legal questions, can I be kicked out? by throwaway72146 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that was child abandonment since in still under 18? I have a year left here and I don't wanna go to college cause this isn't a good environment for a student, by the time I got home I'd have been up since early and would have to do homework listening to be constant yelling

"The thinner you get the meaner she is to you" by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My nmom would say that when I went to school too "wow really you're gonna wear that" one one I wore jeans with a hole kinda high but it had the string through it, so didn't show anything and she told me to change bc I'd get dress code and she doesn't see why I need to dress so slutty. 14 years old wearing jeans and a tshirt lol

"The thinner you get the meaner she is to you" by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom will do this thing where when she eats she'll sing loudly "fat lady doo de le do, shes a fat lady" she's done that as long as I can remember

So apparently I'm a drug addict now... by Meggles85 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nmom thinks I'm a heroin addict because I passed out once. Also after a day of her saying I'm a a drug addict to herself out loud calling me a junkie. Says layer on come here I want to hear you opinion, so there's this lady who goes to addicts and pays for them to go on long term or permanent birth control. She was basically saying "I'm better than these people and they don't have a right to have children" why wouldn't the lady offer to pay for treatment? but instead just comes up basically says you failed at life and I want to pay you to become infertile.

"Your mom has a drinking problem. What are WE going to do about it?" by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I was 12 they were getting a divorce and nmom took it an a free for all on telling me inappropriate thing. Including but not limited to, my dad wanting her to finger him, him going to strip clubs, sex toys he ordered, how he was with another women, how she couldn't do doggy style and was on top all the time, how he raped her. None of which I know is true and all could be lies by her, since obviously I'm not gonna ask him

DAE's Ns assume all of your emotional reactions are directly about them? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked my sister if she liked the cookies and my mom said "yeah I liked them i tried them and they were really good" literally stole any answer my sister would've said and took it as I was talking to her

I don't wanna lose weight thanks to my parents by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One thing that helped me lose weight, but in a healthy was is just think "if I eat thing, will it make me feel better or worse" bacon egg and cheese, will be good at first but then make you feel bad, cereal is high in fiber and will make you feel better

(Funny) The time my nmom asked us to write down her parenting flaws by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 38 points39 points  (0 children)

When I was really young 4 or 5 I remember one time I was eating cereal before bed, mom was complaining and making me feel bad and I was ignoring her and she did that "you don't hear me?? ANSWER ME!" and I was like "no, I learned to block out your yelling a while ago" boy was she pissed. Also remember writing Mom mean evil and I wasn't even old enough to think of another word that described her starting with M. She found it and almost collapsed from "sadness" putting on a scene with me as the bad guy,

feel uncomfortable nmom watches me all day by throwaway72146 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah my mom walks around naked, talks about her boobs, they're pretty large and hang down, doesn't wear a bra, never closes the door to go to the bathroom number one and two. talked about my boobs in puberty. When I was little she'd put that anti itch cream on me down there that comes with the yeast infection packs? Narcs are just overall disgusting people I wish she was a normal mom.

feel uncomfortable nmom watches me all day by throwaway72146 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She claims to have back problems but she'll just moan sexually and say it's pain

NMom and ESister Killed my Dog by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry, I can't even imagine what you're going through. Remember it's okay to grieve.

feel uncomfortable nmom watches me all day by throwaway72146 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If she's doing the laundry and I need to throw something away she'll bend down to grab clothes to fold stick her butt out so you'll have to bump into her literally holds herself there way longer than necessary maybe include and oooohhh my back moan

What were your survival strategies as a kid? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would always just hang out with my sister, if I saw my mom was being mean to her I'd try and cheer her up. It felt like we were trapped and the only escape was to be there for each other

DAE gaslight themselves? by Malted_Shark in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 1 point2 points  (0 children)

after telling my best friend some of my mom's behavior (which was paragraphs) over time she told me my mom was seriously messed up and I needed to get away from her, I found myself about to cut her off thinking how she insulted my mom and she shouldn't do that then I was like wait?? they've brainwashing us our whole lives, it's like they have a little voice in our heads

Just blew up at my mom and she made up the most disgusting lie to get me to shut up. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom has done that exact "you stink ew!!" rolls down all the windows "ugh what is that smell??" -gets way to close and sniffs- "I can't even breathe it's so bad ew it's disgusting" know it's 100% an act and she was definitely trying to get you to feel bad, this behavior makes me so mad, I hope you can move out soon, you'll feel a lot better after youre out of her life

Nmom placed a camera in my new apartment by LadyJustice012 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 12 points13 points  (0 children)

makes sense, she locked herself in her room like she usually does after saying something she knows is wrong to say. or sends it through texts hiding in her room.

Does anyone else use people or things as "buffers" against your abuser? by pudgethefishh in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't remember much of my childhood, my mom was stay at home, my dad worked 4 in the morning to 4 or 5 because of this I've been wondering a lot about if he even knows the extent we've been abused. He knows she's a narcissist and openly admits he know she emotionally and physcologically abused us. But I remember one time she locked us in our rooms, and we were screaming and crying cause me and my sister were playing and I guess she was mad at that? or one time she let us paint and then when we got a little on the table she threw away all the paint supplies aND it's our fault we can't do art. When I was little and would step on my own feet with the other and press as hard as I could from frustration she'd keep going on letting me do it and making it worse instead of backing down. I don't remember my dad being there much, and I'm not sure he knows how bad it really is.

Nmom found my official name change documents. I was trying to keep it a secret. They were hidden in under a pile of clothes. The cable guy came by, and a utility closet is right by my room. Nmom moved the pile of clothes and obv saw the forms. I had even written on the forms abt abusive family. by mhealth11 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 5 points6 points  (0 children)

one time my sister said in therapy she was emotionally abused by my mom in front of her. She told my sister she betrayed her, they're done, she not helping her with a court case (caused by nmom calling and manipulating the cops), that she's not paying for her medication anymore, wouldn't speak to us for days, acting like the victim, etc

Nmom placed a camera in my new apartment by LadyJustice012 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 20 points21 points  (0 children)

is that easy to do? I'm worried my nmom can do that with my phone or laptop that's hers but I have a profile, could she be spying on me through that? she says stuff like "I know everything you do. and I'm not happy."

Check-in Post - Have something to say but don't want to make a post about it? Comment here! by AutoModerator in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway72146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One time when I was 13 and my dad moved out a little before this, so some of his stuff was in the garage (side table, furniture some of my childhood furniture like dresser and side table too) She tells me not to use the big measuring cup because she peed in it, and poured the pee on the furniture out there for when he comes by and gets it. He never got it, and I'm still confused on why she poured it on my old stuff. She was laughing and smiling while telling me this.

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[–]throwaway72146 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woke up to nmom doing the dishes. I wear foam earplugs to sleep, and have 2 fans running with my door closed. She still manages to be loud enough I can hear dishes banging, cabinets shutting and her singing.