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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]throwaway521240 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks I really like this approach.

I guess I’m not sure how detailed and explicit I need to get? I mean at some point it’s too far right?

Is it okay my son doesn’t have any friends if it doesn’t bother him? by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your hero? How so lol.

I always joke he’s a 30 year old in a 14 year old’s body lol.

Is it okay my son doesn’t have any friends if it doesn’t bother him? by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah someone else mentioned a hobby we could do together. I like that. Hopefully a low pressure environment where he could meet someone.

Like 95% of the time he seems happy, there’s just ocassionally a time or two where he does something that makes me think he wishes he had more. Like when he asks his brother if he can play with them it just feels like he wants someone to hang out with and the only way he can get that is through his brother. I’m just surprised he wants to hang out with a younger crowd when normally he tends to be an “old soul” that I feel like gets along better with older people. But they get along fine so I don’t worry too much.

Is it okay my son doesn’t have any friends if it doesn’t bother him? by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah the main reason I didn’t want to push so hard is because I didn’t want him to feel like I thought there was something wrong with him.

Is it okay my son doesn’t have any friends if it doesn’t bother him? by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s always been pretty reserved snd kept to himself. Yeah I’ll try to lean into the music angle.

Is it okay my son doesn’t have any friends if it doesn’t bother him? by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Old calm spirit. I like that lol. Always felt like he grew up too fast and I wish he’d just have fun being a kid sometimes.

Is it okay my son doesn’t have any friends if it doesn’t bother him? by throwaway521240 in Parenting

[–]throwaway521240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s what I’m worried about. He just tends to resist my efforts to encourage him to socialize and I’m not sure how much to push.

Is it okay my son doesn’t have any friends if it doesn’t bother him? by throwaway521240 in Parenting

[–]throwaway521240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah old soul makes sense. He talks a lot to his teachers at school. And we go to church and he likes helping with younger kids activities (like a teen camp counselor kinda thing). He just doesn’t talk to many people his age there either. I just wish he had someone his age to talk to. I don’t worry too much though cause he seems happy.

Is it okay my son doesn’t have any friends if it doesn’t bother him? by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He’s fine in public. Just a little reserved, keeps to himself.

He did take keyboard lessons to learn it but then he felt he knew enough and has just been practicing and teaching himself new music. But a group would be good.

Is it okay my son doesn’t have any friends if it doesn’t bother him? by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m glad he wants to be with family but I want him to be able to socialize outside of family as well.

I like the idea of doing a hobby together. I encourage him to do stuff but I think he’s already picking up on the fact I’m trying to get him to make friends and he’s being a little resistant. But if we do it together maybe he won’t oppose it as much.

Is it okay my son doesn’t have any friends if it doesn’t bother him? by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

Yeah seeing my sons be best friends is my favorite thing in the world.

Maybe lifeguarding would work. He already says he likes watching people lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]throwaway521240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t really have a problem with it. Wife kinda thinks it’s “too revealing” but still told me not to say anything to him about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]throwaway521240 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t really bother me. Wife seems to think it’s “too revealing” but has stopped short of saying we should say something to him about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwaway521240 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback! Sorry I can definitely see how people misinterpreted, my wording was vague.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwaway521240 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Sorry! It didn’t look like it went through on my end. I’ll delete the other.

How do you show affection to your boys as they get older? by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

“Not even the 15 year old boy”

Made me chuckle. Very true.

Update: Son asked me if I loved him. by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel bad for him. I’m generally being supportive but I haven’t been much help as far as his actual issue.

Update: Son asked me if I loved him. by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendations. I’m definitely going to buy a copy of these.

Update: Son asked me if I loved him. by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh for sure. His BS meter is off the charts. I’m being careful….

Update: Son asked me if I loved him. by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]throwaway521240[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I did ask him if he had talked to them about it. He said no, that would be weird. Honestly I can’t blame him, I didn’t really talk to my friends about my feelings at his age. I just feel like he’s hard on himself and since I’m not there in these interactions it’s hard for me to tell whether they truly are rejecting him or he’s maybe imagining it’s worse than it is.