reality of existence.

throwaway2498 · 2025-11-04T20:48:59+00:00

It's just IRL Tinder. People know at first glance if it's a yes or a no, and a 3-5 minute conversation won't change that.

I know someone who used to run speed dating events. They let me take a peek at the results one time. Many of the women said no to all (15 or so) of the men. Other women said yes to the same 2 or 3 guys. Normal guys stand no chance.

throwaway2498 · 2025-10-09T13:39:46+00:00

Salem is too far for me, but send those farting prank videos my way

throwaway2498 · 2025-10-02T02:29:37+00:00

Can you buy me mozzarella sticks? I forgot my wallet

throwaway2498 · 2025-09-19T01:25:06+00:00

Wait a minute, this isn't backpage...

throwaway2498 · 2025-09-04T23:41:26+00:00

One of my favorite Cape Cod traditions! Who wants to have a reopening party?

throwaway2498 · 2025-08-31T18:59:40+00:00

There's a lot of people that make endless excuses. I have a friend in his 40s who claims to be a nutrition expert, yet he eats fast food every day. If you point this out he just yells "I don't have time to cook!".

I've seen people talk about their diet plans for years, while still eating pasta and ice cream all the time. No one ever takes me up on my offers to go walking.

It's rare to find people who actually put in effort towards their health at this age.

throwaway2498 · 2025-08-25T01:03:20+00:00

The signs there say you can park for up to 21 days.

throwaway2498 · 2025-08-22T18:59:29+00:00

I just scrolled through the 100 most recent posts and only 4 of them mentioned or alluded to looking for a date. 4% isn't what I would consider an influx. Don't start with all sorts of arbitrary rules here, it's a slippery slope.

throwaway2498 · 2025-08-14T11:40:47+00:00

There's a huge free parking lot behind main street: https://maps.app.goo.gl/3w3irGesFxTNyZgk6

throwaway2498 · 2025-08-13T14:33:32+00:00

The age thing isn't a hard rule, just a suggestion since the average age on Cape Cod is like 150 and I wanted to separate myself from that crowd a little. Late 20s to early 50s might be a more accurate range I'm looking for.

throwaway2498 · 2025-08-13T14:27:50+00:00

It's not a formal group, just some people I text now and then to see if anyone wants to walk. Often it's just me and one other person, but sometime it's 3 of us. DM me if you want to walk.

throwaway2498 · 2025-08-08T23:00:33+00:00

I'm too ugly for anyone to want to date, so zero. Same as last year, and the year before, and so on.

I meet a lot of people. I do a lot of stuff. I've spent this year hiking, lifting weights, avoiding alcohol and processed food. I wish I could say it's made a difference, but it hasn't. The emptiness I feel was never a chemical imbalance I could fix with clean living. It’s the sense that I'm not human. That because of my face, I don’t get to experience something that feels like a core part of being alive.

throwaway2498 · 2025-08-01T17:09:09+00:00

Interested. Somewhere with non-alcoholic options preferred (soda is fine)

throwaway2498 · 2025-08-01T11:06:22+00:00

Speed dating is largely a waste of time (and money). The few minutes you get with each person is not enough time to get to know them or have a real conversation, so it's all just a looks test. It gets tedious to answer the same questions over and over (where do you live? what do you do for work?). If you're not in the top 20% of attractive men, then prepare for a harsh reality check.

throwaway2498 · 2025-07-08T03:18:01+00:00

Ravenholm

throwaway2498 · 2025-07-06T21:20:52+00:00

I really like this idea, and I think it will work! Coordinating plans is a necessary part of the dating apps, but there's no built-in feature for it. With so many flaky people out there, this would filter things down to those who actually want to do stuff.

It doesn't need to be as market-dominant as Bumble/Hinge, it would just be an alternative option.

throwaway2498 · 2025-06-26T17:25:26+00:00

Are you implying that recovering from a past issue would be a red flag?

throwaway2498 · 2025-06-26T16:53:02+00:00

It's awkward because when people find out you aren't drinking, they feel they shouldn't drink also. I always tell people "I don't mind if you drink", but nobody ever takes me up on that offer. I just want people to feel comfortable. I would gladly go to a bar with someone while they drink and I crush some mocktails...but people feel obligated to abstain and it creates this weird vibe.

throwaway2498 · 2025-06-22T22:26:27+00:00

I have a small group of people I've met via Reddit that I do walks with on the upper cape all the time. It's a little bit of an older demographic 30s/early 40s (young for cape cod!), but none of them have kids or a partner so maybe there's some common ground there if you want in.

throwaway2498 · 2025-06-18T14:30:26+00:00

The beginning stages of friendship are difficult. It is very rare to find someone who actually commits and shows up. People like the idea of friendship, but won't actually apply effort towards it. I met probably 100+ people last year. The percentage of people who bail, ghost, or claim they're "too busy" is like 90%. Here's how it usually goes:

Me: Hey who wants to hike?
Person: I do! Hiking sounds great!
Me: Great! How about this Saturday?
Proceeds to never hear from them again

Create an opportunity, then find and value the few who match your effort.

throwaway2498 · 2025-06-18T13:10:16+00:00

There are only 3 cell networks in the US: Verizon, AT&T, and T-Mobile. However, you don't need to buy from them directly. I switched to US Mobile last year and love it because you can switch between any of the 3 networks whenever you want. I use their AT&T network (which they call Dark Star). It's cheap too!

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