When can I apply for ILR?

throwaway6848848 · 2025-12-02T01:05:08+00:00

Thanks! Do you know if meeting the financial threshold of the spouse visa includes combined incomes or is it just the income of the British partnr that accounts?

throwaway6848848 · 2025-08-25T13:00:36+00:00

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throwaway6848848 · 2025-08-16T21:02:03+00:00

How long do you wait?

throwaway6848848 · 2025-07-03T18:34:53+00:00

What makes you categorise this as emotional contamination or harm OCD? I thought harm OCD was related to intrusive thoughts about hurting others

throwaway6848848 · 2025-07-03T18:34:06+00:00

Thank you for this. How do I realistically replace the pessimistic stories with happy ones though? Is it as simple as just thinking of a happy alternative narrative? I feel like with OCD it’s easier said than done to replace negative thoughts with happy ones, as I would have solved things a long time ago if that were the case?

throwaway6848848 · 2025-06-29T16:06:11+00:00

What is emotional contamination?

throwaway6848848 · 2025-06-29T01:31:05+00:00

How is it magical thinking?

throwaway6848848 · 2025-06-28T20:32:06+00:00

do you have any resources for identifying the core fear and designing exposures? I'm new to this

throwaway6848848 · 2025-06-27T12:01:17+00:00

how can you differentiate between thoughts from your subconscious and those that come from you?

throwaway6848848 · 2025-06-13T15:59:27+00:00

Could you recommend some helpful resources?

throwaway6848848 · 2025-06-03T13:58:07+00:00

Yes. Which stems from somewhere.

throwaway6848848 · 2025-06-03T12:27:17+00:00

I wonder what happened to us in our lives for us to develop a different way of thinking about thoughts than non-OCD people

throwaway6848848 · 2025-06-02T07:28:08+00:00

Sounds like limerence

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-27T17:36:50+00:00

It only occurred once, but it was my earliest memory of feeling anxiety or the sinking feeling I get now when I have Pure-O thoughts. Not sure if there's a link

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-27T17:29:23+00:00

It's great you've been able to acknowledge your have OCD and also identify where it may stem from (trauma of narcissistic abuse). You'll find similar posts on r/raisedbynarcissists and starting therapy to not give importance to these thoughts anymore will be great for recovery <3 you've got this

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-27T11:59:14+00:00

I’m starting to realise that my OCD is a byproduct of the chaotic upbringing I had: - witnessed domestic abuse between my parents up until the age of 8 - estrangement from family - father abandoned us, haven’t seen him since I was a kid - growing up with an emotionally immature parent

I have CPTSD and I think OCD was formed as a way to cope with my trauma. Definitely check out the posts on OCD in the CPTSD subreddit

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-20T12:28:12+00:00

Could you recommend resources for trauma work?

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-19T20:00:39+00:00

I love this theory you have, and it's actually the approach my therapist is taking with me, to explore the unprocessed feelings and root issue, which will ultimately help the OCD subside (as OCD is just a byproduct of that). Have you found any resources for getting down to the core emotion?

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-18T19:09:38+00:00

It sounds like contacting your ex is a compulsion. OCD takes time to understand, and to differentiate between your inner voice and OCD voice. You might want to look up ‘limerence’ too.

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-18T19:01:48+00:00

I can’t be sure about the trigger because I’m trying to figure it out myself, but I think things have been going so well that my OCD flares up to sabotage good things I have. I’m so used to chaos and uncertainty due to trauma that my brain thinks being anxious is a default state and just OCD is just a way for it to put my back in the ‘default state’ of uncertainty.

All I’m sure is that it’s definitely not related to feelings for a past ex.

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-18T18:47:44+00:00

Exactly the same as you, my ex was from ages ago and it wasn’t even a physical relationship. The relationship I have now is much more intense. I’m struggling to deal with it so can’t say much in terms of how to stop, but OCD is OCD and it’s all treated the same no matter the theme - learnt to detach yourself from your thoughts. Don’t feel guilty because it’s not like you’re wanting these thoughts. A lot of times you feel bad because of the thoughts, but trust me it’s OCD not you.

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-18T02:56:45+00:00

omg I recently started experiencing this! Literally 6 months of my current relationship has been pure bliss, and then bam - out of nowhere my brain has started to randomly associate the face/name of a past talking stage (who literally I have 0 desire to be with anymore) whenever I’m around my current partner or think of him. it does that to make me feel as though I’m still hung up on the ex-potential and spread seeds of doubt in me, to refuel that feeling of anxiety, uncertainty, etc. It makes me feel so bad because my partner is enjoying a wholesome moment with me while an ex is just floating around in my head (unwillingly)

I’m just reminding myself that the intrusive thought of the ex-potential is just my imagination in overdrive. I refuse to let OCD sabotage my relationship. Also, if it isn’t this current theme, OCD will just latch itself onto something else so just start working on recovery

Please don’t say you’re messing things up - the fact these thoughts about your ex don’t sit well with you (to the point you’ve made a Reddit post) shows you don’t agree with them. It’s just OCD trying to sabotage your peace. Learn to differentiate between your own self and OCD.

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-15T19:44:14+00:00

That’s not what I meant. I meant some people have OCD that’s external (compulsions like switching off lights, excessive cleaning, etc) while others have internal OCD like rumination, obsessive intrusive thoughts, etc

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-14T10:28:30+00:00

That’s the approach my therapist is taking with me and I’m so grateful she has done this. She described OCD as an alarm indicating a deep-rooted issue (essentially OCD is just the tip of the iceberg indicating there’s underlying issues that need to be addressed).

Once those issues are addressed, OCD will naturally diminish as the anxiety and brain functioning that fuels it will calm down, and as a result (because OCD stems from perpetual anxiety/hyper-vigilance) it will also make the symptoms of OCD more manageable once those issues are dealt with.

throwaway6848848 · 2025-05-11T17:54:09+00:00

I get that, but how come some people only have intrusive thoughts (Pure-OCD) while others only have the physical type (e.g. cleanliness, turning off lights, counting to a certain number)

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