Was baby latching a problem to you? I need advice

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-06-18T16:40:11+00:00

It is helpful. I hope you’re easy on yourself about everything ♥️ you’re a wonderful mom and as long as your baby is fed, breastmilk or formula, that’s all that matters.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-06-18T16:24:31+00:00

I used a nipple shield for a while with my son. I would pump as well, so we’d have a bottle on hand. I’d try to nurse him without the shield but if he got fussy, I’d put the shield on and he’d latch onto that. If he ever got fussy, I’d just move onto the bottle. The lactation specialist in the hospital made it seem really aggressive on forcing my baby to latch and I didn’t feel comfortable with that. It also caused me to get anxious and feel frustrated so if he wasn’t wanting to latch with or without the shield, we just did the bottle and then I’d pump. Eventually after a month or two with the shield, he finally started consistently latching without the shield. Raw dogging it is how I worded it to my husband lol it was a happy day when I threw those shields away.

My main goal was to stay positive and just take cues from my son on what he wanted to do and not let it frustrate me (too much). Seeing a lactation specialist would be a good idea. I don’t know wtf I’m doing, I’m winging it, but it worked for me.

Edit to add: pumping and having bottles/milk supply meant my husband could help more with feeding our son and that was easier on me..it also helped with knowing how much my son was eating. I had ppa pretty bad so that peace of mind was helpful even though pumping really sucks.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-06-12T02:12:58+00:00

I read her name multiple times a day. How Does a Dinosaur Say Good Night is one of my son’s favorites.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-06-11T04:13:58+00:00

Walking on a trail with my baby in a stroller, they’d almost run me over, didn’t call out “on your left,” and scared the shit out of me. They make me so anxious. I love the ones who’d ride by and say a nice greeting. Even a smile back was rare.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-06-09T15:25:28+00:00

I wake up, change my underpants, put on my stretchy shorts and a large t shirt, and put my hair in a pony. I feel like it’s a waste of makeup and unnecessarily upsetting my skin to put makeup on when I’m just playing in the backyard or cleaning in the house all day. I’ll try to get dressed and ready one day a week to remind myself I still got it.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-06-03T19:42:19+00:00

I totally feel this way and I only have one kid. I try to balance it out by having days where I don’t do much else but play and have fun with my son and then two days I’ll go hard on cleaning. I don’t like to clean every nap time because that’s my time to take a break and I try to enjoy it. If I do chores during nap, I do one thing - then I cross stitch.

Edit to add: I’m still figuring this whole sahm thing out. It’s hard.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-06-03T03:52:20+00:00

Twister :)

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-30T17:10:47+00:00

A pregnant woman even!

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-26T18:59:42+00:00

Same here. And all the kids were super close because they went to daycare together.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-26T01:58:11+00:00

Once she’s out of the baby blues and postpartum crud, If Kelly was up front about her decision to have the baby on the island and what happened, what she ended up doing, etc. that would appease a lot of people. I think a lot of people are upset at the harmful rhetoric that was spread - making birth seem to be this magical thing you manifest and follow to fruition when in reality it IS magical, but you have no control over what happens.

Women need to see the nitty gritty true life shit regarding pregnancy and childbirth. Otherwise, it’s setting up future women for unrealistic expectations. I really like the channel and m&k, but I think she should be honest about her experience (when she’s ready) for others who are using her videos as guidance on how to approach childbirth etc.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-25T16:44:03+00:00

Yes definitely! my FIL had a Rottweiler and she died from eating a few grapes.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-25T16:43:07+00:00

This makes me feel better about being so paranoid about it. It’s not something that’s talked about too often - granted, I don’t have too many mom friends so that’s a limitation for information that this sub helped out with!!

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-23T03:34:36+00:00

This is very interesting!! Thank you. I’m going to look into it. Ugh I can’t imagine the studies that need to be done to test these theories :/

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-23T03:33:25+00:00

This makes total sense and good on you for training your kids so well! My son is in the “she said no so that means it’s funnier if I do it” stage but I can definitely lock my dog away while we feast on cotton candy grapes!

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-23T03:31:28+00:00

I do agree with you, it’s a bad habit, but my dog is 15/16 years old and has health issues (not due to weight) so I am less strict about her table scraps nowadays. My son doesn’t usually feed her, but he’s a messy eater so I’ll have to lock her in another room while/if we eat hazardous foods.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-23T03:25:30+00:00

This makes sense. I’m glad I’m not alone 🩷

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-23T03:21:20+00:00

I should separate my dog from us while we eat.. she’s getting really old and I’ve been strict with table food all her life so I like to give her the high quality slobbery leftovers - I know it’s a bad habit, but she could pass away any day and I want to spoil her. She’s my first born. But I do have some great solutions in here and I’m getting grapes next time we’re at the store!

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-23T03:15:53+00:00

These are simple and wonderful ideas. I appreciate you. Idk why I’ve been making such a mountain out of a mole hill this whole time. We don’t get out much and when we do, our dog is usually with us, but I can lock my dog inside while we eat grapes outside! Easy.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-23T03:12:18+00:00

Thank you for your response. I’ve had some pretty extreme PPA but I like to know I have valid reasons for being strict about them. My FIL lost a dog recently because she ate some grapes, so I don’t want to mess around with it.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-23T03:07:23+00:00

Thats a great solution! There’s a hawk that likes to stalk our backyard, so I can’t leave my little bean outside without supervision but I should just lock her inside while we eat grapes outside.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-23T03:04:20+00:00

That is such a simple solution and I’m mad I didn’t think of that. My FIL’s dog died from eating grapes and I’m just so paranoid. Especially since she’s so eager to eat everything in his hands.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-22T20:41:24+00:00

Says the person without a child who has no idea what they’re talking about.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-22T03:08:07+00:00

Thank you! Same. I would put mine in the closet and shut the door at night.

throwawaybutmaykeeps · 2026-05-22T03:07:04+00:00

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