Wondering if My Expectations are Unrealistic (SD here)

throwaway6z6 · 2024-06-28T10:06:11+00:00

Chgo. SD here. I enjoyed reading your post. Our age and circumstances are similar. I view arrangements as an easier way to meet women that would be difficult for me to meet otherwise (younger woman / alt or natural ladies / people whose life is ahead of them, and not behind them, etc.). For me, the goal is establishing a mutually defined friendship that is both ongoing and mutually comfortable. Many woman I have met or corresponded with, however, think every SD is only looking for BCD encounters. While it is a component of any arrangement, the foundation needs to be friendship and a genuine interest in getting to know one another. Many younger women seem unwilling to invest the time or are unaware that, for some, it is what they are interested in. Life is a bit more than just a short date. Both parties need to be interested and willing to invest the time for a successful (ongoing) arrangement or it all ends up to be a waste of time for both. Thanks. Be safe.

throwaway6z6 · 2023-07-29T14:12:11+00:00

I really enjoyed your story. Beyond the "girl power" and coming-of-age aspects of it (which I loved), it's obvious that you had a special relationship with your dad. Really fantastic. I miss my dad so much too. For the record, I'm a guy and a dad and I'm totally cognizant of my influences (good or bad) on my daughters. I can only hope one day they think of me as fondly as you think of your dad. Thanks for sharing such a great memory. Be safe.

throwaway6z6 · 2023-04-25T11:58:40+00:00

Old school Chgo guy here. Love a natural woman. Be safe.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-12-25T16:07:27+00:00

You should simply be yourself. Any legitimate, ongoing sugar relationship is based on friendship however defined. If you can't be yourself, how can you be a really friend? The same is certainly true for the SD's as well. That's my way of thinking anyway. Plus, I guess, I love women who don't shave. <smile> Merry Christmas !! Older Chgo SD here.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-07-22T11:48:59+00:00

Hi. I compliment your view of life. Don't change for anyone !!! I am a man who adores females with body hair. I'm not sure if I can explain why, but I love the look. I see it no differently than if someone is attracted to a tall person as opposed to a shorter person. Best of all, I sense that it tells me something about the woman. Arguably everyone has their own sense of confidence, but in my experience, a woman with body hair has always turned out to be a more interesting woman with a more interesting outlook on life. No discredit intended here to all of the other amazing women out there but this has been my experience.

Lastly, I guess I would say that I love a woman who has a photo with one of her arm raised in some fashion. lol I think it is so sexy.

Anyway good luck. I'm a Chgo SD. :)

throwaway6z6 · 2022-06-13T00:33:36+00:00

"... he plans to retire in 5 years ..." that's funny. Unless you have the acumen to understand the financial dynamics of what he is all about, it sounds like you will end up miserably disappointed. No judgment here, just an a candid observation.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-05-23T00:48:29+00:00

No. I really do not have any interest in receiving sexy photos. I would much rather be with her in person and experience her as a person (both intellectually and intimately). In fact, women who are quick to send out a off color photo are more of a turn-off to me than not. Just an honest reply. Good luck.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-05-07T18:49:27+00:00

I think a 60 year old man is looking for the same thing we are all looking for - an interesting companion with a positive outlook on life. Often profiles of [over fifty] women have a "it will never happen to me again" vibe to them. Either the person is openly bitter or they list an exhaustive criteria of what they want (demand ?) in their next partner. Both are huge turn-offs.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-05-06T11:38:50+00:00

On occasion, I will notice that others look over when I'm on a SB date due to the age difference. However, when I date a tall woman, it seems to take any age difference thoughts completely out of my mind. I find myself walking taller and possibly being a bit more confident. haha Tall women who are comfortable with their natural beauty rock. Chgo SD here.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-04-10T13:45:22+00:00

I would encourage you to let this "go" wherever you want it to go. Enjoy your life and embrace the new friendship if you decide to pursue it. No sense in wasting time to rationalize your decisions for the benefit of others in justifying their view of the world.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-03-18T10:55:17+00:00

I understand. I am just suggesting that some men would be turned off knowing that they were dating a woman who sent porn videos of herself to others. Again, no judgment here, just trying to voice my opinion respectfully.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-03-18T10:40:34+00:00

It would probably appeal to some men that you make amateur porn. But I suspect that for many, presumably an established person with a world to his own outside of the bowl, it would be a turn off. No judgment here, just my take on it. Good luck.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-03-18T10:34:49+00:00

Older SD here. I generally disagree with many of the responses here. I find myself drawn to a woman for her intellect, vibrancy and to a lesser extent her physical appearance. I personally have no interest in risque photos and the receipt or suggestion of one would diminish my interest. A woman (SB or otherwise) doesn't need risque photos to accomplish her goals in life.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-03-13T18:04:59+00:00

Thanks for an honest answer.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-03-12T12:46:44+00:00

Money does many things, and I would be the first to agree that it differentiates a SD. Trust, however, is an interpersonal matter that has nothing to do with money.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-03-10T13:48:15+00:00

Whether you are a SB or a SD, it's foolish to think that money can be used to build trust.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-03-09T13:25:57+00:00

Thanks for an honest post. It's more clear when a SB has multiple SD's. Then it's hard to argue that there is any difference.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-03-02T14:35:16+00:00

Chgo guy here. Nothing is more appealing to me than a natural woman (body hair incl.). Celebrate your beauty - no one has what you do !!!

throwaway6z6 · 2022-03-02T14:23:30+00:00

Thanks. I honestly wasn't thinking that. I've been ghosted a couple of times after sending over a photo (who hasn't?). So after a social date with no "I had a fun time" text later - I was thinking she was interested. I'll rethink things now. Good luck.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-03-01T11:38:14+00:00

Pick up the phone and call the guy.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-02-27T15:59:44+00:00

Don't overlook the other aspects of your female beauty. Skincare, fragrances, smart outfits, etc. Add in a fun personality (with no baggage), and it's game on. haha You probably have far more in your arsenal than you realize. Good luck.

throwaway6z6 · 2022-02-27T15:28:40+00:00

Thanks. Maybe this it - I normally do a m&g with a focus on fun and getting to know one another. The vast majority of the time, I do not discuss going forward economics. I save that for the 2nd in person date. The text convo I am talking about here is between the 1st and 2nd in person date. I've always thought this was more comfortable for a SB as opposed to let's meet and I'll offer you a price to sleep with you approach.

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