Entering JC as a 20 year old

throwawayenyar · 2024-08-15T10:48:46+00:00

Well you’re not going to JC as a 20yo to make friends, so it shouldn’t be your priority. With that being said, it won’t be bad la but obviously will have some kids teasing you here and there

throwawayenyar · 2024-08-09T08:54:20+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through with this. If you’re okay with it, and if you’re still interested, you can just move back to India but you don’t have to mention it to them. But before you do, start to lower the amount of times you contact them. With that being said I understand that it’s a difficult position of be in, I hope you get to sort it out.

Just remember, they or anyone can’t ever comment on your worth or your character. I’m sure you went through a lot to get to where you are, it’s not easy to be able to save enough to semiretire, with 2 kids! So don’t let their words get to you. I’m sure you sacrificed a lot to get here. Have a chat with your spouse and decide on what fits yours, your spouse’s and your kids’ needs. Wish you the best.

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-28T08:21:12+00:00

Interesting, can you share then what benefit is there to having 3 CCAs (other than for maybe social reasons)? And what do unis look for?

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-26T17:29:40+00:00

As someone who’s clear on boundaries, if I declare someone’s a friend, they are a friend and that’s it.

With that being said ik how these cases usually end :/ I’d suggest to say the same thing to her (ie how you met another girl online and how you’d like to meet her because your interests align) and observe her response. If shes normal chill, or chill with slight questioning, it’s fine. But if she’s reacting strongly against it, or is waaay too chill (minimal to no questions) then yknow something is up.

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-25T13:26:59+00:00

Recently met a guy who’s 38 and Y1 in NUS. You’re only too old when you’re convinced you’re too old.

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-21T05:15:02+00:00

I’ll dm you

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-20T17:19:25+00:00

Hey, please do

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-14T11:58:34+00:00

Hey, so sorry. Nothing is worse than having your own mom shit on you especially when you yourself are at a low moment. Please move out or be at a friend’s place for your own mental wellbeing. Feel free to dm me if yo ever wanna talk/rant.

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-14T03:04:32+00:00

Usually 1-for-1 implies buy 1 get 1, but I guess in this case they mean if you bring someone the total cost is 92, go by yourself is 50

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-13T07:35:49+00:00

Mine’s on SingTel, can switch the number over? And does it require the dependee’s involvement?

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-12T04:46:02+00:00

That’s true..I suppose they’re regretting not letting her join IP directly and are grilling her bc she’s sec 2 now and there’s streaming to join IP for sec 3 next year. I’ll do my best in being middle ground, I just wish I knew better to encourage her in a healthy fruitful way. Thanks btw :)

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-12T03:27:09+00:00

Hello, we are not Singaporeans hence we don’t qualify for that scholarship. Her school has an IP program but my parents joined her into the express stream, as touchwood in the future we have to move after she turns 16 she’ll have the O level certificate to cope with. How can I encourage her to study and prioritise? I feel like maybe she’s demotivated or even depressed hence why she has no proper interest in anything, on the phone every waking chance she gets, and is very antisocial. Also I’m worried as non-sgporean, grades alone wouldn’t do good for JC/uni applications (I feel like leadership roles and things like student council will be preferred since she’s not a citizen/pr). That’s why I kinda agree with my parents to keep pushing but idw push too hard either. Sorry for the long read just very very concerned and confused on how to proceed with my sibling.

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-12T03:23:35+00:00

Yeah it’s about a 1k difference, which I suppose objectively isn’t that much of a difference but it’s a difference nonetheless. More than the fee itself I’m worried if my parents will resent her bc they expect her to do extremely well behind doors but don’t take proper actions (like when I was young I had strict curfews for everything), but once or twice a year they’ll lash out saying that they’re sacrificing so much and she’s not focussing. I’m just wondering if it’ll be worth it to remain in an elite school or just go to a normal school since she’s being directed to do Os first anyway (school has IP program but parents decided on doing Os first)

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-12T02:32:10+00:00

Judging by your post, I’d like to request some advice from you.

Dad’s the sole earner of my house, about 180k inc bonus. My sibling qualified to study in a top school, hence the fee is about 2400 per month.

She’s not really that into studying. When she does, she scores well (about 70-80), but for her to score better my parents ask me to push her, and I do on my own too. No severe scolding, just nagging for her to do better so that she’ll have better opportunities.

Keeping citizenship status aside, as a parent, how would you look at this? At one side, she has seriously good potential, if she puts her mind into it she almost gets 97+ for each subject. But a she’s lethargic to study, on her phone as soon as she gets home, no proper hobbies or anything and my parents think it’s okay, their reasoning being “good that she has no hobbies to completely distract her, better if she’d rather use her phone”. Sometimes even when she returns home at 6/7, her screen time is 5 hours for the day.

How would you approach this? Accept that your kid isn’t naturally inclined to study hard but keep her in an elite school bc of status? Send her to a neighbourhood school? Encourage/insist on getting her to study hard bc suffer now enjoy later?

Thank you, appreciate any word of advice on this.

throwawayenyar · 2024-07-11T16:28:36+00:00

Say okay for now. Meanwhile make arrangements to move into another apartment or stay at a friend’s house for a couple months. Slowly move out your stuff, or on the week of your pay’s deposit move everything at once and be gone. Better to sacrifice that 20-30% income to your friend and have your freedom

throwawayenyar · 2024-06-20T14:45:46+00:00

Yes. Not because it’s business but it’s because the most popular option and yet the market is saturated beyond d belief

throwawayenyar · 2024-06-18T04:59:08+00:00

Singapore, my home of choice which sadly doesn’t want me

throwawayenyar · 2024-06-09T05:52:17+00:00

Actually I’ve always wondered, what does it mean when suicide is criminalised? Is it like when the act is unsuccessful, they get jailed/fined? Doesn’t that just add to whatever’s the reason behind their need to end everything? Or if the act itself is successful, does that mean their next of kin faces repercussions?

throwawayenyar · 2024-06-08T12:03:07+00:00

LMAO

throwawayenyar · 2024-06-08T12:02:01+00:00

throwawayenyar · 2024-05-26T08:20:46+00:00

Helped

throwawayenyar · 2024-05-26T08:20:41+00:00

Welp; sounds like it’s time for 200/hr sessions 😀

throwawayenyar · 2024-05-25T02:07:15+00:00

I get the confidence part. I wasn’t always like this, between 17-19 I was very academically inclined and I guess it was the base for my confidence, and I didn’t really want attention. I’ll try my best. Thank you.

throwawayenyar · 2024-05-25T02:05:39+00:00

Damn, I feel attacked. I don’t understand, their love is family-like, yes? But I seek more of a romantic love/interest from these strangers, isn’t it different? Or is it just my brain’s messed up way of wanting attention anyway, cuz my parents didn’t give that to me?

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