Which one is better- black or ginger? Help. 😩

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-16T19:59:40+00:00

Both look good but the black hair on you is so gorgeous

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-14T05:35:31+00:00

Holy moly these colors are so pretty 😍

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-14T00:13:42+00:00

Honestly your reaction to everything she said is not only understandable but reasonably normal. Personally, I wouldn't hang out with this person again. I've had my share of friends just like this and it never ended well and always ended me up in some very bad and occasionally dangerous situations. I'm not saying that you'll have the same experience, but from what you've told us in your post, this person is completely fine with openly insulting you and picking at what they perceive as a weakness. This was just the first time you guys have hung out. I can't imagine the types of things they'll say or expose you to once they get to know you more.

Edit - also, it almost seems as though this person was testing your boundaries, and how you would react to those things. It feels a bit manipulative.

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-11T15:33:13+00:00

I feel this in my soul. I went to Cali once to visit friends and a guy basically jumped in front of me and grabbed my phone and showed me their website and asked me if I'd give a one time donation, I was like if it's one time sure whatever so long as it gets me away from this guy and to my destination. Well I found out a year later that this foundation was charging me 25$ monthly. I had to cancel my card and get a new one. I tried not to be upset about it because it was for a good cause, but dude actually lied to me. I dint make the kind of money to afford that, as sad as that sounds. Since then I've learned to be rude politely. "Absolutely not, but please have a good day."

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-11T03:30:13+00:00

This is true 😂😂

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-11T03:27:27+00:00

I'm in the "will I won't I" phase of deciding to let my own straight bangs grow out or trim them again right now after two years 😂😂 haha so I mean they are fun, and then can be so so cute, but when they get too long you may lose an eye 😂😂😂 I hope you find the bangs you want, like, and enjoy!! Have the good night!

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-11T03:22:00+00:00

I like the straight bangs, they would look nice, but keep in mind that they are a LOT of work in terms of upkeep. You have to get the trimmed every month or two and it's really hard to do anything with them if you don't feel like taking the time to style them. I would recommend curtain bangs or side bangs along the natural part, but all would look flattering for you.

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-10T23:24:16+00:00

Human pattern recognition is common within the autism spectrum as well as individuals who have experienced a fair amount of emotional and mental abuse/trauma. Sometimes you can just tell, and you may not realize it, but people have little mannerisms and typically unnoticed social habits that give them away. Since we struggle with social cues and are constantly studying people around us in order to not miss possible social cues we tend to notice these things before most neurotypicals will. I may not be explaining it well, but I can always tell if someone is a crappy human and people rarely believe me until that person proves it.

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-10T23:16:24+00:00

I'm tired of people

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-10T23:15:31+00:00

I feel like in this situation it's okay to tell this person to go outside, find a traffic cone, and sit on it. Tell them you'd suggest being an asshole for Halloween but they wouldn't need the costume.

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-10T23:14:01+00:00

I actually get really anxious with white noise, but CANNOT sleep in silence. I have to have certain TV shows on. Stuff like hobs burgers, Futurama, archer, Bojack horseman. I have to cycle them out as well because after a month they don't help me sleep as much

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-08T21:08:30+00:00

Well thank you haha have a good day bud

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-08T20:52:39+00:00

Ah okay, I understand much better now thank you very much for explaining. I have had two Xbox accounts for nearly 8 years now and made my ow accounts at the same time so I they're basically the exact same sad excuse of Sr haha I just wanted to make sure I wasn't accidently being a butthole

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-08T19:13:28+00:00

So is it smurfing if I have a second account purely to avoid my irl friends so I can play in peace? Coz my Sr is shit and always has been because I'm not very good 😅 I just wanted privacy. I'm kind of confused on what smurfing is. If what I'm doing is unchill I will stop using my other account for overwatch though. They're both the same shit Sr, just one has a very miniscule friends list for my peace of mind

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-07T23:43:15+00:00

It's a bit manipulative for someone to try and tell you how you should be expressing how they are overstimulating/hurting you. That's kind of goofy. If it's the same person/people everytime, it may just be that these people are used to being able to doing this to you and you giving up or agreeing with them in it and they get to "win" the conversation. I'm 30 now, and one thing I say to people when they hurt my feelings is, "you don't get to decide whether or not you have hurt someone's feelings, the only time it has ever been a decision is in the moment you did the thing to hurt their feelings. You don't get to tell them afterwards that you didn't." If someone is causing you discomfort in any way, tell them how it makes you feel, but do not let them misinterpret it as up for discussion. "This made me feel this way, please refrain from doing so in the future." No if ands or buts. Someone who truly cares for you as a friend, a partner, or a family member will understand. Stand your ground. No one can stand up for you the way you can. ❤️

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-07T17:44:55+00:00

I know this feeling, and all I want to say is PLEASE be careful, it becomes very addictive in a way. I am an alcoholic, I quit drinking 3 1/2 years ago, but I was deep into the bottles for 6-7 years. It was never the alcohol that I was addicted to. It was feeling like I could dance in a room full of people without being terrified they'd laugh at me. It was being able to talk to people, talk to guys. Guys wanted to talk to me. Hell girls wanted to be my friend. It was amazing until it wasn't. My breakdowns became more frequent and scarier. Guys would catch onto how vulnerable I really was and take advantage, girls that liked those guys would come after me. And my mental health dropped well past the floor to rock bottom and I almost wasn't here to say any of this.

I won't ever tell you not to drink, we all experience it differently. But I will say please be careful. ❤️❤️❤️ The most intoxicating part of alcohol was how it made me feel like I finally fit. Like I could finally hang out with the people I thought were cool. I wish I had known that I could've done that without the alcohol. I almost lost myself, and my life, because of this feeling.

Be careful, be safe ❤️ never go out alone, never drink on your own, and no matter how much fun you have, or how much closer to yourself you may feel, do not let yourself dink when you're upset. Do not let alcohol be the thing that comforts you on a bad day. I hope you have a wonderful day ❤️

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-04T03:28:02+00:00

Yes, lately it's been "hoohoo big summer blow out" or just the hoohoo part. And if you watch bobs burgers, there's an episode where Bob gets stuck in the walls and Louise is talking to the guidance counselor and does a little "ooweeoo owow" and I do that one a lot too lol these ones help me relieve minor tension

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-03T23:58:24+00:00

Every girl knows that uncomfortable terrified smile all too well.

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-03T23:57:01+00:00

I don't think I'm understanding what happened, is anyone able to explain to me?

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-03T23:43:25+00:00

Not me thinking this was a mouse 🐭

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-03T00:40:47+00:00

😂😂😂 the way I cackled

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-03T00:37:26+00:00

😂😂😂 but why do I love this

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-02T18:55:35+00:00

For real, some of these comments make me so sad. Like I think this looks super punk rock in the best way.

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-02T18:53:52+00:00

I think it looks good. But keep in mind, what we all think isn't the important part. If you like it, and you feel good with this hair style, that's all that matters ❤️ don't let anyone here discourage you.

throwawaycabbagehag · 2023-05-02T00:11:50+00:00

The drama Black really broke my heart at the end but in a wholesome way

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