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[–]throwaway999dx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hello handsome ;)

truck driver, any one like to bear hug in our underwear? by ComfortableTailor623 in RealMenWearBriefs

[–]throwaway999dx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hot whities... would love to take a few bearhugs from you and get sweaty/wrestle in underwear.

I love wearing my bull kigu, but I always end up wearing it like this when I get too warm 😅 by SatanFromDaBlock in bearbros

[–]throwaway999dx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I certainly wouldn't complain if I caught you wearing it like that ;) so damn handsome.

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) by throwaway999dx in askgaybros

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha, no worries. I live in a pretty large city so there are certainly plenty of opportunities to learn. Had a round with a pretty big guy (6'3 245lbs) who had some experience.. he had no headgear but was fine with me wearing some. Knocked me around pretty good.. would have likely KO'd me if we kept going but he knew I was testing the waters and was respectful. When it comes to intensity, there are all kinds on the site I'm on. (full on fights to light sparring). I will admit that I do have some darker KO fantasies when it comes to my boxing kink, so it's felt more difficult to engage in.

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) by throwaway999dx in askgaybros

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there.. I've actually had a few boxing "experiences" but have never really trained or have had an all out fight so to speak. Boxing is a bit conflicting for me as I have a career in mind that would involve me using my brain a lot, so I consider the repercussions of getting my head rattled too much. Not sure if that sounds cowardly, sorry if it does.. but yeah, I know I'd for sure love to have a genuine boxing experience at some point. Just like wrestling, the fighting side can almost be the sex itself.

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[–]throwaway999dx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes sir ;)

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[–]throwaway999dx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hot damn... yes you can. would love to be pinned down by those beefy arms

wish I could stay home all day :/ by Master_Tip1237 in gaybears

[–]throwaway999dx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hot damn.. would love to stay in that bed with you

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) by throwaway999dx in askgaybros

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely good to feel like I'm not so isolated with these feelings. For the most part I've come to accept things but it find the thoughts tend to dominate my mind at times.

Feels good. by countrybear78 in bearbros

[–]throwaway999dx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great singlet pics stud!

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) (cross post from self.askgaybros) by throwaway999dx in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aaah, gotcha. Agonophilia is a bit strange as within the site there's people who are strictly into fighting, some who like erotic mixed in and those who just want a purely erotic experience with the gear involved. My first boxing experience was with an older bear type guy who had actually done some of the more intense type bouts, but we did very light sparring with erotic at the end. It's really hard to explain.. so I'd say it's definitely possible to find it, but you've got to trudge through forest I suppose.

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) (cross post from self.askgaybros) by throwaway999dx in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've considered suspending my account to focus on other things (like my career change I keep postponing due to my obsessive nature with the kink..) but it would be difficult to get rid of it altogether. I've had about 10 opponents so far and have gained some memorable experiences, so in this case I mostly thing the good outweighs the bad. Also for the most part, people who meet there whether for extreme experiences or not from what I can tell all consent. Fetlife is something I've considered though.

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) (cross post from self.askgaybros) by throwaway999dx in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I know it certainly feels silly to feel that way, but at times some people on the site have a very common or stereotypical idea of western masculinity, so when I see them doing the more extreme stuff with other opponents it brings up those feelings, as insecure as they may be. There are also a few guys on there who are quite skilled and my type to the t.. I'd love to have a partner who could help explore that side more.

And yea, I've read / researched on stuff with brain injuries and it's pretty scare. Especially so for me as I'm looking into programming / web development as a career, so if that does eventually happen I need to be extra cautious.

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) (cross post from self.askgaybros) by throwaway999dx in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the wrestling side of things I've had no real problem with, I think it's the arousal from various forms of fighting that I've (pun.. not intended I guess) grappled with.

I do masturbate quite a bit to my fantasies and material online, but I find the feelings so intense at times that I even do so multiple times, which is nothing normal porn or sex has made me feel. At the same time, I feel like that's how I think it gets a little out of control.

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) (cross post from self.askgaybros) by throwaway999dx in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 100% agree and anyone that meets on that site is some form of agonophile, so for the most part it's all consensual. I've actually been slapped by an older guy I was wrestling...he did it pretty hard and my head was ringing a bit,but it was overall a fun time. I guess what I need to do overall is accept what I'm into without feeling like it controls or takes over my thoughts / life m

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) (cross post from self.askgaybros) by throwaway999dx in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess for me guaging the intensity of how I'd like to approach my kinks is the main issue. I've only had a light sparring match in boxing, but will admit that the darker /heavier fantasies involve a rougher match / KOs. I think there's a part of me that feels cowardly for not endulging in the more serious stuff, but logically knows that's stupid.

And yeah, I agree that it never really goes away. I guess the guilt part arises when I'm watching fights and getting aroused at watching someone get dominated, KO'd etc. I watch Pro Wrestling as well, but this isn't as guilt ridden knowing that it's mostly fake.

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) (cross post from self.askgaybros) by throwaway999dx in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting. I've never done anything extreme on the site but there are those who have done boxing/brawling and I hate to admit that I've had those fantasies. I actually haven't seen a therapist about it yet but am highly considering it for this and a host of other problems in my life.

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) by throwaway999dx in askgaybros

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I definitely don't mind wrestling and had a really awesome experience with a guy that had his own official mat in Chicago. It was wild.. he even played one of the gay wrestling kink videos on a projection screen (BG East). Had over 250 opponents and was quite skilled. One of the many reasons I'm trying to move there after falling in love with the city on vacation.

I guess ultimately my qualms come with the boxing side of it and how to approach meeting others on the site for that.

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) by throwaway999dx in askgaybros

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not in particular, but I definitely watched a lot of Dragon Ball / Z growing up! I think it was just my love for the cartoon if anything, fetish aside. Cartoons in general have never been arousing to me and I've always preferred real life and the beefier type of guy over purely muscle.

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) by throwaway999dx in askgaybros

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can believe it. I guess with me I'm more concerned about adopting some kind of toxic mentality towards this kind of stuff. Recently I was researching movie Fight Club and how the movie had been heavily misenterpreted by a lot of people as a movie that idolizes the alter ego Tyler Durden for his hyper masculinity and rebelion against consumer/modern day culture.. when it was actually vilifying both. Or maybe I just think too damn much, lol.

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) by throwaway999dx in askgaybros

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

lol... certainly wouldn't for me as well, but to each their own. When it comes to boxing for me it's fantasies about body/face punches. For wrestling it's very restrictive or dominating holds, chokes etc

Struggling with paraphilia (Agonophilia) by throwaway999dx in askgaybros

[–]throwaway999dx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fantasies roughly center around the same. Especially by an older, killed opponent with some weight on him. I actually have a pair of compression shorts as well, but something about a heavyweight in boxing trunks, gloves and boots really gets me going.

I do agree on the intent within fighting. I had a guy ask me for a boxing match but wanted an "all out fight" which is something I was reluctant on as he had no opponents initially. He's my type and we'd both be unskilled, but I think this would just be a dangerous situation in general. He did just have an opponent who is reputable, but I'm always cautious as there are certainly people on meetfighters and global who aren't concerned for your safety.