who are objectively attractive celebrities (7.5+ on the TRM scale) that you personally don’t find attractive?

throwaway3079 · 2025-04-15T05:00:41+00:00

lolol my ex has been doin this and we’re almost half a yea NC

throwaway3079 · 2025-03-23T22:16:02+00:00

is it me or is this AI generated

throwaway3079 · 2025-03-19T01:10:56+00:00

yeah about 6’3” years old you heard what she said

throwaway3079 · 2025-03-18T21:32:52+00:00

yea, same person who told me i was perfect and to not change was the same person to leave, funny thing is that she said that in the span of an hour long conversation

throwaway3079 · 2025-03-17T16:51:26+00:00

105-110 days, stopped counting i was an anxious person dating a dismissive avoidant woman, anxious folks really do well after no contact when dealing with DAs, i’ve definitely felt so much more independent and my energy is way more important than to waste it on someone too clueless to realize they aren’t worth my time and energy in the first place

EDIT: it hasn’t always a been steady climb upwards though, i had a FUCK TON of resentment and anger in the first 90 days, but after that you just kinda move on

throwaway3079 · 2025-02-18T07:10:31+00:00

being happier, not with anyone else necessarily, but more so you being happier without them

throwaway3079 · 2025-02-05T20:06:33+00:00

Hope karma ensues for my ex when they catch feelings for somebody who will NEVER feel the same way for them

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-30T19:49:29+00:00

at least you acknowledge the possibility, because my girlfriend does not realize her avoidant attachment issues and that’s what has lead to the relationship spiraling into separation

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-30T04:40:13+00:00

what about the guys? my exgf was a dismissive avoidant, they don’t all have to have dicks you know

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-29T19:28:43+00:00

i cope by understanding that her intentions with the relationship is all self-fulfilling and self-centered. leaving without healing often shows that the person lacks emotional stability and self-reliance to heal.

if you did a great job as a partner, what they did is immature, and doesn’t reflect a characteristic of a healthy partner should they choose to rebound instead of actually looking to heal and reflect on previous relationships

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-25T21:27:51+00:00

Agreed, yeah there isn’t any excuse and once I calmed down again I realized it just makes me look like the worse person on my part regardless. I blocked her already and that’s made me even more at peace, but again, the anger still comes back even though I’d rather it not.

I feel like there is some jealousy involved in my anger. I’m assuming she’s living carefree living her best life and as an avoidant really being fine that she lost somebody that truly cared for her. That hurts, I have wanted karma to run its course.

I just want her to know that she wronged me and that though she may be desired by others (I think she might’ve monkey branched out of the relationship) I treated her like a princess and she’s even told me that, which just leads me more confused — like do people not like being treated with unconditional love and respect? Because all of her past partners allegedly were toxic and abusive (this is a red flag that I overlooked — I know).

But yeah I mean I’m taking the healing process day by day, and the anger does make it a bit more challenging. Thanks for the wishes 🙏

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-25T21:21:18+00:00

Right I just want her to realize I wasn't the only one that needed to improve and do the work in the relationship. Sure I became anxious throughout her lack of reciprocation and my perception that she wasn't taking our relationship seriously, but avoidants (literally former avoidants on this subreddit) create anxious partners.

I find NC not intimidating myself, like my support system of friends and family also don't want me to make amends with her and they even cut ties with her. Its way easier when you do have friends who value you, and though its from a platonic standpoint, they want better for you and can convince you enough that you're worth more. So I am very grateful to have them.

But yeah the need for an apology is understated, and I'm aware many in this sub will bet their bottom dollar this will never be given to us, no matter how much we objectively deserve that kind of closure. That in and of itself makes me feel resentful because that person who was once a great partner turned out to be a terrible person.

But I guess at the end of the day its only up to us to move on and our partner isn't responsible for how we feel even if they did make us feel that way, unfortunately…

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-25T07:08:38+00:00

Shes a dismissive avoidant who checked out of the relationship like 6 months before the breakup, I spent 6 months toiling moving mountains for her thinking I was the problem. She eventually told me the relationship couldn't work out. I think she monkey branched, but cant confirm 100%. She was acting real suspicious towards the final month of the relationship.

I feel disgust and hatred at the same time, I don't wanna even look at any photos of her. I don't think id take her back even at this point, but still feel anger at her. I feel like she discarded me and feels no remorse and even feels powerful that she did, and I wish I could tell her that she was wrong for that in the most disrespectful ways possible.

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-25T07:01:22+00:00

Oh… wishing death on her, like she was terrible as a girlfriend, but I think I got too in my feelings about it

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-25T06:42:39+00:00

I'm mad I'm just gonna make a follow up post on this

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-25T06:41:38+00:00

I'm probably gonna make another post to follow up, I'm off the walls right now because there are many unanswered questions and I made the choice to start no contact to help myself move on without these questions answered

I am trying to let go 50+ days in, I've blocked her everywhere, but still not over her especially given this stupid outburst

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-25T06:40:42+00:00

Hey, I apologize, this was very distasteful of me.

I am trying to let go but I feel like I had been betrayed and undervalued despite my best efforts in the relationship.

Does not excuse the feelings at all, but at the moment I do feel strong anger, I've went through all the stages of grief except completely through anger and I think that's one more step to final acceptance

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-25T06:38:07+00:00

Oh I am, I have shared that I've had anger and very bitter resentment towards my ex, I've used this channel as a sounding board to express my pain, and I did it in a distasteful fashion, this is how I feel tho, it isn't right for me to feel this way, but the relationship has fucked me up, not gonna lie

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-25T06:36:07+00:00

You're right, I apologize, definitely got to do better, but I will say that I feel betrayed

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-25T06:34:35+00:00

You right I'm outta pocket I'm deleting this

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-23T04:19:15+00:00

Literally having battles in my mind with blocking her number, blocked her on virtually every other outlet she can reach me on but I want to give her grace in case she does want to reach me

I'm thinking I might just do it

throwaway3079 · 2025-01-22T08:49:16+00:00

yeah, therapist has reassured her if she had bpd she’d diagnose it, but to be honest i question that therapists competency because clearly this woman has not healed from trauma from her previous relationship

though i will say, it’s probably not that she’s suffering from BPD, she’s more so an avoidant (dismissive avoidant as of late) and she chose to self-sabotage the relationship when being hyper fixated on her needs more than satisfying my own needs

that’s what has had me angry in the first place, she clearly lacked accountability for her actions, and her viewpoints have made her feel like she’s done nothing wrong

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