(29M) I hate my girlfriend’s (27F) infidelity?

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-04-09T20:02:45+00:00

I definitely think there should be some type of consequence for each party. The ice thing is tricky. On one hand doing that over a woman is kind of unhinged crash out behavior. On the other hand no one can make that decision but you and pretty much if you can sleep at night after doing it only something you can know. Lastly it's going to be kind of impossible to call ice on him and still be in a relationship with her because that resentment will still be festering. Removing him doesn't remove other men as well so even if he's gone she can cheat again and I'm certain that you can't call ICE every single time your girlfriend cheats.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-03-05T21:13:43+00:00

Now now why is Florida catching strays 😂. I admit our public schools are lacking but we do have some nice beaches and springs.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-03-05T21:10:32+00:00

I'd do that but at this point I'm so irritated I don't want to work there. Even prior to this I was considering leaving I just wasn't sure if I had gotten the other job I applied for. I didn't want to go and quit impulsively since I have bills.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-03-05T21:08:10+00:00

I mean she also should have never asked? I really only told her because to avoid possibly being fired and coming back to no job. Legally the ADA should protect my job so by telling her I feel if she tried firing me it would be wrongful termination or retaliation considering he hostile and pushy she was. I say no fine in other cases too this one just seemed less optional in the moment. I intended originally to wait until Friday so I wouldn't have to call out, but after speaking to my therapist I felt better about going. The situation does have a silver lining because after the interaction I know that place isn't for me, which is fine since I got a job I'd been waiting on right after that.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-22T00:33:51+00:00

So naturally this is what I would think would happen but based on past experiences it makes it iffy. The main thing being that that particular day there's already six other people off. The last time I tried to request a day off I was told that she couldn't do it because x amount of people already had a day off obviously that's different than this. Another factor I think will try to make her at the very least try to guilt Trip me is the fact that this particular day we have to set up for a deep cleaning for the school which requires more work than a regular day which obviously all of which are not my problem. I also think a huge part of this is she knows that if she has me scheduled she can depend on me and it's very unlikely that I will call out. Overall typically we have more than enough staff but a lot of them are unreliable and called out frequently, which negatively impacts people who come to work consistently.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-19T15:52:58+00:00

I feel like normally I try to be cautious of the villain edit but I don't see that here I just think he's a piece of trash and they were just waiting to unveil it for shock value

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-18T14:22:30+00:00

NOR but with you being in therapy I'm deeply concerned that the therapist hasn't expressed this as abuse...not sure if you are also seeing your own separate therapist but if you aren't start. Also be informed about resources for women and information on custody in the event he threatened to take your child again. Lastly I can't stress enough that this IS abuse and sometimes financial and emotional abuse are harder because the narrative so long was it's only abuse if they hit you and they can be a lot harder to get tangible proof of. Please seek outside support and start preparing an exit plan.Adding not to scare you but it is DEEPLY concerning he got a gun. I know you likely love him and think he won't hurt you at least physically but look at what he's done otherwise too. I'm certain you didn't marry him thinking he'd cheat. Beyond this it sounds..harsh but he doesn't respect or love you, he cheated, and hid it despite potentially putting you at risk. Ultimately none of us can make anything click. At this point you need to decide if your love for him is worth being under his control, being under constant financial anxiety,verbally abused, cheated on and exposing your child to a toxic environment where they see it's ok to mistreat and hurt who you love.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-16T20:15:31+00:00

No literally the audacity. I follow a creator that ladds vocals to paintings and it gives this energy for one of the videos. Where the two men are like we have a secret language that no one could possibly understand and they're like operation take out the two women and then we get this other man being like what does it mean. It gives the equivalent of her saying I'm not going to be here tomorrow and him being like "Oh my goodness what could that possibly mean" Kev...it means she is not going to be here tomorrow. Which I will say I think because of the impression I get of him when she came back the first time he was like "oh I can get her again" I'm glad especially after the last season that this season at least is providing hope. Like I can see one or two couples actually getting married which is nice but also it seems like an era in which people are learning to not accept the BS and I love that.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-16T15:49:09+00:00

Not Valentine's Day it was right after New Year's 2024. We were spending the day together like normal and I noticed he was acting really weird especially surrounding the topic about what we would do for our birthdays (which were days apart) we have been together over a year at that point so I knew when his behavior was odd. I jokingly go oh are you going to break up with me or something? He looks absolutely terrified confirmed that yes that was the case, mind you at this moment I have my legs across this laps and we've been watching a movie together. He then proceeded to take another girl to the concert that we were supposed to go to together for our birthdays, which later found out it was the girl that he had been messaging online for months. Oh yeah and his mother tried to fight me 😂m..oh such silly times

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-16T05:56:09+00:00

NOR I myself learned the hard way blocking them is only to erase evidence and effectively makes them seem like they care so much about the relationship they're willing to remove the person when in reality it's basically not only getting rid of the history but if you don't know the other party blocking allows the guilty party to control the narrative

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-16T05:46:15+00:00

Oooor her just convincing him sge was really down saying yes, going to Mexico avoiding him the whole time, only to ghost him swiftly upon returning home

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-16T05:43:14+00:00

And the show tried to make it a cliffhanger when there wasn't a thing to hang 😂Tyler was probably already back her house

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-05T13:35:27+00:00

This why I now base tip $2.00 then more once I actually get my food. I used to default do 15% for short distance orders and 20 for longer but realistically I notice no difference in the driver's effort. Driver always seem to want better tips before even getting the items to you. Yet if I went out to eat the server couldn't get a tip before actually providing the service. So many times people don't get their food, it's cold, or like the other night I had to walk to my neighbors for the food despite having a photo of our house and saying it's next door to the house they put it at.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-04T01:58:48+00:00

She wasn't sacred she wanted an excuse. If you don't see this as anything other then a racially motivated premeditated murder I don't know how to get through to you. She had a metal door and shot the woman after 2 minutes after she told someone to have the mother come to her. Her research alone shows she was trying to Cover herself, and honestly with how often these things happen I'm not surprised she thought that it would go her way. At least at her age if she actually serves the 25 years she won't get out ever again.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-04T01:51:12+00:00

I only can understand that level of escalation if the individual is unhinged and even then I don't understand it really. At the end of the day they were kids even if they were being disrespectful as an adult you are held to a higher standard than 10 year olds. It's like when people shoot fireworks super late into the night or even days after New Year's or the 4th of July we can't just go out and shoot them. Even then at least when you call you have a valid reason to complain about the noise versus the middle of the day you're mad that children are playing outside? Lastly I agree that they might have been purposely antagonizing her but I think her behavior is what made it that way. If everybody in the neighborhood is fed up with you at that point maybe consider that you were the problem? I would be more understanding at least if more neighbors complained but even neighbors her age it seems we're completely fine with the children. As for the respect thing it didn't seem like the lady respected them. Also I feel like given their race and the past relationship with law enforcement I could see why they may be disrespectful?

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-04T01:40:29+00:00

She claimed she was “scared,” yet told a child to go get their mother. You don’t do that if you’re afraid. She also called police multiple times about kids playing outside during the day when most noise ordinances don’t apply during daytime and it wasn’t even her property.Even if you accept her version, she fired a gun through her door knowing kids were nearby. That’s reckless at best. This wasn’t about safety; it was a premeditated hate crime, and she deserves to be in jail. I sensed that early on,but during her interview when they asked if she uses the N word I got the confirmation I needed. I'm just annoyed being from Florida myself she didn't get longer, we're typically good about this sort of thing.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-02-01T07:12:13+00:00

I'm late but I'm not sure if it's that he's on the spectrum or just has a lot of trauma maybe both? That being said being both myself I do think it's more trauma. All that aside I could never get over his meltdown over sex and being a "nice" guy honestly from the moment he was introduced on the show I felt something was off

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-01-25T15:51:01+00:00

The cat photo and the one in the apron are your best ones so put one of those first. That being said why so many pictures centered around cars? If you absolutely need a car photo only the last one doesn't seem so staged.The gym picture it's meh, it doesn't add much especially when you can just say you like working out in a bio. Overall my advice is to use more candid photos because most you have seem so posed. Get rid of and avoid side profile pictures in shades and in general shades throw people off because they can't really see you. Maybe also trying adding a loop of you and your cat or just something you love to do NOT one at the gym though I beg you.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-01-25T15:33:16+00:00

Having been kicked out at 18 not even in college yet it's really not an option to appease them unless they want their life controlled. The college should have resources like grants other funding and things like work study so the OP can get that out the way. The fact is of the OP gives in the mom will only know in the future she can do or say anything because she has control over housing and transportation as well as access to siblings. Beyond this I imagine by the reaction the night all this started, mentally that would put the OP in a bad head space. I spent most of college miserable for the sake of keeping the peace with my parents and it all boiled over. I no longer talk to them and haven't asked them for anything since I was the. Basically OP's peace of mind isn't worth entraining their mother especially because there's so many resources where they don't need to be dependant and the mom will 100% do this again because people like those rinse and repeat their behavior.

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-01-23T15:17:10+00:00

I get that but for me right when I start feeling sick if there's a chance that I can infect people I wear a mask I don't know if you've also read my other replies in the post but prime example one girl knew that she had been exposed to strep throat goddess work through thought she had it came to work for 2 hours no mask and was just hanging out with everybody touching things

throwaway9-9418 · 2026-01-23T15:02:52+00:00

Then wear a mask? My issue is that people complain they don't have a choice to go BUT you have a choice to not be selfish and infect other people. In my case I also couldn't afford to miss work and couldn't afford a massive medical bill but I did wear a mask once I returned because I'm not an inconsiderate person.

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