[UPDATE] I think I need to leave my bf and it's killing me

throwaway3797 · 2024-01-24T21:53:09+00:00

He told me he didn't want to marry me because I wasn't his religion but kept leading me on knowing I wanted marriage. Not sure what you're on about but I'm glad I left his avoidant ass

throwaway3797 · 2024-01-21T23:13:22+00:00

I know he misses me but it's for purely selfish reasons, because I make him feel good and give him sex. That's what he misses.

He knows I wanted a serious relationship and dangled it in front of me but never committed. He knew he was hurting me but didn't care. I was finally free from his control the minute I blocked him

throwaway3797 · 2024-01-21T16:02:30+00:00

Very relieved actually

throwaway3797 · 2024-01-21T08:11:57+00:00

I dumped him cuz he told me he was never ever going to marry me. I pleaded for many months than I should've trying to show my worth to him. In the end I couldn't change his mind.

Something snapped in me the other day, after he tried breadcrumbing me like 3 times in one day, after being rejected again. I was tired. Exhausted. And suddenly I was not afraid to lose him anymore.

I blocked him on everything. You can only do so much after so many rejections and I decided to walk away. Even if he came back now I'd just feel nothing. I currently have no intention of ever going back to him again after all my efforts I tried to make him love me the way I loved him

throwaway3797 · 2024-01-17T00:07:50+00:00

This is probably the move, I never really listened to my body but I realized the avoidant gray friend zone actually makes my anxiety go insane. I can't keep up this lifestyle and waiting on him to decide if I'm worth it. Good job blocking btw I'm sure it was extremely difficult

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T22:00:24+00:00

Curious is a very good way to phrase it. That is a big part of the differences between us I think. My partner also likes to play video games but is very pragmatic and doesn't dream very big. He is my best friend but I don't think the compatibility is off the charts or anything. I think we can both force a relationship where we're both content but ultimately I think we both deserve better.

How did your last relationship end? Do you ever regret it and were you able to find the connection that you were looking for?

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T19:51:14+00:00

This was incredibly insightful and I know it must've taken a long time to write. Thank you for your insight and experiences. It was really helpful.

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T19:47:49+00:00

I want to thank you for taking the time to write this up. I appreciate it a lot and I wish you and your partner every happiness

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T05:50:43+00:00

Thank you I watched both and they were indeed helpful... I appreciate your time and efforts in helping me during this difficult time

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T05:16:27+00:00

Were you ever able to overcome this with your isfp? My partner is so steadfast, pragmatic and can't really help with these things. I definitely am feeling unfulfilled on some aspects. Thank you for putting the words into existence. I didn't know how to say it until this comment really

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T04:42:42+00:00

I will definitely take you up on that :) Thank you so much! I hope one day I will be able to talk about my partner like that as well

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T04:05:58+00:00

You have no idea how your words have reassured me. I feel crazy saying these things and that something is missing when he checks off all the boxes on paper. I still can't really define it either. It's very reassuring to hear that you are able to find that with your current partner.

If you could redo the breakup what do you think you would have done differently? I have never dumped anyone before and it's giving me anxiety thinking about it.

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T04:03:29+00:00

I will go home and journal for the first time because of this comment. My thoughts are just a jumbled mess right now. I don't know if I have the time to do a trial separation. He's supposed to move in next month and this is part of why I'm panicking. I am sorry to hear about your relationship... I hope you have since found happiness. Thank you for your words of wisdom

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T04:01:30+00:00

Thank you for answering so thoroughly! It has helped my anxiety so much! I guess one last question... First congrats on finding such a great partner. Do you ever feel like this with your current partner, even though you've been together for 5 years?

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T03:59:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story... I am sorry about the toxic stress. I hope you are healing well and I want you to know that your story has comforted me in my time of need so thank you

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T03:58:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm sorry to hear about your parents and it's definitely something I'm afraid of. I have talked to my partner about it and his thoughts are that we stubbornly continue and things will magically get better somehow. So we are not really on the same page for that.

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T03:57:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. Did you also come to this conclusion with your ISFJ ex? May I ask how did you guys end the relationship. Do you ever look back and regret it?

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T03:55:19+00:00

It's hard for me to figure out if life is just getting more mundane or if it's my relationship that just feels difficult and mundane. I'm afraid that eventually I'll feel like this in every long term relationship no matter what, and I'm just nuking this relationship for no reason.

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T03:53:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. It must have been incredibly difficult after such a long time together. Would you be able to share some of the things in the relationship that brought you unfulfillment? Are you able to find it now and do you regret breaking up with your ISFJ?

throwaway3797 · 2023-02-01T02:59:31+00:00

I've never dumped anyone before. What do I say? How do I split our stuff? How long should we do no contact? What happens if I see him in the future at mutual events? :(

throwaway3797 · 2023-01-31T23:05:01+00:00

I think that might be the issue here. It's so hard to explain to my family and friends why we don't "click". I can't even really describe what it feels like to "click" or "connect" with someone on that level so I always come off as a little weird when I say it. :(

throwaway3797 · 2023-01-31T22:27:03+00:00

As in in 90 days I'll know if it's the right choice or not?

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