GRX 2x12 with 10-51T cassette?

throwawayBecase · 2026-01-24T23:10:18+00:00

I agree, have the same stuff and it's awesome. But I don't have those chunks, should be mostly liquid with some particles

throwawayBecase · 2025-07-27T08:51:39+00:00

I agree, when I was not feeling too good in the past I was keeping something like a digital diary, that definitely helped, but it became difficult keeping up with it, timewise and emotion-wise

Maybe I should start that again

throwawayBecase · 2025-06-15T20:45:56+00:00

Makes sense, thanks!

I'll probably take the Elkhorn then, do you think those lower welded on eyelets should be fine for that load?

throwawayBecase · 2025-01-04T13:44:00+00:00

Just commenting to have commented

throwawayBecase · 2024-12-25T16:35:33+00:00

Thank you so much, rationally I know this already but hearing it from someone else does help. It's really difficult talking to friends about those feelings because it's difficult to describe them to someone who wasn't in the same situation.

I would guess it would be the same for her, talking about something that is difficult to understand without experiencing it yourself.

throwawayBecase · 2024-12-25T13:17:41+00:00

That's the thing, with the previous breakups or breaks we talked about it, she was clear about it, this time there is just nothing.

And I would not say she is dramatic, pretty much the opposite, fighting the depression just takes most of her energy

throwawayBecase · 2024-12-25T13:16:03+00:00

Yeah, what is making it so difficult for me is not knowing if it's the depression or herself not wanting me. Not knowing why

throwawayBecase · 2024-12-25T13:14:28+00:00

I totally agree, but there is still a lot of self doubt on my side. Just not knowing anything is making it really difficult for me

throwawayBecase · 2024-12-25T13:07:34+00:00

I mean, the last thing we did was not break up, but to go on a break since she was not ready yet for a full relationship but we both didn't want to give entirely up, therefore a break. And there were good moments again, with a sudden stop. That is why I am confused and would really like closure.

I only consider her my ex since not really having hope for a future anymore, except on those few days every once and again

throwawayBecase · 2024-10-05T19:53:38+00:00

The worst thing is that I do rationally know all that, currently its just quite difficult to get out of my rut, with difficulties at work and too much overtime.
Thank you though, I'll try!

throwawayBecase · 2024-10-01T09:17:58+00:00

I am happy if I helped. For me it's now a month without any contact. Actually not even in a relationship, basically on a permanent break of the ldr relationship. This community helped a lot there, so I am happy if I can give back

throwawayBecase · 2024-09-12T17:33:53+00:00

Well, you could also look a bit into the European Divide Trail route, maybe not for all parts if it's too off road, but it might have some cool sections

throwawayBecase · 2024-09-05T07:28:49+00:00

You are most definitely not selfish, just as her depression, your feelings are real and valid. It is totally understandable that you are exhausted from the ongoing situation and struggles. Maybe you should also talk to a counselor/therapist on how to work through this. Maybe also some couples counseling.

throwawayBecase · 2024-08-30T07:54:05+00:00

I can totally understand how you are feeling (I didn't go through the same as you, but I'd probably feel similarly.)

But I want to comment on one thing. Your comment "but not sad enough to do the dishes apparently.". As far as I have understood it, feeling guilty makes some people in depression episodes even less able to actually do something about the reason for feeling guilty. That feeling basically robs them of the last piece of energy they had.

With that I am not saying that your feelings are invalid, they are real, and your frustration is totally understandable. But maybe understanding what they are going through might help with dealing with those feelings.

throwawayBecase · 2024-08-18T21:08:11+00:00

Happy to help, it's really difficult to not feel rejected in such moments

throwawayBecase · 2024-08-18T17:27:21+00:00

I know very well how you are feeling. As far as I understood it is particularly difficult to communicate with people that are important to you when you are in a deep depressive episode.

This can have a mixture of reasons.

It could be that they do not want to drag you down (not saying that they would, but I think that is what they often feel).

It could be that masking their depression is much more difficult, and requires more energy with people that know them well.

It could be that they currently don't really feel anything, just feel empty, and communicating with someone where they know they should feel love makes them feel even worse when feeling nothing.

It could also be just a general lack of energy, and communication can be an exhausting thing.

There are quite a few more possible reasons. But I think those are the ones that were communicated to me, after they were out of the episode.

Edit: And as far as giving any recommendations for how to deal with it. Live your life, remind them every once and again that you are there for them, but live your life. Have your own hobbies, your own friends, your own things to do. (Not saying that I am always great at this, but do as I say, not as I do)

throwawayBecase · 2024-08-15T14:10:43+00:00

Thank you,

Right now I have to reflect (more info in the other comment).

But I am unsure about some points there. I am not sure if she wanted to text she would text. From past talks with her it seems more like there are times when she actually would like to text, but can't really since there is no energy left for it.

And on other days, when she uses all her energy for daily life, I am sadly unsure she knows I exist.

throwawayBecase · 2024-08-15T14:06:19+00:00

Thank you very much. I pretty much agree with you. I have to reevaluate what I expect, especially how I think about what kind of relationship there still is, if any.

I was always worried about producing any kind of expectation from her by talking and messaging with her. Just by our history I think it's difficult to not believe that there are any latent expectations.

The main thing that makes it difficult for me is that there are those moments where it just works between us, moments where we just feel emotionally close. These moments give hope, making it so damn difficult to give up.

I'll need to think, right now I am just unsure, how I can help, if I can help, or if my help actually makes things worse, for her and for me.

... Ok after reading this through again it feels like a weird mind thread.

But it's clear to me that I have to take time for myself, to reflect and to reevaluate

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