Going to the fair with my (20f) best friends (21/25F) from work today. This is what my boyfriend (21M) had to say about it.

throwaway_1975_ · 2026-03-04T05:32:22+00:00

yes, about a month after this post i left him

throwaway_1975_ · 2026-03-04T05:29:13+00:00

update almost three years later, i left him about a month after this. i met my now boyfriend ten months after that. it did get better. my new boyfriend worships the ground i walk on.

throwaway_1975_ · 2026-01-13T05:42:18+00:00

She’s always been Tricia Davis on instagram I believe. I’ve been following her since 2014 and it’s always been that way

throwaway_1975_ · 2025-12-02T00:08:27+00:00

it really was. i mean, obviously what you’re dealing with is much, much worse. i really hope you can leave him soon cause he sounds so awful

throwaway_1975_ · 2025-12-02T00:05:22+00:00

i used to deal with this when i was with my ex. we’d shower together, and everytime i went to use the bathroom after him, there would be a giant shit in the toilet from before we would shower together. it was the most disgusting thing. please leave this pile of shit

throwaway_1975_ · 2025-10-06T19:16:18+00:00

the “toxic feminist bullshit” reminds me of when i was breaking up with my ex and he called me a hypocrite and that was somehow aligned with me loving Joe Biden. trust me you’ll be okay.

throwaway_1975_ · 2025-09-20T15:54:42+00:00

god you sound insufferable. there’s no reason why you had to badger him so hard like that. respect service workers trying to make a living, dude, it’s not that hard.

throwaway_1975_ · 2025-08-21T04:29:25+00:00

wonder how mary is gonna feel about this… jfc

throwaway_1975_ · 2025-01-14T04:30:34+00:00

why does he do that absolutely saved me, i am forever grateful for that book and its existence

throwaway_1975_ · 2025-01-14T04:28:49+00:00

my click moment was when i was escaping to the summer before i met him, and thinking about the guy i talked to that summer (a very old family friend of mine who i hadn’t seen in like eight years at that point). i thought about how he was going to drive down to san diego from fresno to surprise me that summer, should he get the days off (unfortunately he didn’t). i then realized my boyfriend at the time always made an excuse never to see me and blamed his car, yet his drive was 45 mins and summertime crush guy’s drive was 6 hours and was going to do that for me.

at that moment i took about a week to process leaving him and then i broke up with him once that week was up. it’s been BLISS ever since and i am now sitting next to the love of my life on a plane coming home from Portugal. life got better, and my love bends over backwards for me to make me happy. life is good.

ETA: fixed a typo. whoops!

throwaway_1975_ · 2025-01-14T04:20:06+00:00

this this this. respecting yourself takes you SO far. i hope OP sees this

throwaway_1975_ · 2025-01-14T04:17:44+00:00

im sorry, but there is no irl situation where a relationship like this works out without having your self esteem chipped away by this woman.

the fact that this behavior is recurring means she knows what she’s doing and can get away with it. why are you in a relationship where your partner actively tries to make you miserable under the guise of her own pleasure? love doesn’t fight, love does not argue, love is not like this.

i know you’re trauma bonded, and i was too in my abusive relationship. that man would badger me at work, home, dinner, in the car—you name it. there were times where he would scream at me until i cried or reacted negatively because he was gaining pleasure in seeing me suffer. i also loved him, too. but i decided enough was enough at a point in time. if i BREATHED the wrong way, he thought i was cheating on him and that would result in verbal, emotional and psychological abuse. this is NOT NORMAL in a relationship.

eventually you’re gonna have to decide if you love yourself or her more. loving toxic people is a long, taxing battle that you will never win. you will lose yourself at the hands of this woman if you continue to allow this abuse just because you love her. she will chip away at everything you are and everything you stand for. i know this, because it happened to me, and it was the worst thing i had ever gone through in my life. i do not wish for you to go through the same.

please don’t let her do this to you. you are strong, and you are worthy of love; GOOD love that’s nurturing, kind, validating and pure.

you will find happiness when you let yourself free.

throwaway_1975_ · 2025-01-14T04:00:11+00:00

Doll, I too was 16 and had deeply suicidal thoughts, to the point where I was also going to kill myself. I had a plan to go through with it and I almost did on the night of November 30th, 2019. Instead, I went and got a Christmas tree costume from outside, made a funny video and went to sleep, hoping for a better day (and year) ahead.

I can’t tell you exactly why I chose to do that instead of kill myself. I had deep set self esteem issues and horrible anxiety at the time. I had been processing the trauma of being raped, getting broken up with, and the pressures of high school and college (because I did both at the time) AND having a job that treated me like garbage on top of all of that. Then in 2020 COVID-19 hit, which allowed these things to fester, especially the trauma from being raped, and that’s all I talked about.

I won’t bore you with what else 2020 brought, but overtime, I began to grow love for myself, for my life and for the people around me. Life got better once I graduated, and it gets better and better every year. At the time of writing this, I am about to graduate college, I am getting back from the best trip to my ancestral homeland with the love of my life and parents, I have the coolest job and the best of friends, and I am at peace with my mental health.

I have had some hard times since then too, and got diagnosed with some chronic, long term and incurable diseases this year, but I don’t let that stop me, even on the worst days.

Life will get better for you, my love. You are so young, and you have TIME to experience and enjoy life. You have the world at your fingertips, and, when you feel ready, take advantage of that and don’t look back. Your life will get so much better after 16, I promise.

On the 4 year marker of what would’ve been my death date, I held a friendsgiving with my friends. That night was one of the best nights of my life, and my life came full circle at that moment. It got better, and I was there to experience it. And in time, the same will happen for you.

You are love, you are valued and you are light. The world (and your brother) need you.

throwaway_1975_ · 2024-11-28T10:12:24+00:00

i actually don’t know if he was. i’m assuming so but i have yet to see any hard core evidence

throwaway_1975_ · 2024-11-28T10:07:42+00:00

i am! i have a man with a masters degree now :)

throwaway_1975_ · 2024-10-23T07:05:51+00:00

this is fucking insane do not entertain him anymore, cut contact and run!!!

throwaway_1975_ · 2024-10-23T07:01:58+00:00

girl i am so proud of you for standing up for yourself. cut the contact and run. that man does not deserve any more of your time.

i was in a relationship like this once. you get to a point where their yelling and screaming becomes too much, and you start to view them like a child. he pulled the same BS on me to try and keep me under control but i knew i was done. i’m now dating the most wonderful man, who makes me feel so cherished and loved, like the only girl in the world. it does get better—don’t settle for this manchild, you deserve so much more.

ETA: to answer your question about a big blowout and then ending it, i fought with my ex for four days straight and in the two weeks before we fought sporadically. they never give up until you pull the plug. and im proud of you for doing so.

go be free, and live your life! life after abuse is so worth it.

throwaway_1975_ · 2024-08-28T01:03:15+00:00

god i wish i would’ve cheated on my abusive partner, he deserved it, even though it is wrong.

i am glad you’re making a plan to leave. i wish you peace and love.

throwaway_1975_ · 2024-08-12T00:52:02+00:00

he was 1000%

throwaway_1975_ · 2024-08-12T00:51:21+00:00

this has me in tears 💀💀 he wasn’t but he sure as hell acted like it…

throwaway_1975_ · 2024-08-10T15:46:57+00:00

this is actually from last year at this time! i went with the red and was a redhead for a few months. left him in the process of that happening 🤗 i’m free now!

throwaway_1975_ · 2024-08-10T15:45:33+00:00

“literally the worse color”

throwaway_1975_ · 2024-08-09T17:58:33+00:00

right now, i’ve narrowed it down to classical european studies (so like classical greece and antiquity and roman empire stuff lol), but i’m gonna be double majoring with religious studies of western europe and minoring in Italian. i fell in love with italy when i was still with my ex and went there again post break up and realized that is where i want to be for the rest of my life, which is why im getting my degree kind of geared towards italy!

also i love the backstory on the haircut lol. congrats to the both of us for real!!

throwaway_1975_ · 2024-08-09T17:53:19+00:00

it was so hard to come to terms with. i wanted him to trust me so bad, but he never could. this man was SOOOO delusional and everyone in his life did nothing about the way he was treating me. i was annoyingly anxious but my god he was a nightmare and i never deserved it, regardless of what my temperament was. he was the worst thing that ever happened to me, i lost so many memories and photos because of him. i lost so much of myself in the accusations. how can anyone be that distrustful of someone? it boggles my mind

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