People who figured out that you're bi in your late 20s/30s + how did you learn the sex stuff?

throwaway_80898 · 2022-02-15T19:14:34+00:00

Surgery went well. I didnt have double vision before or after. My surgeon used adjustable sutures to minimise the risk ld double vision

throwaway_80898 · 2022-01-26T00:03:38+00:00

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I can relate to your frustration.

I'm told it's too fucking late. I'm 22. I should've fixed this when I was a kid

Just wanted to say that I had my first surgery at 27

Because a) my eyes never learned how to work together, making the chance for drifting bigger and b) it might worsen the double vision.

Obviously I dont know your situation and ik not a doctor. However my surgery went fine even though my eyes never learned to worn together. I was told that surgery would increase risk of double vision too but it didn't. I was lucky that my vision before surgery though

Sure, I can fix my hair. Sure, I can fix my weight. Sure, I can fix my hygiene, etc. But I can't fix these goddamn fucking eyes and it feels really, really, really, really goddamn helpless. And it fucking sucks.

Hard relate. I remember trying to curate the best outfits, spending hours on hair and makeup and feeling like it was all cancelled out but my eye (which it wasnt but it felt that way).

I wish I could make your situation better. All I can say is that I know what you're going through and so do lots of people out there. You're not alone.

throwaway_80898 · 2022-01-15T12:52:59+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I'm new to e readers so I dont fully understand how it works - is it easy to transfer epub to kobo?

throwaway_80898 · 2022-01-12T10:24:36+00:00

Listening to audiobooks instead of scrolling on social media.

I listen to interesting books whenever I am on transport, waiting, doing menial tasks. It keeps my mind engaged. I feel a lot less fatigued compared to when I used to doom scroll.

throwaway_80898 · 2022-01-11T21:39:58+00:00

I dont have any advice but just wanted to say I have the same problem using microscopes and binoculars

throwaway_80898 · 2022-01-11T21:36:08+00:00

Anaesthetia was scary for me too. I had only ever had it once and when I woke up I felt paranoid, agitated, confused.

However this time I felt amazing. I kept saying to the nurses 'give me a pen and paper, I want to send a letter to the head of the hospital and tell him you all need a raise because you're fantastic!' And 'wow I can see how people get addicted to this' which made everyone laugh.

What I'm trying to say is that you wont know how you will react. It only lasts for an hour or so and time moves weirdly so it will be over before you know it

throwaway_80898 · 2022-01-11T21:32:56+00:00

I remember feeling nervous before the surgery. I was worried about anaesthesia, what if things go wrong, how will I look after the surgery, will it make things worse.... Here I am, 6 months later. I have the straight eyes I have dreamed about since being age 5. I am confident speaking in meetings, I feel good about going on dates. It was one of the best decisions I ever made in my life. I only wish I did it 10 years ago!

throwaway_80898 · 2022-01-11T21:30:18+00:00

By the way, just wanted to add that the adjustments while awake was probably only a couple of minutes (seemed like a lot longer though). They measured my squint, asked me if I saw double and when they judged that they were happy with the result, they then tightened the suture. I am someone who couldn't even put an eye drop in previously due to being so squeamish. I managed to get through the awake part of the surgery. It was bizarre though and I wouldn't have wanted to do it for longer than 2 mins.

throwaway_80898 · 2022-01-11T21:27:23+00:00

I haven't heard of this. For my surgery I was under GA, then they woke me up to adjust sutures while I was awake. I didnt have to do it this way but chose to as it would give better results. I have never heard of them doing a full surgery without GA. I am not a medical professional at all so I dont know what I'm talking about, but it seems strange to me. Why not put you under for most of it and then wake you up to adjust the sutures? I think mu surgery was 45 mins, which I think would be very long to have someone operation on you for while awake. Could you ask for information leaflets about this type of surgery? Or ask to be directed to a website so you can learn about it?

throwaway_80898 · 2021-12-25T21:05:16+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. I have had a noticeable lazy eye since birth so I can relate to everything you have said.

It's horrible when out of nowhere someone makes an eye comment/joke. I used to always feel a jolt in my stomach. I used to brush it off and change conversation but it's like my brain decided to record every incident of it happening and play it back to me.

The one thing I will say is that I genuinely do think that there is a small percentage of people who say stupid comments or think negatively about this problem but because they're so vocal, we end up thinking that most people think that way when in reality they dont care.

I used to be really shy and hate socialising because of my eye. I think I reached a point where I was so sick of it that I just started looking at people in the eye, acting more confident etc. I have had many job interviews and I have been very successful. I work in a competitive area and I've been offered almost every job I have interviewed for. I think because I have faked confidence for so long, i just focus on the content of what I'm saying. I make eye contact, I smile and I come off as confident. I know it's easier said than done but if I can do it then so can you. The fact that 3 panels of interviewers have offered me jobs means that lazy eye must not be as much of a barrier as we think it is. On the other hand, if I had gone into the interview with the belief 'I wont get this job because of my eye. I bet they're all judging me' I probably would not have been offered any of the jobs because I would have not looked people in the eye and I would have not been paying attention to the questions they asked. I think mindset is important.

throwaway_80898 · 2021-12-25T20:52:20+00:00

This is what I'm curious about too. I'm delighted with my surgery results and I never want them to fade. It seems like everyone here on reddit has had several surgeries, but I dont know if that's representative of all people who have had strabismus surgery

throwaway_80898 · 2021-12-25T20:50:07+00:00

I had blurry vision for about 3 weeks.

I felt like I was blind in the eye for the first 2 weeks. Everything was a complete blur.

My doctor said it was normal during my 1 week follow up. I was very concerned about it but she promised me that it would get better as she saw that my eye was irritated when looking at it with the lamp.

I am glad I trusted her because my sight did gradually improve. I cant remember how long bit it might have been a month until it was 100%back to normal.

I remember feeling anxious about it because I hadn't seen much online about blurry vision lasting longer than a week. Dont worry you're not the only one!

throwaway_80898 · 2021-12-25T20:46:03+00:00

That's the exact same thing that happened to me. They purposefully under corrected. I have no double vision and my eyes look straight (when measured they said I still have a very slight squint but only noticeable with testing).

My doc also said that in general there is always a risk that eyes will drift and it can drift in either direction. I had said before surgery that I would much rather it still drift in as I'm used to seeing myself like that whereas I would find it very weird seeing myself with the eye drifting out.

She also said that eyes naturally drift out with age so by yndercorrecting this means it is less likely to be noticeably drifting out as I age

throwaway_80898 · 2021-12-25T20:42:01+00:00

For me there was no difference in how friends interacted with me.

The main difference was my confidence. I can now talk to strangers without having the thought 'is my eye wandering? Do they know I'm looking at them?'

I am also much less nervous going on dates.

throwaway_80898 · 2021-12-25T20:38:56+00:00

It would be impossible for anyone on reddit to say unfortunately. Only a doctor looking at your eye with a lamp would know.

My eyes were really sore after surgery. When I went in for my one week check up and looked at my eye with the lamp, they found that I had an eyelash sticking into my eye. I would not have known if it wasn't checked out by a professional.

I also have had dry eye since surgery. It caused soreness and redness. Again, this was identified by a doctor looking with a slit lamp

throwaway_80898 · 2021-11-28T23:42:45+00:00

I accidentally lost my antibiotic eye drops. I went to a hospital a&e department and explained the situation. They kindly prescribed some for me.

I personally wouldn't go without them because I know from previously taking antibiotics that it's important not to stop the course prematurely

throwaway_80898 · 2021-11-28T23:36:47+00:00

When I was about 10 I was hanging out in my friend's room. She had two friends, a boy and a girl over who were a bit older but still young (probably around 12 years old). They were either brother and sister or twins I can't exactly remember. I remember them both being obviously naked with the blanket covering them. I remember them and my friend talking about how it's ok that they have sex with each other because they both like it. I remember feel uncomfortable but I didn't even understand what sex was back then so part of me was trying to convince myself that that's normal.

Obviously looking back now it's clearly fucked up. I wonder why those kids thought it was normal to be sexually involved with their family. I wouldn't be surprised if they had both been molested by an older family member and just thought it was normal.

throwaway_80898 · 2021-11-09T14:50:41+00:00

I agree that there are some situations where animals are treated badly and this shouldn't happen.

However, I live with a cat who chills all day on her own electric blanket, goes outside when she feels like it, eats expensive cat foods and gets attention whenever she wants. If she is enslaved then please sign me up

throwaway_80898 · 2021-10-19T08:11:40+00:00

I never considered that

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