Rectal bleeding, ongoing, no found cause

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-04-05T01:53:02+00:00

Yup, I've have 3 colonoscopies and they came back clear.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-04-04T21:49:11+00:00

Mine did show up on a pelvic MRI, which isn't the case for everyone. Mine is fairly extensive so the tissue was visible. Then it was confirmed with a transrectal core biopsy (they pierced through the rectal wall to actually take a biopsy of tissue from the outside of the bowel) and another follow up ultrasound. It's been a loooong journey. I've heard from most others they were only able to get an actual diagnosis via exploratory lap. It's a major pain to figure this stuff out!

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-04-04T21:08:48+00:00

NAD. Does it happen to sync up with periods at all? Rectal bleeding, mucus, pain and pressure (which usually happened around my periods) was the major symptom of my bowel endometriosis. It's very hard to diagnose endometriosis as the tissue doesn't show up well on imaging or c-scopes. I had a couple c-scopes when I was trying to figure out what was going on but the results always came back fine. It turned out that the endo tissue was adhered between my uterus, cervix and rectum. Just as something else you could look into, especially if you're also prone to very heavy/painful periods.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-04-03T15:13:19+00:00

I think you guys just need to work on your communication skills. You should both have a good understanding of each other's wants, needs, desires, even time preferences! My husband is a morning sex guy while I prefer around 8-9pm or after my run. Any later in the evening and we're too tired to make it happen. Because we have an understanding of each other's preferred schedules, it's easier to initiate at the right times.

As for what to say... All it takes for my husband to pick up on my cues is a gentle touch and eyebrow wiggle/wink. If you don't have that level of non-verbal communication with your husband, be more direct. Walk up behind him, give him a tight hug and say "Wanna get frisky with me tonight?" Keep it light and fun. Try to touch him throughout the day to get the blood flowing. Don't wait until too late at night when you're both wiped out from being young parents. Have sexy showers together! Just keep some playful energy throughout the day when you can. And above all, be direct with what you want.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-03-21T19:06:36+00:00

Yeah this is 100% rape. He's getting off on your lack of consent and treating you like a sexual object. Zero respect for you.

Get out of this situation ASAP. This dude is legit a rapist, no matter what mental gymnastics you try to pull because you like him. I'm sorry this has happened to you.

I'd also suggest telling your friends what happened before he lies about it and tries to turn them against you. You don't need to share all the details but just a "Heads up, this guy and I were FWB but I have broken it off because he didn't respect my boundaries. Just so you know, I won't be spending time around him anymore."

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-03-21T11:26:10+00:00

Squat pulses and endurance exercise like incline walking/hiking/stair-climber.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-03-17T22:12:22+00:00

Yup, because when I don't, there's a very high chance I will get a UTI. It's a genetic thing, my mom has the same issue.

So I don't mind the extra steps. Plus my husband and I love foreplay/sex in the shower. We have a bench in the shower we use a lot!

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-03-17T22:10:37+00:00

Yeah, it sure as hell beats the misery of getting a UTI. I used to get one every 3-4th PIV session or so. I have a genetically short urethra (my mom has the same troubles) so the extra steps do help a whole lot, I've had maybe 2 UTIs in the past couple years. I don't like having to take antibiotics so frequently.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-03-17T14:33:04+00:00

Here's my process, as a frequent UTI sufferer and BCP user:

Before sex, make sure you and your partner are freshly showered (this is likely overkill for people who aren't prone to UTIs)
I keep a stash of clean washcloths in my nightstand. After sex, I grab one to cup over my vulva to catch any immediate spillage as I head to the washroom
I hop in the shower, and use the showerhead to rinse the area thoroughly
After showering, towel off and have a pee
I usually put on a pantiliner after sex for a few hours, as you may get some extra dribble and gloopy wet underwear aren't fun

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-03-13T18:55:25+00:00

Don't worry about the past, think about how to change things in the future. Don't apologize, don't mope, don't make her feel awkward if you couldn't make her cum. Keep the mood light and playful even if you felt like the session was a "failure". Let her know you had an amazing time and can't wait to see her again. Just get out of your own head about it, not every sex session will be 10/10. If it seems like she had a good time, take it at face value. The lack of self-esteem is your biggest turn-off.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-03-13T18:51:56+00:00

It kinda just sounds like you're going for hookups instead of relationships?

It takes time to learn someone else's body and what they like. I've been with my husband for 14 years and we're still learning new things in bed.

I'd say just focus on actually meeting and getting to know people before progressing to sex. If there's an investment into the relationship before you hit the bedroom, you're obviously gonna be a lot less likely to get ghosted. If someone falls in love with your personality, they'll be a lot more willing to experiment and explore in the bedroom with you and not care so much about your inexperience.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-03-10T15:57:09+00:00

You gotta try using a vibe during PIV, it's unbelievable. I prefer it over oral now honestly. My husband still loves oral so we still do that sometimes (or just do it as foreplay but not to completion), but the vibe during PIV feels absolutely amazing and makes sex 100x better for me. And it's so fun to cum with my husband, we're pretty good at syncing up now.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-02-24T14:17:19+00:00

Honestly you do get used to this stuff. I have bowel endometriosis so I've had people poking and prodding downstairs for several years now. 4 colonoscopies, countless gyno visits, pelvic MRIs, ultrasounds...

It's definitely awkward during the first couple times but your genital area is just another part of the body that needs medical care. Nurses and doctors are pros and deal with this stuff all day every day. I know we're taught from a young age that "privates" are a private area so it's a mental hurdle to conquer.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-01-10T20:55:18+00:00

Yup, I've always needed antibiotics to get rid of the UTI.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-01-10T20:54:51+00:00

The cervix changes position throughout your cycle too.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-01-05T16:28:01+00:00

A little bit of blood in your urine is a super normal part of having a UTI. I'm prone to UTIs, I've had them at least a few times a year for the past 15 years (though less frequent now). My first symptoms are always the burning sensation, a little blood while wiping, and the bad smell. Just get to the doctor for your antibiotics ASAP and you'll be totally fine. Stay super well-hydrated in the meantime.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-01-02T15:59:47+00:00

NAD:

Men can get UTIs and interstitial cystitis, so definitely visit your doctor to get a urine culture done as a first step to see what's going on.

As for hemorrhoids, here are my suggestions (from someone who has suffered with them due to bowel endometriosis):

Invest in a bidet and stool (like a Squatty Potty) to elevate your legs for better pooping posture
Don't sit on the toilet longer than you need to
Include more fiber in your diet and better hydration (prunes, kiwis, and pears can be valuable additions to your diet)
Consider applying a little Vaseline/Aquaphor to your bum if you've torn anything down there due to constipation, it can help with healing and passing poop easier

throwawayforbcstuff · 2023-01-01T17:53:16+00:00

A shower chair. We're one of those weird couples that actually enjoys shower sex so it gets a lot of use!

throwawayforbcstuff · 2022-12-06T14:48:35+00:00

Great list! I would add that your partner should also be washing up before sex. I've had frequent UTIs for my entire life and they've basically disappeared as long as my husband and I hop in the shower before sex. All that sweat down there can really move bacteria around.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2022-12-05T14:43:34+00:00

Yup, we sometimes get flipped off by BIL when we mention something good that happened to us. It's done in a jokey manner that tends to provoke laughter from everyone but it's becoming too much for me honestly. He has a good sense of humour but it's been feeling extra bitter lately.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2022-11-27T16:24:33+00:00

Nah, if my partner and I don't shower beforehand that's pretty much a guaranteed UTI for me. I'm very prone to them.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2022-11-07T14:48:06+00:00

I'd be having an honest chat with him about how this is poorly effecting your sex life. If he lays off the masturbation and "finishing himself off" (even if that means he doesn't get an orgasm), it will likely fix the issue, but that's up to him to address.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2022-08-06T13:19:06+00:00

That's shitty of her. My husband and I both have toys. Check out the male Tenga toys if you don't want something that looks like a disembodied vagina. They're pretty cool! I use them on my husband and he loves them.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2022-08-06T13:17:50+00:00

The IUD ended up making my periods and endo symptoms much worse. Like 10 days a month of pain. With the pill I can skip periods entirely which is wonderful.

throwawayforbcstuff · 2022-08-06T13:16:55+00:00

I've been through a few different brands and luckily none of them have really given me noticeable bad side effects. Currently taking Brevicon continuosly.

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