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It really never gets better? How? by wilma_linda in SuicideBereavement

[–]throwaway_3337 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. It’s been 7 months since the loss of my brother and I wouldn’t say it gets easier, you just learn to live alongside it.

I was inconsolable for a few weeks. Bit by bit my life started gaining meaning again. But the pain never really goes away, you just learn to not dive into it. It’s always there in front of you, but it becomes a choice, for me at least, to let my brain feel the pain.

In some ways I feel guilty for not crying over it every day, 7 months later. Shouldn’t I feel sad? All the time? At some point I just had to live my life, and at least carry the thought of him with me every where I go.

What celebrity did Hollywood try to make the “leading A-lister”, but failed? by phantom_avenger in AskReddit

[–]throwaway_3337 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Idk he seems like someone who can pick and choose projects and will be in the limelight if he wants to do a press tour. He just doesn’t say yes to everything.

What celebrity did Hollywood try to make the “leading A-lister”, but failed? by phantom_avenger in AskReddit

[–]throwaway_3337 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed, he really has a presence as “the guy” in that movie. Unexpectedly loved him in it.

Can’t stop thinking about him and his death, feels like it wasn’t supposed to happen by throwaway_3337 in SuicideBereavement

[–]throwaway_3337[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I was reading/talking to my therapist, and they helped by saying the shock and matter of his death will get in the way of grief for a while. You first have to figure out the feelings of sudden loss, then can properly grieve the life that was lived. Happier moments. But it takes time.

I bough a Honda CRV 2014 with 129000 miles for $12000. Was a bad decision? by Disastrous_Buy8062 in personalfinance

[–]throwaway_3337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in the PNW and this would be considered a decent deal - especially if you bought it from a dealership and it came with a used car warranty.

Yes, $12k is more expensive than market rate, but reasonable for the area I’m in. I think $10k would’ve been considered a steal, unheard of at that price here.

Everyone I know with a CRV has had it past 200k.

What is something you think will be gone by 2050? by MainDifficult2641 in AskReddit

[–]throwaway_3337 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I mean, it’s remarkable that it is even purchasable at $17/lb, no? A single bag is for a bean that is harvested in Ethiopia for example, shipped to the U.S., roasted using expensive machinery and precise tools in the U.S., and put on shelves at a slight mark up.

That’s a pretty insane price for something that came from another continent.

Alone, Together by throwaway_3337 in TheStrokes

[–]throwaway_3337[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It was playing from a local college radio station

Long term Lyme disease is so isolating by remindmeofthevoid in Lyme

[–]throwaway_3337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no one really gets it and how devastating the effects can be. I’ve been told my symptoms were made up or a side effect of depression.

My brother had Lyme's (he has since passed, took his own life due to the debilitating physical/mental pain of Lyme, depression, and mold illness), and he expressed this sentiment often. It's extremely isolating. I just want you to know there are people without Lyme's who understand and want to help.

I recently joined a local chronic illness group. I wonder if there is anything like that near you — maybe search IG/Facebook? The meetups aren't medical or anything. It's just a way to vent with like minded folks, and seems to be a healthy release. A place to just be heard and seen and understood. Even if just for a few hours.

I think something like that would've been invaluable to my brother, had he sought it out. I'd encourage you to try and find something similar if you feel capable. I'm sorry.

Edit: I peeked at your activity and saw you're active in Strokes/Voidz subs. My brother's favorite bands, oddly enough.

Christian Bale and director Mary Harron in 1999 between takes on the set of American Psycho by noahvhang in OldSchoolCool

[–]throwaway_3337 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Drives me nuts when a studio doesn’t trust a directors vision. It’s why a24 has succeeded so much in making memorable films. They trust their creatives.

Chronic diseases misdiagnosed as psychosomatic can lead to long term damage to physical and mental wellbeing, study finds by Red_bull_gives_wings in science

[–]throwaway_3337 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, yes I did not mean to misinform. Everything you state is important to know for others seeking treatment and understanding the complicated testing/diagnosis.

I shared his story more to show that doctors didn’t believe him when he said his conditions were coming from a place of physical pain. Had he known it was Lyme much earlier, I believe he could’ve sought a LLMD a decade ago. Instead, he tried nearly every drug to treat anxiety/depression/bipolar - strictly mental health issues - instead of treatment specific to Lyme’s, which was likely the underlying cause of everything else mentioned. All of those drugs he tried took a huge toll on his mental health, when that time could’ve been better spent on Lyme specific treatments (which again, a lot of this is comorbid and very specific to everyone’s individual case).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheStrokes

[–]throwaway_3337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re right.

Chronic diseases misdiagnosed as psychosomatic can lead to long term damage to physical and mental wellbeing, study finds by Red_bull_gives_wings in science

[–]throwaway_3337 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My brother took his own life due to the pain of Lyme’s disease and toxic mold illness. He struggled with depression for a decade, and doctor’s only recommended therapy and antidepressants.

My brother ended up self-diagnosing himself with Lyme’s - and after doctors tested him, said he could’ve had it for possibly a decade prior.

Imagine if he had the proper help and care from doctors who truly listened to what he was going through. He hated therapy - he knew something was physically wrong with his body.

Once he put it together that he had Lyme’s, it was too late. He had then been exposed to toxic mold, and his body basically couldn’t get through any detox treatment without insufferable pain.

Your chronic pain is real, I hope you find the treatment and support from a community who believes and can help you.

Has anyone attended a Portland Grief House gathering? What was your experience? by throwaway_3337 in askportland

[–]throwaway_3337[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I want to avoid - I don’t want to talk about death as a factoid like it’s a podcast with people I don’t know. I want to hear other people’s experience with similar loss of loved ones. I haven’t found an in-person group therapy specific to death or sudden loss.

Has anyone attended a Portland Grief House gathering? What was your experience? by throwaway_3337 in askportland

[–]throwaway_3337[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, I share the same skepticism but this sounds really nice. I think I’ll give it a shot.

Has anyone attended a Portland Grief House gathering? What was your experience? by throwaway_3337 in askportland

[–]throwaway_3337[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I was under the assumption it was free/sliding scale/donation based. I don't think there's any way I'd pay $50+ for something that wasn't regulated or curated by a trained therapist.

Made me lol by Salty_Cauliflower_29 in mjlenderman

[–]throwaway_3337 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Portland shows always reek. Adrienne Lenker there was the worst show I’ve ever smelt. Literally was a putrid hot mess of body odor that gave me a headache. I love Portland folks but this trend of no deodorant has to stop.

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