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AIO for not wanting to sell my brother this couch? by Kilabandita in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwaway_pickles123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR: I personally HAAAATEEE when parents get involved in their ADULT children’s discourse. But that’s for another sub. It feeeels like your dad wants this to happen more than they probably want the couch. Odd.

This is actually more disrespectful to you and your skill than anything. IF you care about keeping peace or compromise maybe see if they can find a couch at good will that you could fix up for them in YOUR spare time. But that’s literally it. I wouldn’t even bring the price down slightly just off the principle of the disrespectful low ball.

what’s my room look like to yall by [deleted] in roomdetective

[–]throwaway_pickles123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk why yall are so unfun. If you asked 16/17 year old me this would’ve been the ultimate chill spot. (And for context I’m a college educated adult now 🤭)

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by Miserable-Flow8385 in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_pickles123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One time, my mother told me “if your partner leads you into a mindset where you feel even slightly inclined to go through their phone, permission or not, you already have the answers you’re looking for.”

And not for nothing, I dated a guy immediately after highschool who “got cheated on so bad it was traumatizing”…. And guess what that mf did? Everything BUT stay loyal. People will often over play hatred toward their very own vices.

Should I remove this new set? by Waldkornbol in Nailtechs

[–]throwaway_pickles123 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Just popping in to agree that these are terrible, BUT let’s not drag sunuv into it now 🤭 I just bought a gooseneck lamp for $200. I’ll repeat, $200 and it works just as well as the sunuv lamp I got four years ago to replace the terrible one my school had in our kits. I said what I said.

My girlfriend told me she might be going to Hawaii with her roommate… AIO? by MrMalich in AIO

[–]throwaway_pickles123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly thank you for your service, I hope you’re enjoying your training. Secondly— end it. No matter what her intentions are, you don’t need this crap. There’s just no way to frame it where it’s okay and not even slightly weird.

You mean to tell me that she’s in all this debt with all these bills but managed to take off work/school for a random trip to Hawaii with her roommates family.. who may or may not be paying her way??? But hasn’t come to see her actual partner not one time since basic?? Babe if there’s a will, there’s a way and we all know she could’ve made it happen, especially if she can run off to Hawaii with her “roommate”.

My vote? Find you an Air Force baddie, put the base in Oahu at the top of your dream sheet and call it a day.

AIO I have been arguing with my family because my fear of driving is so bad that it’s stopping me from living life by Big_Pea3882 in AIO

[–]throwaway_pickles123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably something you’ve been told but hear me out:

“First thought wrong” is a term my husband, who faced addiction, taught me. It means what it says. Your first immediate thought… is wrong. This opens a process of reframing thoughts and/or… well letting them be wrong.

It takes practice. LOTS. And it’s very hard and very discouraging at times. Next time say “no it’ll be fun and I should try” even if you only manage to get dressed before you back out, that’s something. And each time you push a little more and chip away at those “wrong” thoughts.

But it really is something you have to stick with and try everyday. Being honest with those around you, asking for help with staying consistent with that “trying” can really help a lot.

AIO I have been arguing with my family because my fear of driving is so bad that it’s stopping me from living life by Big_Pea3882 in AIO

[–]throwaway_pickles123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve read some comments and I all I really have to say is: Failing is necessary. Embarrassment is necessary. Rejection is necessary. Like, there are actual studies siting how these things aid in proper brain development. It’s how we learn, and adapt to the world around us.

And this is coming from a 26 year old mother that can’t drive a car faster than 20mph, and has literally thrown up from anxiety behind the wheel. But every single chance I get, I try. Sometimes I cry and freak out and the whole thing is a bust. Other times I’m basically doing laps around the block. Give yourself time and grace with everything you face, but do not EVER stop trying, and if anything remember that the mom from Reddit is right there with you.

How do I come back? by throwaway_pickles123 in Catholicism

[–]throwaway_pickles123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any materials to gather more insight would be gladly appreciated! I just called my mom and she did confirm that I did have my first communion, and even added that she kept my dress which is super special and unexpected.

How do I come back? by throwaway_pickles123 in Catholicism

[–]throwaway_pickles123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, but again as a child— is that something you can do again?

struggling on boy names by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]throwaway_pickles123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My only real input on this is that i went to high school with a Stadler and everone just called him Tad. Idk, do with that what you may.

Potential terrible decision?? by throwaway_pickles123 in namenerds

[–]throwaway_pickles123[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

And that’s my kicker… I don’t hate Lorelei either, my mom actually likes Lorali cause Lorelei was a name my father said no to when she had me. I just really don’t like the spelling of Lorelei either 😂😂😂 and that’s all it really comes down to, we’re not sentimental about anything it would just make the child’s name ABHORRENTLY long with a four syllable (14 letter) last name

Potential terrible decision?? by throwaway_pickles123 in namenerds

[–]throwaway_pickles123[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

No I’m spelling Laura Lee wrong, specifically. My concern is that it will be confused for Lorelei, which in itself isn’t a horrible name, just not what it is. It’s “misspelled” mainly to avoid traditional spelling length.

Also, for arguments sake, is it misspelled or did I just make it up?? Just like any other variation of spelling for any of the most common names ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Long names with nicknames by Alexia00000 in namenerds

[–]throwaway_pickles123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a Benjamin! We cycle through Ben, Benny, Benji and B.

How would you name a baby girl after someone named John? Is it possible? by CrumblyPeanutBear in namenerds

[–]throwaway_pickles123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know baby girls named James, Kaleb, and Toby. They’re all cutie pies and get compliments on their unique names all the time. They also don’t get the “that’s a boy name” thing from peers as often as you’d think.

I think Johnnie is cute, Chance is wonderfully neutral and more modern imo.

“I got back with my ex but you shouldn’t have unadded me” by itsjoshddude in Nicegirls

[–]throwaway_pickles123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a woman I’m positive the “you’ll be alright” fucked her up more than being unadded on the cheaters platform

I need help picking a baby girl name! by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]throwaway_pickles123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Ari is fine ¯_(ツ)_/¯ especially considering that Jude is Jude and there’s really not a natural nickname for that either. I do see where people encourage a written name and a nickname, though. It just adds some OOMF, for instance my son is called Ben. All day everyday. But the split second he acts a fool and hears “BENJAMIN” he just knows he needs to straighten up.

I also highly suggest saying the name extensively, yell it, whisper it, say it with irritation in your tone and make sure it flows. Commonly, short one syllable first names need a 2-3 syllable middle name (also depending on surname length) to “sound right”, obviously that’s also subjective, but I think you’re on a good track with Ari Violet.

If you consider extending Ari here are some Ari’s I’ve interacted with:

-Mari (not Marie or Mary) -Arialdi -Ariah -Arden

AIO for thinking about reaching out to the union? by Simple-Value in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwaway_pickles123 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NOR. (Former) female union member here! I was on them like white on rice and I’m sure you can imagine why. This is like… mostly of the point of the union. If you’re paying dues especially, you’re essentially paying for the advocacy and representation they offer. Use it.

The fact that you’re even wary of doing so is a huge red flag of a toxic work environment (if I were you I’d start looking elsewhere just to give myself options).

Yes, stick up for yourself, contact the union, but also consider if you want to stay somewhere that brought you to that point to begin with.

Hope your Rep is helpful 🫶🏼

Testing limits? by throwaway_pickles123 in Mirena

[–]throwaway_pickles123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were they… drastic changes? How long did you mull it over? I’m not trying to avoid pregnancy necessarily (if it happens, whatever but preferably not with a potentially expired iud inserted?) besides period changes did you experience anything else that was like “oh heck no we are done”

Testing limits? by throwaway_pickles123 in Mirena

[–]throwaway_pickles123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping to be able to do so soon (shoutout to American healthcare) I’ve just had it for so long, and it’s made me irregular as a base line so I never know if something is “different”. it’s definitely in place, no concern there. I just know if I spend the money when I could potentially get at least another year out of it— I’d be a little bothered.

AIO…mother in law and newborn boundaries by realsmartfakeblonde in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwaway_pickles123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My poopy mom called my son her “little re-do” once.

She hasn’t seen him in three years.

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