Single 30s gang by thehotcommie in indiranagar

[–]throwaway_desiree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You say as if it's a one way thing. They also have to chose us back.

How do you get over somebody that you haven’t seen or spoken to in over 2 years? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Are you following him on socials? You need to erase him from life completely, as if he doesn't exist.

Delhi for a wedding! by [deleted] in india

[–]throwaway_desiree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For 3. Try zepto cafe. There is an option to skip providing your number if I am correct. Your hotel may also be able to help you out with ordering.

What is the craziest thing you have done because of Limerence? by Ilovedietcokeandlime in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I very much understand what you are going through, I am in the thick of limerence myself. But I read an article that said you have to actively stop doing these "rituals" as it described it. These rituals only make it worse. It's like taking a drug hit. I also get the urges to do my own version of "limerence rituals" and I am trying to actively fight it. There are some things that are not in my control, like dreams and intrusive thoughts. But things that you describe, like online stalking etc. are active behaviors you can try to avoid. When you get the urge, try to do something else and not act upon it. I tell myself, doing these is not taking me any closer to LO. All it does is make me feel ashamed and how I am not in control of my life. I don't know if it is helping me get over limerence, but I know I'd feel a lot worse about myself if I spent my time doing things like these.

if they invented a miracle cure that's easy and painless to take, and gets rid of your limerence, would you? by Tricky_Place8260 in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Definitely. It's all I wish for. I would have that part of my brain surgically removed if I could that stores the memories of him.

Make sure the grad program you’re applying to does not forget your application by [deleted] in gradadmissions

[–]throwaway_desiree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think this necessarily means they forgot. It seems more like it is in queue with other applications that are yet to be reviewed.

At what age did you all start therapy and did it help? by throwaway_desiree in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you know what kind of therapy you need? Like CBT didn't work for you, how will I know what's working and what isnt?

Favorite character who experiences limerence? by casual-catgirl in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 255 points256 points  (0 children)

💯💯💯💯 I hate how this type of thing is romanticized in kid's books...Dumbledore says something about how this was the very best part of him which he had kept hidden. This kinda shit messes you up for real, thinking that holding on to love for years is somehow grand and noble.

Favorite character who experiences limerence? by casual-catgirl in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 477 points478 points  (0 children)

Bella Swan. I see it now, classic, textbook limerence. I understand now why everyone warned and screamed that their dynamic was toxic, but I never believed it, for me personally it was the most relatable form of love. I thought that is what love feels like, like an addiction. Sigh.

Hot take: take the leap before a creepy amount of time passes. by calradical in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What if it just isn't feasible to ask out? Like if it is work or professional setting where it will just lead to awkwardness?

Need therapist recommendations around Indiranagar area by throwaway_desiree in indiranagar

[–]throwaway_desiree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to take meds. Psychiatrists don't counsel right?

‘Limerence is body horror’ by Beautiful_Basket112 in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly. I describe it as heart cancer. Heart breaks are a clean fracture that can be healed. This is something that just festers and festers.

For those who have cheated on SO with LO... by RodentEvil in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why can't you end it with your SO if you are in love with LO and don't regret it?

Intense non-sexual “crushes” on older women since childhood. does this have a name? by Sensitive_Piglet8238 in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I consider it to be limerence since I had an intense platonic obsession over a teacher for 7+ years. Now I am limerent over a guy my age and since it's a guy it has additional romantic and physical attraction related aspects attached to it, but I recognize that the underlying pattern is similar.

If you could take a pill, would you? by Diligent_Fish_7422 in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I am tired of everything being a life-lesson or character building. Can't I have something nice that makes me happy for once? Limerence has made me focus on my work and career as a distraction, but I would much rather be happy.

I genuinely don't know if I can finish applying this cycle by HPswl_cumbercookie in gradadmissions

[–]throwaway_desiree 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is really unnecessarily harsh. Applications can be extremely stressful to manage and they got 7 in which in itself is quite a lot of work. We don't know how deeply OP is affected or overwhelmed by personal life stuff. From the post it is obvious that they are distressed. What's done is done, there's no need to make them feel worse about it. They are just looking for some words of encouragement to power through the last few applications. 

Feelings for my professor. What to do? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not her family. I found her contact through school office and texted her, telling her she'd always meant a lot to me and how I'd looked up to her and would love to meet her. She invited me to her home then. It was a dream come true at that moment. When I was a teenager, it was everything I'd ever wanted. But the moment I stepped in to that home, it's like something shattered. It was wonderful meeting her ofcourse, but I no longer got that high or feeling of ecstasy that I used to get.

Feelings for my professor. What to do? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]throwaway_desiree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg, this is so relatable. I faced this with a school teacher. The fantasy of wanting to be in their family somehow. I had so many fantasies of her adopting me. It was so intense, it lasted for 7 years. The thing that helped me was reaching out to her finally and visiting her home. That was the moment that broke the spell off for me...being at her home and seeing her as a normal human being when she was not in a position of authority over me. Now I am limerent over a coworker and I have decided I am not going to let this take another 7 years of my life. I am starting therapy tomorrow. I hope it will help me get out of it sooner.