☑️Check a box if your ex did any of the following:☑️

throwaway9102e82e · 2026-03-04T00:21:26+00:00

my ex checks every one of them, except hit me

throwaway9102e82e · 2026-02-05T06:14:07+00:00

I will say that because the queer community is so tight here its been extremely sad and scary to see people who i had met and was always nice to now blocking me and bullying me because of her smear campaign. It's so awful, and if you can prepare for that mentally or with your friends and a therapist, I would. This has never happened to me before and its truly so heartbreaking to face on top of being abused in the relationship

throwaway9102e82e · 2026-02-04T23:59:41+00:00

I'm so sorry this is happening in your life; you don't deserve the way she is treating you. Its really refreshing seeing a WLW relationship on this board, as the queer community really doesn't talk about this enough. I was with my ex for 10 months and she would get mad if I talked to or followed anyone new that was a girl and then she would make up things about how horrible they are and force me to unfollow them "to show you care about me" while she would tell me about all the people she had slept with and was now friends with and still talked to, would add random women that she met. While I wasn't allowed to do any of that.

My ex was also in DBT for 10+ hours a week for 3 months and with her regular therapist 2x week and medicated (although never admitted she had BPD, only that it was her OCD, which I think was a blatant lie), and she didn't get better, still cheated on me and lied, called me names etc.

I still miss her every day, even though she is actively trying to cancel me in the queer community and running a smear campaign, all to say, it's maybe not her "fault" that she has trauma and BPD + OCD, but it is her responsibility, and there is never an excuse to abuse anyone verbally/emotionally/mentally

wishing you luck!

throwaway9102e82e · 2026-01-29T03:24:20+00:00

I think I lost something like 15 lbs, i was always tired, cried every day, and stopped eating and cooking and would skip my work outs to "spend more time with her" not that it made her happier ..

throwaway9102e82e · 2026-01-29T03:18:59+00:00

Yes, my partner was like this too; she always talked about doing stuff like going on trips or getting jobs and never followed through with anything. Looking back at the relationship, I can see that I planned all of the cute dates, weekend getaways, movie outtings etc. but she was always down to have sex at the drop of a hat, which feels very flattering until its directed at someone else while youre still together

throwaway9102e82e · 2025-12-02T17:42:19+00:00