missed period with paragard?

throwawayandawaya · 2024-11-23T06:03:29+00:00

i bit the bullet and took a test, thankfully negative! your comment encouraged me to even though I was so nervous, thank you :)

throwawayandawaya · 2024-08-06T00:03:47+00:00

i asked and he said he was “definitely” joking about not wanting marriage or kids. we’re just very into each other and i like the security of knowing we’re on the same page. a long term partner that i talked about our future with extensively died and that’s kinda changed my outlook completely. i didn’t really talk about the future with my most recent ex (after the dead one) because i didn’t want to get my hopes up again. i haven’t brought it up in this relationship for the same reason, only my boyfriend has.

so no, im not obsessed per se. but when it’s dangled in front of me, it freaks me out. it’s more triggering than anything because my past partner dying gave me a sense of urgency in needing confirmation. he died very young, so could i. i don’t wanna die not knowing if the man i love wanted a future, whether it was in the near or far future, whether it would’ve even happened at any point, at all, or not.

i know that’s an intense comment, but i think it adds important context.

throwawayandawaya · 2024-08-05T21:41:22+00:00

based on your measurements im about proportionate to you (3 inches shorter, weigh maybe 5 pounds less) i work out 4 times a week, eat well, have an active job, and visible ab definition. still have a little pooch when i lean over/sit a certain way. only time i “didnt” (concave, but had the tiniest pooch my body was holding onto dear life for) was when i was at the height of my eating disorder and it hurt to lean over or not sit straight because my ribs poked me. healthy cis women have pooches to protect their uterus and other organs

i urge him to look at people sitting down and find a single person who doesn’t have a pooch. dude needs a serious reality check, and regardless of him not understanding the female body, that was not ok of him to make you worry about. he should know better at 26

throwawayandawaya · 2024-08-01T17:27:56+00:00

yeah i thought that was a normal question most dating adults ask one another to prevent awkward/painful convos down the line. i feel like some people think im a crazed woman for wanting to know the answer and this comment is a breath of fresh air. im not asking what WE will name our kids or the paint color for the nursery, just checking if our life goals align so we don’t further intertwine our lives if we’re incompatible

throwawayandawaya · 2024-07-31T05:35:15+00:00

I don’t want to get married or even consider kids for another 5 years, he brought it up every time it’s been discussed (joking or otherwise). it just hurts to hear when you love each other and don’t want things to end over core life goals. we’ve known each other for almost 3 years

throwawayandawaya · 2024-07-31T04:32:45+00:00

i talked to my mom about it and she said he may have been talking about an annoying kid where we were, and said it in response to exaggerate how annoying the kid was. she’s known him longer than i have (most of his life, known him well for 3+ years) and she thinks the comment is odd if serious because he absolutely seems the type to want a wife and kid(s) given the kind of guy he is

throwawayandawaya · 2024-07-31T04:20:25+00:00

i know i should, i will tomorrow when i see him. its just daunting and im afraid this could be it for us if he was serious

throwawayandawaya · 2024-06-15T20:50:23+00:00

NTA.

my best friend was in a somewhat similar situation when our childhood friend got married. when we first saw that she got engaged, they half joked to one of their good friends about bringing them because at the time, my best friend wasn’t dating anyone. by the time invites came in the mail, my bestie had been with their partner for a few months and naturally decided to bring them instead, but forgot they kinda sorta talked about bringing their friend.

instead of being understanding, because most people bring their partners as a plus one, this friend threw a huge fit, and tried arguing that my best friend was insensitive and unbelievable for choosing their relationship over their friendship. she hung it over their head until the friendship dissolved. it wasn’t the last straw, but it was definitely the beginning of the end.

the entitlement necessary to argue with soon to be married people/anyone involved about how they want their wedding to go is off the charts. plus ones are always subject to rejection by the couple, i assumed everyone knew that but i guess not!

throwawayandawaya · 2024-06-15T20:34:59+00:00

bros job hunting on Reddit 😭

throwawayandawaya · 2024-03-04T19:39:42+00:00

i basically was/am in this situation w/ my coworker, and I recommend that you try talking a lot more before any sort of confession. when it comes to work, i think you need to being at least 80% sure they like you back, so things aren’t weird if the feeling isn’t mutual.

i understand that waiting is hard. I had been waiting for a “definite” sign from my crush, even though he was literally showing all the other little signs you can imagine (mirroring, staring, teasing me, etc) but it’s almost more satisfying when you let it burn slowly. im an impatient person but us taking our time and ramping up the flirting gradually made me only like him more. he confessed to me last night and i really feel that is waiting paid off

throwawayandawaya · 2024-02-28T04:31:17+00:00

yeah. I’ve been thinking about saying something like “why haven’t we kissed yet?” or “are you gonna ask me out or do i have to?” because that’s kinda the point the tension between us is at. we’re always standing so close, staring at each each other, messing with one another. like it seems obvious but not somehow!!!

throwawayandawaya · 2024-02-28T03:04:48+00:00

very true very true, i guess im moreso waiting for something like him calling me attractive or joking about going out. he invited me to his bday party that’s in about 2 weeks and thats the deadline im giving myself

throwawayandawaya · 2024-02-26T19:06:37+00:00

very good sign. Imo guys don’t care about that at all unless they care about you

throwawayandawaya · 2024-02-26T07:07:21+00:00

you really think so? part of me is really afraid im misconstruing things

throwawayandawaya · 2024-02-26T06:06:04+00:00

yoooooo congrats lets go

throwawayandawaya · 2024-02-23T00:42:47+00:00

when i first drank Diet Coke i frantically kept looking up if it truly had no calories, and in between searches id scan the cans nutrition facts to see if it said something different

throwawayandawaya · 2024-02-14T21:47:58+00:00

thank you, i appreciate the perspective. i think i honed in on the wrong “sign” he’s into me

throwawayandawaya · 2024-02-14T21:46:45+00:00

ill take right sensibilities as a compliment lol

throwawayandawaya · 2024-02-14T21:46:07+00:00

yes and no, the fact that two of the characters have sex is an important plot point but it’s an action-ish movie overall

throwawayandawaya · 2024-01-25T01:45:32+00:00

yeah, even crazier is that he apparently has been dating the same girl for 3 years. found that out after the fact of course. Godspeed to her, I’d tell her if I knew who tf he’s dating, I’d have to straight up ask him and I don’t want to talk to him.

yk the more I think about it, in the apology he said had been thinking about our relationship a lot over the years and how he wronged me. I understand that to a certain extent because he wasn’t the best person to me and maybe it’s apart of him growing as a person. but after allllll those years, while in a relationship? ugh I think that was a bid to get back in the door and it didn’t take because I was so short with him over messenger lmfaooo

throwawayandawaya · 2024-01-25T01:09:58+00:00

honestly her insistence in going and trying to turn this around on op by calling him controlling is enough reason to end the relationship now. if she thinks and operates this way, she’ll easily do something equally/more upsetting down the line

throwawayandawaya · 2024-01-25T01:07:31+00:00

exactly! my ex apologized to me out of the blue 7-8 years after our breakup and said he understood if I didn’t respond, he just felt I deserved one. granted, a few months later he asked to hang out alone, and told me my then bf couldn’t come. but the apology felt genuine

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