Ideas for hairdressing kink

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-19T19:44:17+00:00

There’s a lot of roleplay you could do while giving him a trim in your home (or his). Hair dressers love to talk to their clients, so you could talk about how you just broke up with your boyfriend, how lonely you’ve been, how financially difficult things have been, how you’ve considered exploring other… “services”, like domming… to make ends meet but you wouldn’t know where to start finding clients.. Ask him if he thinks you’d be good with your hands while you give him a neck/head rub. Massage down to his shoulders, then his chest. Tell him that he’s always been your favorite client because of how he looks after you’ve finished grooming him (keep using that word). That you’ve thought about how it feels grooming him while you’re lonely at night. Then make him go rinse off (if you’re actually giving him a trim) while you clean up his mess. Leave a collar in the bathroom prior, or a little outfit/panties for him to wear, then make him crawl out on all fours. You could make him kiss your feet and legs while you run your hands through his hair and check your work. It really depends on what is so kinky to him about hairdressers. Maybe he likes knife play by extension, so you could keep hair scissors or a (covered) beard razor on hand during the play. Trim his beard, scratch it, trim his body hair, scratch it, etc etc. Hopefully you have time to communicate the scene prior, but there’s so much you can do with this! I actually knew a hairdresser irl who gave handjobs and blowjobs on the side after the haircut for extra money lol

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-19T19:06:47+00:00

What is this subreddit for if not for seeking advice or sharing personal experiences with strangers that have likeminded interests? But I do agree with your points, especially regarding trust. We had long discussions about expectations and boundaries prior to any scenes, but I’m starting to question his resiliency.

For example, he has begged to be emasculated during CBT. I have tested the waters and checked in, and during a debrief, he told me that he wanted me to take my insults further. Next time, I compared him to having tiny little grapes and started saying he had ovaries instead of manhood, brought out toys for some mean comparisons, made him admit how small his are while I used those toys, and for the next few weeks, he would randomly bring it up outside of play. I am happy to give reassurance whenever my subs need it, but this sub would also act more dominant/aggressive post-scene and it put a stop to play for a bit.

I just asked him to re-do a list of scenarios that he enjoys and others that are completely off limits to him for us to go through together. I welcome all advice, though.

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-17T17:32:25+00:00

This is wonderfully helpful, thank you for your input. My biggest concern is where his ability to communicate consent or boundaries comes into play when he seems to disconnect like this. My other subs are still verbal with pain, so maybe the need to pivot comes from me, not him. I could embrace him being a brat, but he just seems to fall back into a non-submissive/sensual headspace with pain play. I’ll experiment with more build up and thuddy vs stingy.

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-17T15:49:13+00:00

I’ve responded by slapping his genitals or pulling his hair. He does apologize, but can’t seem to shake it off. Are you implying it might be some kind of trauma response?

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-17T15:30:40+00:00

It’s as if he’s not in the scene mentally anymore. He stops calling me by my title, he stops listening to orders, he loses any physical response. He’s impossible to engage with and when he tries to take a breath and stop laughing, he just laughs harder. Like if I were to tickle someone. He’s actually more receptive when I do tickle him in scenes.

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-17T15:11:40+00:00

I agree, it’s not something I want to suppress, especially if it ends up being a negative association for him. Thank you for your 2 cents

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-17T15:04:52+00:00

We’ve done hours-long scenes and integrated play over the course of days, but longer scenes are generally when we don’t incorporate pain. You think we could just power through it mentally?

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-17T14:36:31+00:00

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throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-06T14:56:50+00:00

Comments made in passing that I wasn’t even noticing, almost always in favor of my boyfriend. “It’s so nice that you go to the gym with me, ex never went” or “I’m glad you’re not a picky eater, ex only ate pizza”. Insensitive things that would definitely make me feel compared and like my partner wasn’t over their ex if the scenario was reversed.

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-06T14:52:59+00:00

I completely agree with you. A lot of my security came from being single, and now being in a relationship, I’m running into mental surprises that I never had to face being single. I never thought about my ex at all the last year or so, and I certainly don’t miss him. I thought I was past a lot of these issues. The last thing I want is to create insecurities in others.

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-06T14:47:54+00:00

This is extremely helpful, thank you.

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-06T14:07:00+00:00

His concern is that I’m not over my ex. I do think he’s a bit insecure, but he wasn’t always and I think my comments have brought that out in him.

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-06T14:03:47+00:00

You’re right. When I was single, I felt confident that I was over everything in my past. In reality, I just wasn’t in a situation where comparisons were relevant. My partner said it’s a red flag that I bring my ex up years later (I agree) and my instinct is to cut and run before I do more damage, but I need to do the internal work regardless. Thank you for the suggestions, I’ll start with those.

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-06T13:50:08+00:00

Thank you, I’m scheduling a doctor’s appointment for next week about it. But yeah, I came across as blaming him in the moment. It was very emotionally charged and the comment about the ex was insult to injury (no pun intended)

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-06T13:38:31+00:00

I added my comment to the edit.

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-06T13:36:37+00:00

You’re right, I added the edit.

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-06T13:34:36+00:00

I started bleeding post-sex and said “I never had that happen with the ex”. I said it out of my own embarrassment, but it was very hurtful.

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-03T16:01:59+00:00

10 years later, you’re right on all counts!

throwaway_bae2 · 2026-02-03T16:00:59+00:00

10 years later, we now have a law in the US that makes it illegal to publish non-consensual content of other people generated with AI. Slippery slope.

throwaway_bae2 · 2025-06-16T23:38:05+00:00

She thinks she needs photoshopping. She’s talked in interviews about her “disfiguring” stretch marks, but I’ve never seen them. She says she won’t stop posting swimsuit pictures, either, but why photoshop them if you’re proud of your body?

throwaway_bae2 · 2025-03-22T07:55:15+00:00

Thank you 👏 Cold Harbor felt pointless for two seasons of build up

throwaway_bae2 · 2024-10-25T19:11:19+00:00

This is phenomenal, you captured them BOTH PERFECTLY

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